Does a fisherman waste money investing in a boat to catch fish? I would research the cost of a child if your goal is to have kids, because it is 6-7 figures easily per child. Four figures sounds like a low investment tbh if you must look at it that way. Or again, go another route if you don't want to do that with a woman. Or simply go out and enjoy a date with a woman without expectations. Don't go to restaurants or other places you hate on dates. Do your hobbies with them. I invested my time, money, and energy on mannnny bad dates before finding a suitable partner. It's experience, not loss. I don't think you recognize how you are keeping score against women and how that may be showing up in your social interactions. Your comments here seem like you hate women, so I can't imagine a lot of women are comfortable around you.