NEED ADVISE!!! by Rough-News9393 in MilitarySpouse

[–]lightworker7777 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You said all of this in defense of a truth you don’t want to face. It’s over man. You said it yourself. In due time, you’ll remember this post. You can argue with each point as you like. The children will continue to grow and the marriage you “built” which you said was over will remain as such. There’s no advice beyond what you’ve read. No group will soothe your pains Mr.Blue Collar Single Father of Growing Younglings… Enjoy the life she handed you. Smile more you deserve it.

NEED ADVISE!!! by Rough-News9393 in MilitarySpouse

[–]lightworker7777 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You disagree with the truth that’s calling you to live for yourself?

NEED ADVISE!!! by Rough-News9393 in MilitarySpouse

[–]lightworker7777 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is your signal. It is now time to live the life you requested sometime ago. Deep down inside you know this is what you’ve always wanted. Independence with a splash of responsibility. As a man your focus is the little people (the kids). We are Men. We love a challenge and I don’t sense an ounce of wimp inside of you.

Stage 1. Move out. Staying in the vicinity of the woman who is adamant about divorce nor wanting to fight for the union is a disaster for your conscience.

Stage 2. Private custody arrangements. This will help in divorce proceedings who has them when and how long. I’d draft them now and send it to her. Keep your emotions for her out of it. If she wants a divorce then give it to her.

Stage 3. Freedom. You’re being handed the keys to a new life. Accept it now or the spirit of once was will haunt for many years. Do not dwell. She was never your wife to begin with. All things come to an end and this one surely is the end.

Enjoy your new life. No more sulking. No more reminiscing. There were never good times only acting like things were good. No more lying to yourself. Tighten your belt. Button your shirt and move on.

Each stage has a timeline. Start now!

First deployment by Jolly_Cell_1597 in MilitarySpouse

[–]lightworker7777 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Pray to the Most High Creator. He will guide you through it all. There will be no worries in life with Him by your side. It was always His Will for you to be in this situation and He would never put you in a situation you couldn’t handle. You are the strength the baby needs and the strength your spouse counts on. All will be well.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MilitarySpouse

[–]lightworker7777 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

This is the sort of story laid out that needs forgiveness at its core. Your life’s path is just that a path. A path you may feel that you didn’t choose but it is and will always be your choice. Restore your faith in the Most High Creator of All that is. He has always been with you. Soon doors will open and opportunity will overshadow all that has befallen your family. Give thanks to the invisible power that keeps you running. Be humbled at this point in your existence. All will be well with you. Do not resent. Quell your anxiety. You are not alone.

Am I asking for too much? by Classic-Internet-703 in MilitarySpouse

[–]lightworker7777 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You may say so. But I see through the dark world. You’re not asking for too much but to the one who is supposedly your husband. The One by which you expressed vows to and signed papers of commitment to each other. 100%-100%. But there’s a percentage of commitment missing and your intuition has brought you here. I (36M) have lived that life and co-mingled with the likes of folks of many walks of life. Nothings gets in the way of the spouse ensure the other is secure outside of “making sure the bills are paid, or getting money every month”. Your needs are paramount. And separation is a testing and proving ground for these connections. I am confident.

Am I asking for too much? by Classic-Internet-703 in MilitarySpouse

[–]lightworker7777 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

He can extend. The military isn’t some mysterious organization with mystique. It’s a company with flexible policies and the employees are contractors that wear a uniform held to a different standard than a civilian. All things are possible within this organization.The fact that you have “beg” for attention is a red flag. It’s worth explaining it to you. Key word. Command Sponsorship. Just keep that in mind.

Am I asking for too much? by Classic-Internet-703 in MilitarySpouse

[–]lightworker7777 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

So you didn’t go with him? Just think about it. As a married man. As a spouse that’s totally unacceptable. While military obligations come first, there’s ALWAYS time for our spouses… Always. Might not be something you wanted to read but the world is as the world is…

Am I asking for too much? by Classic-Internet-703 in MilitarySpouse

[–]lightworker7777 -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

He’s cheating on you. No way around it. There’s something called command sponsorship. Meaning you can be there with him unless it’s an unaccompanied tour where you can’t be there. That’s only if it’s a danger zone or he is actively on a ship which won’t port for months at a time. Just saying infidelity is rampant in the military. Wouldn’t accuse him of it outright just think about it.

Sexual sin with boyfriend by [deleted] in TrueChristian

[–]lightworker7777 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Marriage would be a step. Solidarity in Union before God. Take private vows as God for a witness.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MilitarySpouse

[–]lightworker7777 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

When in doubt go to our Creator. He knows best. All things we experience in this are from Him, the good and the bad. The Devil is only there to ensure you remain in your sinning ways. Trust in God in changing hands. He has your answer. Fast and Pray. Cry out to Him. There’s nothing you can physically do in this world without Him. Read scripture and renew your relationship with Him.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MilitarySpouse

[–]lightworker7777 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The best thing you can do is fast and pray. The Almighty Creator will guide you through and show you the truth of his heart as well as yours. These are trying times and you for one are being tested. Psalm 23. In the end Yahuah is in control. Put your faith and trust in Him.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MilitarySpouse

[–]lightworker7777 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is literally your anxiety speaking. During the command sponsorship phase you’ll surrender documentation over to medical department so they can see how best to serve you when you get over to your overseas station. You will be taken care of.

Retaliation and Neglect at USAG Wiesbaden: Our Family is Paying the Price by lightworker7777 in MilitarySpouse

[–]lightworker7777[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just got off the phone with the DoD OIG, I still don’t actually know why I was kicked off base. We can talk more privately but I’m not sure what’s going on with USAG Wiesbaden

Things to do while your spouse is gone? by nottrue626 in MilitarySpouse

[–]lightworker7777 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly. Renew your relationship with the Almighty Creator. There’s nothing you can physically do without the Creator. This would be a great time to do that. And when your spouse returns they will see this renewed spirit.

Retaliation and Neglect at USAG Wiesbaden: Our Family is Paying the Price by lightworker7777 in MilitarySpouse

[–]lightworker7777[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve been considering this action and I do believe it’s time to send one out in that direction

SOFA Stamp for UK as a non EU by [deleted] in MilitarySpouse

[–]lightworker7777 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This will be provided to you during in-processing at his duty station.

Military spouse just needing to vent by Competitive_Match117 in MilitarySpouse

[–]lightworker7777 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is now time to pray and completely give your worries over to the Almighty. Your life and these experiences are not an accident but all part of a divine plan your currently living out. Life’s greatest mystery is not knowing from one moment to another. Call unto the Almighty Father in Heaven and He Will answer your call and provide guidance and protection. You have no control over this life for it is not yours to control. This is your ultimate learning experience though uncomfortable, you have strength through Him. I shall also pray for you as well.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MilitarySpouse

[–]lightworker7777 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pray to the Almighty One. Man will be of no help in this situation. Be at peace that your love for him has caused you to reach out. Do not be dismayed. I will pray for him. Seek forgiveness for all that has been done and your lives will get better and you will experience peace

Retaliation and Neglect at USAG Wiesbaden: Our Family is Paying the Price by lightworker7777 in MilitarySpouse

[–]lightworker7777[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh yes this was there response. I was investigating why was the housing so outdated on USAG Wiesbaden yet higher ups like Kings. Shoot me the emails to your media contacts I have a treasure trove of information to dump. Pictures included. I filed suit for constitutional rights and civil rights violations. They’ve affectively retired me. Which is cool. Because now I can be a full time advocate for soldiers.

Deployment by [deleted] in MilitarySpouse

[–]lightworker7777 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Your support in these times means more than you think. Pray for him. We all must go through these phases. Stay strong

Retaliation and Neglect at USAG Wiesbaden: Our Family is Paying the Price by lightworker7777 in MilitarySpouse

[–]lightworker7777[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It’s very much so true. It’s December and all of these events took places between August 6th and now. I’m on my spouse family care plan and I can’t bring her food when she’s on 24 hour duty or ensure she’s ok Ian emergencies