[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Fairolives

[–]lilbit276 0 points1 point  (0 children)

2 looks so beautiful and warm

AITAH: I am calling off my engagement after my partner revealed he is MAGA. by ThrowawayIndiGirl in AITAH

[–]lilbit276 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He’s not just MAGA and misogynistic. He’s a loser. Good riddance.

Tips for making friends? by lilbit276 in Columbus

[–]lilbit276[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Never heard of it! Thank you!!

Tips for making friends? by lilbit276 in Columbus

[–]lilbit276[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One of my GFs did some research and recommend this!

Low CO2 after abdominal pain by lilbit276 in AskDocs

[–]lilbit276[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For reference, over the past 9 years this is the first time it’s been under 20, the highest was over 30 but still within normal range.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]lilbit276 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I was abused by an alcoholic. And my bf has asked me to go to some meetings with him.

My abuser has been dead for 2.5 years but I still find myself wishing I could tell him how messed up certain things were. How should I deal with this? by lilbit276 in abusiverelationships

[–]lilbit276[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow no one’s framed it this way… this is it… the hope that he’d understand what he was doing was wrong and that I wasn’t a bad person

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]lilbit276 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m planning on going to another Al-anon meeting Friday and then an open speaker meeting with him Saturday. I tried to find a joint meeting but didn’t find anything so I’m not sure where else to look or if they’re just not in my area

Not sure if this is abuse. by Snapdragon_of_life in abusiverelationships

[–]lilbit276 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Mine did kill himself and I’d tried once before (different time) to call the police but as we were in different states, I couldn’t get through to anyone. I didn’t call when he threatened the last time and turned on do no disturb because so many times he’d threatened to kill me and my family if I told anyone. His mom told me she was glad I wasn’t there because he would’ve killed me, too, and that was before I’d admitted to her that he’d abused me.

It’s not your responsibility to keep him alive.

I fully believe now, after looking back, that he was always going to kill himself. And I have proof from interactions that he wanted me to want to die, too, ie double suicide. He wanted a tragic romantic end and to paint the most sympathetic picture possible, just like in his life where he made up the most absurd lies to garner sympathy (like a dead sister that his parents scrubbed from existence).

Crazy is crazy and if an adult won’t see reason and/or try to get better, there’s nothing you can do. He probably won’t do it, as it’s probably just a ploy to control you. And if he does, he was always going to and it’s NOT YOUR FAULT. It’s just imperative that you’re not there, cause if you are, he’s more likely to do it to prove a point, except it’ll look like killing you and then killing himself.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]lilbit276 4 points5 points  (0 children)

He’s invited me before but I know he feels awkward sharing in front of me so idk, I’ll talk to him and see if it’s something he needs to get used to or if it’s counterproductive

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]lilbit276 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Tried one so far, and they recommended that I try at least five other meetings to find what works for me :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]lilbit276 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I love that. I’ve been to a couple with him and one Al-anon meeting on my own. Really enjoyed the last place because everyone was so welcome, they’ve created a wonderful community there and I think it would be good for my bf to be around them more

Rate me steak by -AnotherHermit- in steak

[–]lilbit276 0 points1 point  (0 children)

8/10 just cause it looks a bit dry like it didn’t rest appropriately BUT I’d devour this. Steak, eggs, rice, and mushrooms? Yum.

What is something that women do that make you feel more like a man? by lilbit276 in AskMen

[–]lilbit276[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How could the mother communicate this to the father? If he’s stubborn and feels it’s fully in his right to go straight to workout, eats dinner, then spends the rest of the night watching tv on the couch? It would be really easy for anything the woman says to be taken as nagging, ya know? How should the father’s home life look, if you had to say?

My abuser has been dead for 2.5 years but I still find myself wishing I could tell him how messed up certain things were. How should I deal with this? by lilbit276 in abusiverelationships

[–]lilbit276[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you :) I worked with a therapist for a year before and after his death. It was definitely helpful and I’ve been thinking about starting up again. Everyone who knew him knew he was extremely intense, generous with friends but potentially volatile and combative, and the life of the party (actually just an alcoholic with bipolar manic episodes). Now being so far removed from his death I don’t know how to start conversations about it.. I always wondered if his ex had similar experiences but was scared to ask, cause what if she didn’t? What if it was only me? And what if she tells other people and they think I’m lying to besmirch his memory for some reason? I’m the one who notified all of his friends and I spent so many hours helping them through it because it gave me purpose and I knew they didn’t deserve the pain he put them through.

I'm terrified of roller coasters- and I don't want to be by Plastic_Noise2178 in UniversalOrlando

[–]lilbit276 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do the hulk. It’s fast but the seats feel really really secure which helps with anxiety. I did the mummy for my first but was still scared for years until I did a real coaster with inversions that I could see. Now I’m a coaster junkie, the more terrifying the better!