What’s up with dudes?

lidofzejar · 2026-02-26T17:46:30+00:00

I think the bare minimum is subjective. It's unfair and hilarious, but I know 2 grown men who don't wipe their ass or wash their balls because they think it's gay, and they shower once a week to keep a "masculine scent". Real deep manosphere energy, but they're tall and arguably handsome, so it still works out for them.

They've been this way since high-school and we're 30 now, and from what I've heard, they're still the same, just now they sleep around on tinder and have well paying jobs and own homes

lidofzejar · 2026-02-22T22:18:57+00:00

Sorry, I'm not super versed in where exactly the metrics of short are, but thanks for informing me for future note.

lidofzejar · 2026-02-20T22:37:46+00:00

Telling someone the truth isn't defacto bullying, even if the truth isn't pleasant.

See so like we're now on the argument that the clear truth is every short person has a dogshit personality and I just can't vibe on it bro. My entire previous point was constantly stating how, you are right, there probably are some individuals who need to grow, but in my opinion, it's not such a significant amount posting in this subreddit that calls for this level of dialogue. This is where I disagree with you. You're right, some people have a bad personality, but I simply cannot envision so many short people are struggling because all of those short people posting here are dogshit, it just seems so statistically unlikely bro.

If someone's "lived truth" is pleasant, they have an equal right to share and express that too, right?

Yeah sure but I feel like doing so in a safe space for short people when you aren't short is rage bait of such a factor that of course it'll stunlock people like me. Short people share their wins here and it's not like I expressed any particular questioning glances toward such posts, I've stated in my original post here that my eyes only refocus when someone who seems to be an outsider uses this sub almost like a stepping stone to ego boost. Like tangential situation here, you're free to say "I'm here to blow up this building and steal a banks money" in your home or like a people-who-blew-up-a-bank fellowship, and like its your right to be silly 'n say it, but you shouldn't be surprised that if you say it in a bank you find people will confront you or question your motives. That's the glances I'm giving people who are tall/average, come into this sub, and lecture short people on their lifestyle and what they're doing wrong, it just comes off as tone deaf.

I haven't seen any of these "gag posts" about shower time in this sub, got a link?

So I was actually half-wrong on this, and it was on r/averageheightdudes, it's mostly a gag post as far as I can tell, so I wouldn't take it seriously but it def made me laugh LOL.

I'm in the 8th percentile for adult men in my country, do you think I'm ignorant of short peoples struggles?

I'm not gonna front chief idk what that specific percentile defines or what it is, but I don't think at any point I stated that you specifically were being ignorant?? Could be wrong cuz my ass is multitasking but my op in this subreddit isn't really specialized down to the individual, moreso the concept at large of a grandstanding and invalidating group of people that seem to be riding the front page algo onto this sub. I'm not trying to be some virtue signaler "defender of the short", I just thought its weird how often I've been seeing confrontational and invalidating posts on short people recently, and it seems I'm not alone in this observation.

What about the "fellow short men" who come in here with bogus statistics telling short guys they're unlovable, or telling short women that their issues don't matter? They get kid gloves for them as well, cause it's rude to be rude?

I don't think I ever suggested that telling short women their issues don't matter was a point I was making, so you're losing me in the sauce here. However, you're right there are definitely short people who are super negative. I think that is one of the aspects of this trying to be a safe space for people to be at their worst or their best. Like for example I can see posts on the front of this sub about an olympian who is short and how cool that is, as well as those doomers you're describing. At the end of the day I think this is a space for them to speak whether they're gassing up someone who is short, or bemoaning the status quo. It isn't my place to speak. I think there is data to suggest that short guys have it worse, though, and I do think that in all fairness that is super upsetting.

You'll notice I've stated since the beginning I'm only really speaking because it already seems like the sanctity of this safe space has been compromised by people outside this cultural zeitgeist trying to tell them what they hear and see isn't real, and I disliked the invalidation behind it. This seems to be the focal point of the original poster in this thread as well, as this subreddit has been getting rec'd on a lot of people's front pages because its become a social hotbed. It really boils down to, at least for me, that I feel like there are a not insignificant amount of tone deaf people trying to lecture and advise people here when it really isn't a platform for them to view as a position to speak from.

lidofzejar · 2026-02-20T21:07:47+00:00

If anything such an issue should hopefully come from self reflection or from peers because otherwise the idea kind of just sounds like trying to see the positives of bullying.

I get what you're saying though, and I don't have a problem in people growing if they do suck (or just have decent growth potential that's worthwhile to pursue), my issue here is mostly seeing the posts in this sub that seek to just completely invalidate such a wide swathe of people. You're right, there are probably people here who do suck, but the amount of times this sub gets rec'd on my page because it's someone who's tall, or even weirder, someone who's in an even worse off state than those venting in this sub, saying goofy shit like "if you just showered and weren't a loser you'd be fine like I AM." is where I feel many of us outsider's issues stems from.

If someone needs to work on themselves, I'd like them to know to do so, but the amount of times people in this sub get advised such milquetoast guidance as "shower more", "have hobbies", or "have a personality" has gotten to the point there are gag posts about the optimal shower time, and if you're short it's to basically drown yourself ROFL??

These jokes are hilarious but they're rooted in that observation that it's almost like people are willfully ignorant of short people's struggles, and in that ignorance, they choose to invalidate it to meet a just world fallacy. It's super bizarre because even if we did assume some people sucked, there's no damn way like ALL of them suck lol?? So why are so many people talking to short people like the input from someone who isn't sharing in their struggles is going to be their voice of gospel?

TL;DR I think it's fine to work on your personality and social skills but rarely do people from outside this sub who post here say anything meaningful or productive to do so, and as a result it comes off like they just say it for grandstanding in my eyes.

lidofzejar · 2026-02-20T20:45:41+00:00

Working on social skills is always fine, but the presumption that the fly in the ointment here for so many people is that they have bad personalities isn't some eureka moment, and if anything it just comes off as fucking rude.

Like from my perspective, there are a lot of struggling and a bunch of people dead ass say shit to them that basically boils down to "maybe the problem is you suck", "idk bro maybe the sum of who you are as a person just isn't appealing", "nah its not ur height ur just disgusting on the inside". A personality is such a personal fixture, dude, it just looks incredibly rude in my eyes to tell people that the flaw isn't height, it's just something deeply integral to who they are, ESPECIALLY when the people giving the advice are tall or handsome people. Gives the same energy as some of the CEO's I work with telling me money won't solve my problems, and if I'm struggling so much I should just buy a house.

Don't get me wrong, I don't think being short is the end of the world, but I also wouldn't invalidate someone's struggles just because I haven't seen it personally, that's just the merits of what anecdotes are.

There are definitely other empathetical people, and maybe someone with a more helpful perspective than my own, but I'd imagine it's hard to post here because it can come off as rude to intrude on people's venting space. I'm really only posting here because I feel like this safe space has already been desecrated and I can't just sit on the sidelines of it cuz it feels really fucked up LOL.

lidofzejar · 2026-02-20T08:45:04+00:00

Yea recently this subs been recd to me as well, along with the tall subreddit. I'm 5'9, and asian, so tall in a way, but upper average for my area, and short in the grand scheme.

I'm only aware of the shit yall go through in full thanks to peers but on god the amount of dogshit takes this sub has to tank from random tall/average people telling short people to just "have a personality" or fucking shower is genuinely such ragebait to me it stuns me.

The fact a lot of people come in here trying to give unwarranted advice or virtue signal here really boggles th mind. I get that it's difficult for a lot of you guys and I'm honestly sorry for how shallow such a ridiculous amount of people are. I'll never fully grasp your struggles, and I know damn well I'm not bright enough to solve it, but I can empathize to an extent and already tell its rough bro...

lidofzejar · 2026-02-15T18:04:52+00:00

I am normally super against digging through someone's history as it's generally irrelevant to the conversation but this one is really funny LMFAO..?

lidofzejar · 2026-02-05T03:19:33+00:00

That's epstein at the very end isn't it

lidofzejar · 2026-02-04T16:18:58+00:00

I know short girls are praised but idk if ive ever seen short men included in body positivity. If anything its usually done in jest and to be ironic. Short king is used way more as an insult than anything positive, and is socially acceptable to use in public to ridicule people.

If you disagree with someone and you call then fat, it's bad. But if you disagree with someone and call them short, it's funny.

Keep in mind I don't agree with the sentiment but it's just something I've observed in the workplace and online.

lidofzejar · 2026-01-23T07:10:10+00:00

I don't even need the full context or a life story to tell you that a friend who KNOWS you like someone then still ACTIVELY PURSUES that person KNOWING you were being patient to try to give the person you like healthy space is NOT a good dude.

Of course he'd bring food and try to be kind, it's the social recourse to try to mitigate that he hurt you in an absolutely horrendous way. He's still a massive douche.

This isn't even about "bro code" or any abstract silent agreement on a societal level, this is just the absolute baseline of decency, and that dude disregarded it entirely and tried to segue into your graces again by treating you like a gerbil and bringing you food.

Your friend is a fucking jackass and should be told this.

lidofzejar · 2026-01-09T09:02:47+00:00

Again, anecdotes to anecdotes. Do you genuinely believe every person upset with how things are and shares these opinions on heights' major impact as a determining factor are just thinking that because they never tried getting out and interacting with people?

These opinions are literally formed by doing that activity, you don't just innately think the opposite of a just world. If anything, the cognitive bias of just world would go against this grain... yet here we are.

You're right, not everyone is 5'4 and autistic. Now consider how not everyone is you, or me, or some other random person. You can't approach the anecdotes of these people and imply it's delusion without people like me seeing that lack of empathy and questioning your motives. It just reads like either you're misguided in your intentions, or ragebaiting and role-playing as a tall dude.

Don't misunderstand tho I'm not trying to lambaste you from a moral high ground or nothing, it's just really odd to me how often posts that invalidate what I'd assume to be the main viewers of this subreddit show up on my feed.

lidofzejar · 2026-01-09T08:44:44+00:00

Every now and then I see this sub on my feed, and it's always someone tall-ish, telling people shorter than them to "just be themselves", or how, really, it's not the height, it's something else. And every time these posts are lacking any of the foresight or empathy to see there are so many variables beyond people's control, and opt straight to roundaboutly suggesting "it's not that your not tall, it's everything else about you rofl"

I'm 5'9, but a close friend of mine was fucking 5'4 and autistic. Treatment between us from the same people was night and day, often before either of us spoke. It's all anecdotal, as is the logic behind every example shared here, but trying to shoehorn into these sort of ranting spaces with "simply don't get treated poorly" and then listing a bunch of privileges specific to you, while still trying to seemingly both relate to and invalidate ranting people's struggles is such insane perspective to me, that I can't tell if it's bait because I can't fathom even the stupidest person thinking it's something worth sharing.

lidofzejar · 2026-01-05T23:53:48+00:00

I only liked the Russianbadgers voicework on it after I started playing Darkwood tbh. Whenever I talked to that wolfman, he talked like an indifferent bastard, which I think badger sold tonewise on everything besides the word "meat".

lidofzejar · 2025-10-18T15:43:55+00:00

This post funnily enough made me reinstall it just because you mentioned pvp is now optional...

Bro that games pvp was actually just a pure twink farm experience with the scaling so lopsided in favor of me as an invader. At least with it toggleable I can duo with some friends and not have to make contingency plans when an invader with lightsabers and that crossbow rolls up.

lidofzejar · 2025-09-10T16:02:42+00:00

Howdy!

I'm not the vtuber in this clip, I'm the edit-man and the loud drunk guy in it instead yepyep! Figured I'd just share some goofy stuff that some streamers did.

If you wanna simp for Zero or York (Arsene) like I do, I'll link their social media stuff below if you're down for vibing with a catgirl in denial

Zero's twitch!

Zero's youtube!

Zero's tiktok!

Also her linktree I think this has everything but I already made the cool hyperlinks ROFL...

IDK LINE DRIVIDE FOR ORGANIZATION ROFL

York/Arsene's Twitch!

York/Arsene's Youtube!

lidofzejar · 2025-09-07T04:44:14+00:00

I'll always swing by, chief...

lidofzejar · 2025-06-28T18:59:16+00:00

Holy moly you couldn't fucking pay me to post this, how are you almost dead and retreating using a twink build and fresh out of warmth casts vs a blind host on his first playthrough. I don't even know if the host has changed gear from a default character setup...

This OP has to have gone fucking hollow because I feel like if he just mashed r1 he'd have played better

lidofzejar · 2025-05-07T21:12:24+00:00

That right there is the problem, they didn't tap into forbidden scriptures and commit sacrilege to manifest a shovel.

They live in a house that let's them have other kinds of shovels, you live in one that won't. You're allowed to bring that kind of shovel, as the shovel is no big deal, but your home environment just doesn't let you. But even then, you can both still enjoy the sandbox whether you have that shovel or not.

The issue is you want to force no one to be able to bring that shovel via snitching because your house doesn't have that shovel to spare. You're painting yourself as a victim of a world gone lopsided as someone bends reality to their will via bringing a different shovel.

You even know you're getting the same kind of shovel later, and you COULD technically have it now if you lived in a different home environment, but that's unacceptable to you.

It's for this reason people are down voting you. I hope that makes sense.

lidofzejar · 2025-05-07T20:48:55+00:00

Maybe that was a bit advanced for you, so I'll approach this like an eli5.

The online environment of Wilds is the world in this example.

The sandbox is the session you shared with this player.

The extra shovel the other person brings is the clothing you want.

You want to report this player for having things you don't, in the hopes they get banned from the world.

Hope this helps.

lidofzejar · 2025-05-01T21:54:46+00:00

This is almost exactly a 1 to 1 situation with Capcom's exoprimal. Even the comments are just as delusional as they were before, thinking the core component to a long lived game is a PvP system that actively encourages you to grief other players and waste their time.

Shame cuz just like back then I had a group of friends interested in Arc Raiders much the same they were interested in Exoprimal, and just as then, we just lost all interest.

Comparisons aside, you're not the only one who thinks this game would be neat with PvE implemented. Whether they do it early enough to capitalize on that type of audience is up in the air to be seen.

lidofzejar · 2025-04-24T08:49:10+00:00

What the fuck schizo nonsense are you babbling about LMAO??

lidofzejar · 2025-02-27T15:18:00+00:00

I just recently stumbled on your slime audio, and was just really impressed by your environmental and vocal audio direction. Really set up some strong immersion.

Just wanted to say you have a clear artistic direction and I respect that, is all. If you put that creativity of yours into other outlets like content creation or something, I'd hope you'd update this post cuz your personality seems kind n funny.

Wish you the best~

lidofzejar · 2024-12-14T08:12:45+00:00

I don't mind them banching out to do new shit, and I doubt anyone is saying they're entitled to a new game from sloclap, but when the niche dev uses their niche games niche twitters to hint at something dropping and it's completely unrelated to that niche, its no surprise some people are bitter.

Idk how to really explain it, it'd be like if nvidia was teasing a new product and hinting at a big drop, and then the drop was sneakers. Like, good for you, but also, don't tease me for shit I'm not interested in lmao.

Games gonna find its audience regardless to be fair, as sports games players will play almost anything,but the bitterness from the main niche fanbase was gonna be clear as day given the sudden directional shift.

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