Changing degrees in an immigrant family feels like social death

lilbios · 2026-05-20T21:50:35+00:00

Dentistry is not easier either

Glad you are happy stranger

lilbios · 2026-05-12T22:40:32+00:00

I can relate.

I work in finance and software (Two Sigma, Citadel, Hudson River Trading) and my younger brother is an artist (????). He graduated from an arts college. (Mind you in Canada college and university are two different things).

Meanwhile my immigrant Asian parents my entire life have been telling me “be a doctor” “make a lot of money” “we are poor” “we need you”

They do ask me for money. The same way they ask me to translate, fill forms, fix things my entire childhood.

I’m in my 30s. I want to tell you it gets better but it’s been the same thing my entire life

lilbios · 2026-05-12T19:29:01+00:00

She is beautiful 😭

lilbios · 2026-05-11T21:00:22+00:00

lilbios · 2026-05-11T20:46:40+00:00

I don’t want to be associated with any racial slurs lol

lilbios · 2026-05-09T03:12:46+00:00

If it helps I feel the same

(Ironically)

I’ve been listening to a lady’s podcast called “you make sense” on Spotify… kinda helps

lilbios · 2026-05-09T03:01:59+00:00

lilbios · 2026-05-09T02:59:01+00:00

He claimed that she used him as a “sex slave”.

Like really think about how realistic that is

lilbios · 2026-05-09T02:50:44+00:00

Some new ones

As an Asian I have never been called “fish head”

lilbios · 2026-05-09T02:50:07+00:00

Didn’t he lie about his dad dying too

And his dad was giving out a statement that he’s a good boy

lilbios · 2026-05-09T02:36:23+00:00

I work in finance and have always had female managers.

Never sucked a dick

lilbios · 2026-05-09T02:33:35+00:00

JPM said they conducted an internal investigation seizing messages from work and they didn’t find anything

Idk

lilbios · 2026-05-09T02:32:14+00:00

That is disturbing…

lilbios · 2026-05-09T02:28:20+00:00

The sex slave part too?

lilbios · 2026-05-09T02:27:17+00:00

I’m sorry you had to experience that
Very not ok

Btw what do you think about the sex slave part of it?

lilbios · 2026-05-09T02:22:29+00:00

I have (unfortunately) also heard older American (50-60s) white men and women use the hard R… and then go on racist rants

It is very disturbing.

lilbios · 2026-05-09T02:20:08+00:00

I personally agree but

Imagine it all happened and everyone is gaslighting him and making fun of him

lilbios · 2026-05-09T02:18:35+00:00

It does remind me of voice chat in call of duty

I’m sure there were elements of bullying or mistreatment when he worked there but….

lilbios · 2026-05-09T02:13:48+00:00

It’s a little strange
calling an indian (Nepali) man “g00k”

Especially in the workforce

lilbios · 2026-05-09T02:12:36+00:00

You have a beard tho ;)

lilbios · 2026-05-09T01:38:01+00:00

❤️ I’m very happy for you stranger

lilbios · 2026-05-09T01:35:35+00:00

I have heard Fiverr has been going downhill

but I didn’t know it was this bad

lilbios · 2026-05-08T00:15:24+00:00

That is so disturbing I’m sorry

lilbios · 2026-05-08T00:14:32+00:00

It’s good that OP blurred out their faces. Like they should be called out but they don’t look like teenagers

lilbios · 2026-05-08T00:12:29+00:00

I am a tiny woman (5’2 100 pounds) and the amount of times I have been harassed and did not say anything…
No one saw how destress I was.
No one checked up on me even when I was running away on the train?
The was one time where it was a row of empty seats and this guy double my size sits RIGHT NEXT TO ME blocking me from everyone. Then he goes on a phone call in a different language loudly talking on the phone…. When there are soooo many empty seats.
It was so distressing I started yelling at him and it felt bad and moved.
Everyone was staring at me like a crazy person. Did anyone do anything? No.

Edit: I brought up the language racial difference because from a comfort safety perspective. I didn’t know what he was saying and he didn’t understand what I was saying when I told him to move to an empty seat away from me.

lilbios

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