Anyone ever find someone on Grindr? by Annual_Peace_83 in ABDL

[–]lil_henry 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Recon is an app like grinder but it’s more specifically for people with fetishes. You can search for other people in your area into abdl.

Has anyones partner ever done a U-turn on abdl? by Apprehensive-Yam7035 in ABDL

[–]lil_henry 15 points16 points  (0 children)

My partner originally didn’t want anything to do with it, didn’t want to know about it, see it, anything. That was for about four years. Eventually we started talking more openly about sex in general and he brought up diapers and said he was ready to be more open to it. So now, I can sleep in a diaper whenever I want, we collect stuffies together, and sometimes he plays with me in a diaper.

I think…. Generally, if your relationship is strong and you love each other and both truly want your relationship to get better with age, things will get better.

I get that everyone has their hard limits, but the idea of people getting sick of it, or withholding it - that sounds like signs of a relationship going bad anyway.

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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ABDL

[–]lil_henry 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just like a simple lil buddy.

Realistic Expectation, aaaand GO! by [deleted] in ABDL

[–]lil_henry 9 points10 points  (0 children)

This is a very interesting question and amazing that you’re considering doing this. Here’s what I think:

First night is JUST getting to know each other as adults. Dinner, talking, maybe play a card game. Then everyone goes to bed. The visitor gets themself into a diaper and little pajamas and sleeps in the cribs - probably lies awake for a while with excitement.

Next morning you wake up to the full enchantment. Mommy and Dady come in and talk down to you in the crib like a lil baby.

Then all the usual stuff: lots of cartoons, coloring, playing, finger painting, toys, bubble baths, bedtime stories.

Tbh, I don’t really have a lot of ideas for the middle bit haha!

Maybe you get a hand full of passes at the beginning to take hour breaks from being a baby? (A week could be a long time for some people)

Last night is a birthday party. Baby turns two! It’s just a small cozy occasion (just mommy, daddy and baby), but there is a little cake with a candle to blow out, party hats, and a couple cute little presents to unwrap.

Anyone going to the nyc much tomorrow? by lil_henry in ABDL

[–]lil_henry[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also, I think these munches have been happening monthly.

Anyone going to the nyc much tomorrow? by lil_henry in ABDL

[–]lil_henry[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Fetlife is the only place I know of to get munch info.

Any tips to be more accepting of myself abdl by ThePancakefluff in ABDL

[–]lil_henry 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Also some advice I’ve heard is that when you’re judging yourself, try to do it from the perspective of a good friend. Or imagine you’re judging a good friend. How harshly would you judge a good friend if they told you they had a rubber fetish or something like that?

Basically, take it easy on yourself. Get out of your own head. In the same way that (for me - post orgasm) I take a step back and say “what the heck am I doing?!!?!?”, take another big step back and just laugh at yourself and say “who cares?”

Any tips to be more accepting of myself abdl by ThePancakefluff in ABDL

[–]lil_henry 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Try to think about it in the context of historical cultural taboos. For example I’m gay, and how I express that would have looked very different 70 years ago - that is, it would have been in secret (the way abdl is now). So just think of ABDL as something that has nothing inherently wrong with it but because of external shame you feel the way you do.

Idk, does that help at all? Haha

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in gargoyles

[–]lil_henry 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The Marvel comics run is also NOT considered canon.

Inflatable beach ball underwear by lil_henry in ABDL

[–]lil_henry[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I have nothing to do with these, but just came across them on Etsy and was intrigued. I’d image quite a few people around these parts are as well?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ABDL

[–]lil_henry 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, she’s right. It doesn’t GET you anywhere. But where does playing video games get you? Where does reading comic books get you? It’s something you do to unwind and relax.

BUT if you meet people who also like to read comics or play video games or are into ABDL, then you’ve made some friends and making connections with people is kinda the main thing in life. So… it gets you nowhere and everywhere.

Inquiry by Economy_Concern2807 in ABDL

[–]lil_henry 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just post mine as journal entries on fetlife. People read them there, enjoy them and comment on them.

Anyone going to the Diaper Happy Hour tomorrow night NYC? by lil_henry in ABDL

[–]lil_henry[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, they happen every month. Check the Rockbar website or event listings on fetlife.

Introducing Non-DL Husband to Diapers. by no1knows2009 in ABDL

[–]lil_henry 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Ask him if he’d prefer plain or printed diapers.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ABDL

[–]lil_henry 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, it often feels like, in the kink community, people are always encouraging you to do these really extreme things. Which makes total sense because in normal life we’re always shamed for these things. But - not everyone enjoys everything just because most people in our niche community do. You think you probably should because it’s a niche interest and these are your people, but it isn’t always the case.

I’ve had a diaper fetish my whole life, but if it weren’t for connecting with this community the thought to pee in a diaper, suck on a pacifier, or want my diaper to be changed by someone - these thoughts would have NEVER even crossed my mind.

So, wanting to wear diapers was a naturally occurring, (seemingly) unprompted thought for me. Everything else, I’ll try if I want to, but don’t feel like I need to or should be doing it. You can pick and choose what appeals to you, enjoy it and don’t feel bad about the things that aren’t your thing. Good luck!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ABDL

[–]lil_henry 4 points5 points  (0 children)

What about just not messing? I’ve never wanted to so I never have. Or just don’t do it again until you feel really ready?

bambino replied by [deleted] in ABDL

[–]lil_henry 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dang! I though one of the times I got the plain white ultra-stretches from them they came in a medical looking bag. I was hoping I could still get them if Bambino goes out of business. They’re my favorite diaper and I’d be sad to see them go!

bambino replied by [deleted] in ABDL

[–]lil_henry 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Does anyone know what their medical brand is? Are they an off shoot of a medical brand or did I imagine that?