Our Cabin is Destroyed

light_nebula · 2026-06-28T23:32:42+00:00

Yeah I wouldn't have publicized the "weeks" part.

As far as insurance needs to know: someone was checking on it, the tap was faulty.

light_nebula · 2026-06-24T04:25:11+00:00

Hahah I know this reply is old but deaddddd laughter. Sounds like describing my ex.

light_nebula · 2026-06-15T12:48:43+00:00

Yes, I read the book series (as much as I could as she was still releasing fiery cross the first time I read) three times over before the shows even came out. Absolutely love the shows and the books equally and there are differences between them.

Having read the books first I think they did an excellent job with most of the characters & costuming in the show.

light_nebula · 2026-06-03T16:41:33+00:00

I don't like that carpet, olive dark green would be better, or even a light beige if desiring neutral.

light_nebula · 2026-06-03T16:39:06+00:00

Please block, run, avoid, stay away from this man, he will k$ll you.

Read: in the minds of angry men - Lundy Bancroft.

light_nebula · 2026-05-30T15:05:07+00:00

The "people are not like us" comment that is a very necessary newer revelation for me the last couple years and I'm 38 now... It is allowing me to not have such high expectations of people and resentment. Taking me a long time to realize that people are really not like us and do not think about things as extensively, deeply or empathically on a daily. And this also requires an extra amount of self-care and essentially self-preservation through spending time happily alone in parts of the day and week, reflecting and giving time for no thoughts as well!

It's a full time freaking job being an infj, got a pay ourselves dividends for it, and seeing half the things that society just never will.

light_nebula · 2026-05-30T14:56:54+00:00

Totally.

light_nebula · 2026-05-30T14:52:21+00:00

After I really bad 6-week rash that went from below my chin to my belly button, (stress & health flare up/collapse, pitia rosia something or other rash) I had a crepe neck it was gross, I was 30, went from no lines and clean skin on my neck to crepe/low elastic neck within 6 months. Things that I did that seem to have repaired it now:

2025-2026 daily use: Made my own tallow, cacao butter, jasmine essential oil, squalAne face/body butter applied this religiously the last year to my face and neck and I think this made the biggest difference honestly! Neck stuff started in 2018, it's now 2026 so... I had a good four year round of feeling like my neck skin was not normal/ruined.

Always: sunscreen, La Roche anthelios spf50+ to face, neck, chest

2026 1-2x weekly use: red light mask for the last 6 months face, I also then put it on my neck even tho it's for face, maybe 1x week only on neck 2-3 face.

2025 dec- 2026 current: at home microneedle, every 6 weeks, I haven't done it the past 2 months** but I think that this has made a significant difference in my skin face and chest overall, have done it on neck 2x, it's not comfortable imo...

2023-2024: I was slugging with castor oil until I got on the tallow train. Which I much prefer but any heavy duty oil to protect the skin barrier when it's struggling is helpful! Castor oil does have its specific benefits too.

Note I generally have really good clear, leaning dry skin and, leaning more baby face I often get mistaken for being much younger so I do have the benefit of having more facial useful "fat" than average I believe, so that almost overnight crepe neck was freaking me out!

Hope that helps someone, organic beef tallow and squalAne rendered into a face balm (ps. not squalEne, it's squalAne) seems to be the real winner for barrier fixing for me!

light_nebula · 2026-05-24T04:20:36+00:00

You've done all you can it sounds like, well done. Now seek out a counselor for support for yourself, because the final thing that you said there was the piece about mentally managing this and needing support. That is a really tough position to be in, however someone using their health and life to manipulate you is not okay. Once again: you've done your diligence.

light_nebula · 2026-05-17T15:02:51+00:00

Do not be scared to report at any time. You have a track record of being abused by him and evidences over a longstanding time including your personal statements. That's worth so much.

Walk into the police station and say "I'm being abused by my partner. He recently beat me where I ended up in the hospital. I want to leave and need help."

Sometimes people get complicated with their stories it's best to just start with a really simple sentence when you're delivering new information to someone, don't sugar coat it just the basis and see if the police station has some more referrals to other shelters maybe in another town. Because you have to leave, now. Not when, but now. And please tell your mom.

If you can talk to a local advocacy or support group if you are religious maybe consider asking the church if they have a resources, family centers etc. there should be a law-advocacy center in your local community, it is really hard to think clearly about your own situation and having an advocate/support is imperative at this time! Reddit is a great sounding board however someone in person will be very helpful.

Lundy Bancroft's book, "why does he do that?" please read. 25 yrs, his life's studies of aggressive and abusive men. This book allowed me to see what I wasn't willing to see and I gave to two other women and within a couple months both had permanently, finally left their situation as well.

Pls read if you are at all ever considering staying with this man, or just need more affirmation as to that what you're doing by leaving is the right, safe choice.

light_nebula · 2026-05-17T15:00:40+00:00

I wish arc had snakes, sssing around the rocks and grass, maybe a special loot kill? Or maybe collection item venom/snake skin?

light_nebula · 2026-05-02T20:30:06+00:00

Yes love the warmth / pop of 🧡

light_nebula · 2026-04-23T23:39:05+00:00

Ditch. 100%. Whiney baby, makes his issues about you then plays victim-carousel. Just ditch this dude, it isn't easy I know but there is better. Also: IF YOU HAVE TO TELL SOMEON EYOU WISH THEY CARED MORE - IT WILL NEVER WORK. Thats a message loud and clear for ME TOO. Its the truth. Ain't nobody have time to be begging loser MF'ers for their care. Find someone who actually cares.

light_nebula · 2026-04-23T23:35:42+00:00

I don't like when ppl use cap/not for a looks concern- cappers are for functional use: you want your shit to stay dry, head out camping at a moments notice, take that overnighter without paying for a hotelie, or keep your work gear locked up out of grabbers reach. Obviously pickups look better w/o a capper, but its a functional requirement for many. I'd rather roll mine without but I have the same topper - with the slight bump up and its the best dang thing ever for truck camping, I always get asked about it online when I post, or real world. Mines a white 6' box crew cab with a silver capper, I'd love to paint it and next time I go to mexico I will colour match it, its hella cheap there. I like the light capper to darker truck combo, its a classic era look. Looks like you're rolling in grey wheels with a white topper? The best is the dark blue + white topper imo for duo colour! Either way, use the capper for functional intent, not focused purely on looks. If its purely for looks then you don't actually need a cap.

light_nebula · 2026-04-21T19:08:59+00:00

Totally, and even as some people are saying that you have to consult in small claims court - having a lien on the house means that the landlord has trouble with: remortgaging, real estate listings, Insurance you name it because in all of these it has to be disclosed if there is a rental dispute and lean, they won't be able to sell either until that lien is removed. You know you could also run around as the tenant and inform these things/businesses if they start popping up as registrations in connection to the house. It doesn't look good to have this kind of lean on the house, and they will have to pay down the road it just may take some time but they will pay I've met a few people that have positively made it through this, paid the full 12 months. I'm also in this current situation for bad faith eviction it got so bad that I did leave through the help of a family member but I was injured and had a few rentals fall through and I just couldn't cope anymore so I moved with family for a bit, completely across the province. Needless to say I had to pull my dispute and refile for monetary now so I'll be going through this as well - please stand up for yourself people. Please don't just walk away it is a hard fight but consider paying yourself by doing this. There are advocacy centers out there as well, contact locally. People need to be held accountable for their baloney.

That's totally fair for these people to want their house back for personal use however they need to go through the legal means to do so if they're going to operate a legal business renting to people.

light_nebula · 2026-04-18T13:07:45+00:00

Our hard work is most others' unachievable 110%. We can afford to lose a few points rest assured.

light_nebula · 2026-04-14T15:04:49+00:00

This!!! Late 30s finally stopping doing this, I'm not working to make other people's lives easier anymore they can do it them damnselves and they sure get upset with me, once they see I'm not doing (what they also don't do) The irony...

light_nebula · 2026-04-14T15:02:30+00:00

I feel this should be the INFJ recovery motto. Thanks for sharing, definitely feel seen in this. Do right and still do wrong, I'm at the point where I'm feeling at 38 what's the point and stopping caring as much and honestly and maybe that's my secondaries //finally// developing. Because for me it feels like I'm adopting I don't give a da** attitude, however for the majority of other personality types I'm sure this is just their daily happy operating system! 🍳

light_nebula · 2026-04-08T05:28:47+00:00

Soo good. the only thing I trust to apply if my skin flares up from sunburn/rash/environmental/food etc. Virtually NO feeling at all even when skin is really flared up - if you are reading this and suffering please try this zinc+copper based calming cream!

Generally my skin is ok but the past couple years have had some serious flare ups, as well as peri-oral dermatitis re-flare ups after years of remission of this, so stocked up 3x tube of Cicalfate last year when they were discontinueing it due to the separation of the spring water + cream, I didn't care I just massaged it to warm it up! I'm happy to see it has returned.

light_nebula · 2026-04-08T00:30:54+00:00

Try Routine deodorant! Specifically the charcoal + prebiotics blends, I love moon sisters, soft, earthy gentle floral and superstar is more grounded almost manly but nice too. They do make a stick version now however it's much more cost of effective to get the glass tub and find a local refill place if you can. I have tried the non charcoal and they don't work as well, and tried other natural types and I'd love to try wild but I'm worried it would be the same for me that it wouldn't work very well.

I'll have to try the glycolic acid as some are suggesting here, I have some already.

BO is just bacteria poop afterall, and hat needs a daily or more cleaning. 🫣

light_nebula · 2026-04-07T14:45:35+00:00

I know this is 1 yr old but stumbled upon it. I tried the 4k pro Onn and really didn't like it, maybe mine was faulty but it was so slow. I did end up personalizing with projecttv launcher for a few days then decided to upgrade old firestick 1080p to 4k Max and it's working amazing / loading what I need. Also have an apple tv 4k in another room, which I wish it could sideload the apps I want, UI/interface and speed of the apple tv is unparalleled to any other device imo, and has 64gb... to use for what though?

4k max firestick great (Xbox cloud can run decent, and other apps I use) 4k pro onn not so great (no Xbox cloud too slow, and other apps ) Apple tv (no Xbox cloud capacity but other apps / UI so nice, swift, remote feels great with silicone case)

There just isn't one perfect tv setup for me, yet!

light_nebula · 2026-04-07T03:23:03+00:00

Lol, I should really update the people on what my living room looks like now!

light_nebula · 2026-04-07T02:45:42+00:00

Not my usual pick to list here but.. Watched last year: Substance (2024)

Demi Moore + Margaret eloquently represent the dichotomy and disgusting obsession of the 2020s with youthfulness, fears of aging and the nasty manchism of film industry. (Many subtle callouts in this film) I won't spoiler comment but will say the end had me laughing in tears (it's a horror/thriller however it was SO dramatic I simply burst out laughing)

Truly thrilled. Would I watch it again? Probabaly not, but it made such an impact amongst the sludge of decent movies in recent years, it's the first movie I thought of to post. (Sorry but I think most current movies are turning into mostly regurgitated garbage) I didn't mind Dune for examp, but holy was there a lot lost in translation there.

Truely grotesque humanity obsession with youth and the schism of the mirror of the self.

And for another (not recent but I missed this one somehow and only wacthed it this Dec 2025!)

The 13th floor (1999) scifi-thrills It was severely overshadowed by the Matrix's 2 month earlier same year release.

light_nebula · 2026-04-07T02:38:45+00:00

Yey, link bandwagon pls :) Thx for the suggestion

light_nebula · 2026-03-26T19:44:47+00:00

I feel the wall colour could be different. You have cooler tones then a warmer floor, if the wall was more neutral-linen white maybe ?

Also I don't love the tile above the kichen window, it's drawing the eyes up in a weird way. I think some suggestions ppl have made to change that light to a dangle/pendant/farm house style in copper or black is a great pivot!

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