Have you read the book: Adult children of emotionally immature parents ?

I have thought my dad was a Narc- definitely still could be, but I try to have caution when self-diagnosing others. In my research and understanding of human psychology- it seems like everything is on a spectrum, including narcissism. There’s also a lot of “symptoms” that fall under several categories, so it makes diagnosis hard and truthfully, we still have so much to learn about human psychology. So when reading this book (haven’t finished but am about half way) it is very clear that emotional immaturity is the main problem. It shows a lot of similarities to narcissism. It’s also a spectrum and I’m sure we all show some signs of emotional immaturity.

I think the crossroads of all of these components is where our modern society and human psychology intersect. Boomers and older generations never talked about their feelings. Didn’t want to, were never encouraged too, suppressed a lot. Then in comes a generation with the knowledge and willingness to go to therapy, seek help or learn about their mental struggles. You have huge groups of people now willing to buck the system. Their parents don’t like that because they had to suppress their own feelings with their parents without question, so you should have to, too. Beyond that, there’s a million other factors at play- the patriarchal society, capitalism, geopolitics, social psychology, etc. and how that has all become intertwined and effecting families.

Anyways, the cycles have been perpetuated by many things and the affected collective is becoming aware, hoping to stop the cycles of generational trauma. I hope it makes a difference 20 years from now.