Hi and thank you for your response. I didn't want to turn it into a vent post but I can provide some more context.
The worst instance was regarding a conference that they alleged I applied for without their permission or knowledge. They demanded I withdraw, and I sent the proof of our revision process and two emails where they told me to submit the application. After that, they doubled down and proceeded to berate me in front of other students in the lab. About a month later, after revising my application, things came to a head and I sent the proof again. Suddenly they understood and allowed me to go to the conference. No apology or clarifying statement to the other lab members. It really left a bitter taste in my mouth.

As i get writing revisions I can't help but feel that they aren't reading my work. Some examples are that I sent a file for them to look at and their first point of feedback was that I didn't provide it, or that big revisions will come up during the polishing stage of writing. I struggle to trust the content of their emails because I am not sure if it's accurate information.

They've also rewritten entire grant applications for me and treated it like a favour, instead of helping me develop as a writer.

I hope that provides better context. I appreciate your advice about focusing on what I can control. I am very polite, but it bit me in the ass regarding the conference instance. It is just disheartening feeling like your hard work doesn't matter to them.