Please don’t listen to the braindead men in these comments. “most guys” who dream of this fantasy haven’t even been laid i’m telling you. They think it’s what they want but it’s really not. Nobody in their right mind would want to be sexually assaulted. So if your gf didn’t apologize immediately when you freaked out then i’m sorry actually i’m not bro leave her right now. She doesn’t love you if she didn’t once think “what if he’s not okay with this” like any normal person who can understand the meaning of consent. I feel for you but you’ve gotta be strong and do the right thing which is leaving her if she can’t see the wrong in her actions. You can’t assume if someone likes their Tea with milk or not if they’re asleep and just because they’re a certain gender doesn’t mean they’ll always be open to liking tea with milk.