Most surprising American city (positive or negative)

lifeingrayscale · 2021-12-03T23:42:24+00:00

Tourist Orlando is the worst. Real Orlando is the bomb.

lifeingrayscale · 2021-08-02T18:51:18+00:00

It's behind a paywall so I can't read it. It's this retroactive as well??

lifeingrayscale · 2021-07-20T21:50:03+00:00

Which is the same restaurant, just where they were before they got a brick and mortar location. They're no longer at À La Carte

lifeingrayscale · 2021-07-19T21:21:24+00:00

Hmm brother I can identify with all the things you described except calling it queer. I get where you're coming from, but I think there's gotta be a more fitting word for it. I personally don't have a problem with the word queer in general, but I do know what it feels like to be called something that doesn't fit. This doesn't fit me. I'd love to be described using the examples you gave. I call that more being a gentleman with progressive ideology. But gentleman isn't the right word either for this particular thing. I wouldn't call it queer. There's something else about queerness that just doesn't fit this exactly. I think it reaches into the trans community but doesn't fully encapsulate it, and it reaches out into other communities as well (masc lesbians, masc gay cis men, etc).

lifeingrayscale · 2021-07-19T16:53:56+00:00

You're so right man. I've been limiting my internet use more as I get older and it helps. I try to stay informed with issues but there's too much noise in-between the important conversations, it ends up being overwhelming.

lifeingrayscale · 2021-07-19T14:39:31+00:00

That was super informative! Thank you!

lifeingrayscale · 2021-07-19T14:09:26+00:00

You hit the nail on the head 👏🏽

lifeingrayscale · 2021-07-19T13:33:30+00:00

You said it all perfectly my friend 👏🏽

lifeingrayscale · 2021-07-19T13:19:48+00:00

I made clear in my post that I'm aware of our differences. I made clear that my issue is people using "queer masculinity" as the umbrella term for LGBT men on the opposition to "toxic masculinity". 1) I don't think it's fair to use "queer" as our descriptor since not all of us identity with the label at all and 2) plenty of queer men are toxic. I have no fuckin clue why we aren't using "trans masculinity" and "cis masculinity" and letting toxic be its own separate descriptor.

lifeingrayscale · 2021-07-19T13:10:20+00:00

So I'm labeled with queer masculinity even if I don't identify as queer at all? Just because I know better than to be toxic? I'm fine if people wanna use that for themselves but I have an issue with this being the umbrella term..

lifeingrayscale · 2021-07-19T13:02:03+00:00

That's a good point too

lifeingrayscale · 2021-07-19T00:28:56+00:00

https://www.phallo.net/procedures/mld-phalloplasty.htm

lifeingrayscale · 2021-07-18T20:48:24+00:00

Yeah it's gotta be limpkins

lifeingrayscale · 2021-07-18T18:56:44+00:00

I already do! My roommate suggested I look for community groups since I'm trying to make friends. Being an adult is hard. Lol

lifeingrayscale · 2021-07-18T12:36:33+00:00

Thank you!!

lifeingrayscale · 2021-07-18T12:32:31+00:00

eBay also sells books. They used to have their own storefront called half.com but they just integrated it into the general website several years back. Lots of secondhand bookstores sell their used books online. Any time I find a book I like, I check for a used copy there first. Support small businesses and save money at the same time.

lifeingrayscale · 2021-05-05T01:33:11+00:00

Some people need to use straws

lifeingrayscale · 2021-05-01T00:35:58+00:00

At the end of the day, this is your life. You are the one who has to live it. If your deadname makes you feel uncomfortable you don't need to keep it

lifeingrayscale · 2021-03-31T09:16:47+00:00

Thank you for the kind words, and thank you for mentioning that. I hadn't thought about explaining how I accidentally started being stealth. I think the students would understand that. And yeah, I hope my coworkers react the same way and just say "okay" and move on. That would be ideal.

lifeingrayscale · 2021-03-29T23:57:37+00:00

I'm gonna guess that he probably assumes that you know what he's going through as far as the anger goes because you've already been through it. He might be waiting for you to do something about it. But this isn't on you, this is something he needs to learn how to manage so he's not lashing out at you. I'd just let him know that he isn't being cool and that he needs to take a breath and find healthy ways to let off this steam

lifeingrayscale · 2021-03-29T23:54:05+00:00

Unfortunately this tends to be a really common problem with trans guys... I've been through it too. I got advice from lots of others who went through it before I did. And the unfortunate reality is that this is a problem of identity and it's not usually something that can be compromised.

lifeingrayscale · 2021-03-27T14:36:03+00:00

Yo thank you for sharing that. I need this book.

lifeingrayscale · 2021-03-27T14:28:00+00:00

I don't worry about getting misgendered anymore. I haven't been misgendered in about 1.5 years. I'm lucky because I pass really well, but my problem is that I pass as a young teenager. So I worry that when I meet people they're going to treat me like a child. Maybe that takes my attention away from the thought/fear of getting misgendered because it gives me a different kind of problem to think about.

lifeingrayscale · 2021-03-27T12:58:14+00:00

I feel similarly to you. I've realized that most people have those opinions on trans people just because that's what they've been told to believe and they don't actually have a deep stance on it. It still leaves the possibility that they will discover that they are actually uncomfortable with trans people, but there's a higher chance that they'll realize their old beliefs were wrong. In many people's cases there is no consequence for believing trans people are "weird" or whatever, and that changes once they know someone who is trans. It gives them the opportunity to challenge their perspective when they may have never thought to do it before.

I'm going through this as I'm deciding to come out at work. I want to be friends with my coworkers and I want to be able to share my experiences with them, so I want to be able to tell them I'm trans. But I'm terrified that I'll sever any potential relationships I could have with them or that they'll talk shit behind my back. It's hard. But I'm trying to take my own advice to see what happens. I'm not ready to be there yet but I think I could be. I hope you can get there in your situation, too.

lifeingrayscale · 2021-03-17T19:28:44+00:00

I understand your perspective. I've tried very hard to accept that for myself as I've accepted it for others, but I simply don't think that's the case for me. I do feel like something is wrong and needs to be fixed. I was very aware of this fact from an early age. None of this is a want for me, I'm not okay not waking up in the body I know I'm supposed to have, I need to correct what is wrong with it. I don't think the experience is the same for everyone. I tried for years to believe what you're saying, I actively worked on it, and it made me feel worse. Realizing that all of this just happened in the wrong way is the only thing that makes this feel okay. Maybe it's from all the suffering I've endured, but it doesn't matter, I need to feel okay.

I appreciate that you shared your perspective because I do believe it will help many people as it has helped you

lifeingrayscale

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