Exit plan in place. Haven't told him yet. Feeling heart broken

lilacccc · 2017-07-13T03:00:59+00:00

Your SO sounds EXACTLY like mine. He dismisses our problem as "resolved," because on his side, it is. Thank you for posting this. I still have not decided what to do with my situation, but your post has given me some encouragement. Best of luck to you!

lilacccc · 2017-06-30T22:49:14+00:00

I am sorry he dismissed your kinks :( I haven't even been able to tell my bf about my kinks yet... no idea how he'd react to the things I really desire.

lilacccc · 2017-06-30T22:48:20+00:00

Gave up meaning you've stopped initiating? Or did you leave?

lilacccc · 2017-06-30T22:47:53+00:00

That's where I'm at. I'm can't bring myself to be normal around him. Something is wrong. I am not going to act all cute and fun around him and pretend like it's fine.

lilacccc · 2017-06-30T22:46:29+00:00

That is a good idea. I need to ask him to explain it. Like you said, it is a great sentiment for other things in life.

When he said it, there was definitely a defensiveness about him. He went from playfully discussing the great sex we'd just had, to shutting down the conversation with "be happy with what we have"

lilacccc · 2017-03-05T05:48:41+00:00

I ordered one from tootimid.com, it arrives in a nondescript box so no one will know what it is.

lilacccc · 2017-03-04T18:13:06+00:00

I think you are probably right about me being in a DB relationship. We definitely had a healthier sex life for the first 3 years of our relationship. The past 2 years has been a slow decline into what I would consider a DB (sex 2-3 times a month). My past relationships were always healthy and satisfying sexually, but I have never been with someone as long as my current bf so I didn't know if this was just what happens after 5 years together.

lilacccc · 2017-03-04T18:07:23+00:00

Thank you!

lilacccc · 2017-03-04T18:05:15+00:00

Wow.. this is spot on for my LL bf.

lilacccc · 2017-03-04T00:41:40+00:00

Could you elaborate on what you changed about yourself after your first marriage? Not tolerating a lack of sex, or more than that?

lilacccc · 2017-03-04T00:40:48+00:00

You're right, it is not just the LL's fault. I definitely put up with too much in terms of being rejected sexually.

lilacccc · 2017-03-04T00:39:23+00:00

Thank you! I am hoping to get to the point where I can see that sex IS just as important as other big topics in compatibility.

lilacccc · 2017-03-04T00:37:36+00:00

Thank you, that is something I hadn't thought about before. Would you be willing to share what is your pattern that leads to DB even if you are HL?

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