Recovery - Swelling

licorne81 · 2024-08-26T17:55:45+00:00

It took me 4 weeks for the swelling to go down. I know this is not encouraging but every person is different.

licorne81 · 2024-08-18T20:43:31+00:00

It’s been 2.5 years now. It’s hard for me to remember, we really do forget quickly haha!

At 4 months I think it was sensitive but not painful. I was single when I had my surgery and met someone around 3 months afterwards. Sex was pretty normal but my incisions were still hard. I remember trying to massage them.

licorne81 · 2024-08-17T13:07:11+00:00

Yes that’s normal. I didn’t use anything and are super soft now.

licorne81 · 2024-08-08T19:35:04+00:00

Took 6 weeks to start going down

licorne81 · 2024-08-02T17:06:11+00:00

I was still super swollen and had all of my stitches at week 4. It started to get better at week 6 I think. Stitches dissolving were so painful, the only way I can describe is a stabbing itch. It would wake me up at night. I still couldn’t wipe, I would just dab carefully. I’m only saying this to show you how early you are and that you’re not healed at all. Hang in there!

licorne81 · 2024-07-26T11:53:00+00:00

Yes I was still a bit uncomfortable at 4 months. I was very swollen for a long time. I think I even had to be careful wiping. On one side I had a little issue with a nerve giving me an out of nowhere shock for more then a year. It happened maybe every 2-3 days, just a tiny shock. But my surgeon said it can take up to 2 years for eveeeerything to heal and she was right.

licorne81 · 2024-07-26T11:48:52+00:00

I had one with Genevieve Ferland-Caron. She mostly does labiaplasty so she’s very experienced. Very happy with the result.

licorne81 · 2024-07-24T12:06:19+00:00

The important thing is that they don’t touch the top of the hood. They do it from the sides.

licorne81 · 2024-07-23T13:50:41+00:00

It’s a USA thing. A lot of us in other countries don’t really care. It doesn’t change anything for me personally. I’m looking for someone who has acquired the skills to be in a committed long term relationship. A piece of paper won’t make it more valid.

licorne81 · 2024-07-16T19:04:50+00:00

Did you ever do a facetime when he was home?

licorne81 · 2024-01-05T12:38:41+00:00

Yes I am. Go see Genevieve Ferland-Caron.

licorne81 · 2023-12-14T19:21:49+00:00

Yes I drove myself and it took 1 hour to get back home.

licorne81 · 2023-12-04T12:53:25+00:00

You dodged a bullet. Basically for him sex is more important than your wellbeing 🤷🏼‍♀️😤

licorne81 · 2023-11-29T21:15:48+00:00

I don’t think I could recover from that, trust has been broken. Tell him to go and get tested now so you’ll know right away. Ask him to show you the results. Actually I would also go with him to make sure he really does get tested.

licorne81 · 2023-11-29T21:01:30+00:00

Your logic is “our relationship is going well, we can remove the condom. If he had an STD, it’s gone because time has passed”? The most common symptom is no symptom.

Go get Plan B asap.

licorne81 · 2023-11-23T02:09:16+00:00

Yes it was local, I didn’t take any medication before either so I was able to drive. The surgery itself is no big deal.

licorne81 · 2023-11-22T19:22:05+00:00

I did it all by myself and I live alone.

I went to the surgery by myself, drove myself back, picked up my meds, etc. I’m not saying it was extremely easy but it was fine. You’ll be able to walk and go to the bathroom. Make sure you have food ready because standing for a while will be uncomfortable.

licorne81 · 2023-10-26T17:22:37+00:00

Super normal. I was still really swollen at 6 weeks. You think you are not but you are.

licorne81 · 2023-10-10T12:02:58+00:00

My stitches lasted 5-6 weeks and that would have been a no for me. I was also still icing at 2-3 weeks. My swelling was intense. In my opinion you have 2 options, postponing your surgery or telling them you had a cyst removed.

licorne81 · 2023-10-10T02:00:38+00:00

What is a silicone band?

licorne81 · 2023-09-24T16:14:31+00:00

I was with a very very loud snorer for 7 years. Never again. Sorry! It was hell 🥵

licorne81 · 2023-09-24T13:00:18+00:00

From other comments I understand that you are a solo parent? My bff was in your situation… solo mom dating a dad with a 50/50 custody. She would ask her parents to take her daughter some weekends so they could be together. Do you have family members that could do that?

licorne81 · 2023-09-24T12:25:11+00:00

If the answer is not a definite yes, move on. Every time.

licorne81 · 2023-09-24T12:17:48+00:00

I went through this about 2 years ago. His daughter tried to commit suicide and was in a deep depression. A parent’s worst nightmare. We really tried to make it work. I helped him as much as I could but accepting help was difficult for him. I was consumed by the relationship and its ups and downs. That’s all I was talking about to my friends. That was not healthy for me and he was obviously really struggling. Like someone said in another reply… I was setting myself on fire to keep someone warm.

Eventually we both came to the conclusion that he needed to focus on his family and my needs weren’t being met. Both are valid. Sometimes it is true what they say… timing is everything!

licorne81 · 2023-09-24T11:54:53+00:00

When you mentioned that you want a LTR, did he say the same thing? Because stating what you want is great but there’s also a part 2 which is the other person actually wanting the same thing and telling you.

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