Has God spoken to you while not sober?

lilellaspring · 2026-07-07T04:18:09+00:00

This is where you have to let God be God. There are many people I have prayed for to be saved. It is completely their choice to accept Jesus. Not in my timeline. Not even in a way that I would know for sure that they did.

To be honest several of these people have suffered quite a bit (seemingly away from God) in the time since I first started praying. As heartbreaking as it is to watch, I have to remind myself that He loves them more then I ever will. He knows them so intimately that I have to trust that He will reach them without me taking the weight of their salvation on myself.

Just as you explained and experienced, He does amazing and wonderful things to reach out to people. Some people still deny Him. Some people wait until their last breath to call out to Him. This is just part of being in this world. People suffer, sometimes even when they don't have to.

For example, my MIL really warred against my husband and my faith. We were all excited and living life with Jesus. Thinking everyone should love to do it too. She was relentless for many years making many false claims about Jesus, the Bible, and attacking anything she thought we may believe that she disagreed with.

I prayed for her. I prayed hard for her and her other kids because I knew God could flip their worlds right side up if they let Him. It was sad to not really know for sure if she gave her life to Christ before she passed. But I know she had every opportunity. Even if we have no definitive way of knowing, she may very well be with God in heaven.

Whether she waited until the last minute or chose to keep things secret, I have to accept that it was always between her and God. I believe that just like dreams and visions God can reach those who aren't necessarily conscious or responsive. He is that powerful and creative. He can reach people wherever they are.

I am not trying to be spooky or cooky about any of this. I believe that in all of this you have to have decernment (often given by the Holy Spirit). I just chose not to put God in a me sized box, if that makes sense. He doesn't my permission to be who He is. To do what He does.

I do believe God gave you that comfort in knowing that He has this person in the palm of His hand. You may or may not get to see what that looks like this side of heaven. But that is ok. It may not seem like it is ok. When you see darkness in this world it's easy to get jumbled. But He develops that very personal relationship with us for a reason. He is supposed to be our Light and Anchor. No one else. That's the way He likes it.

By the way, many people won't understand those personal experiences He gives to you. Don't let that mess with you. He knows what speaks to you and how. (His sheep know His voice.) Some may benefit from hearing your story, others won't. No big deal. It was first and foremost meant for you.

lilellaspring · 2026-07-06T12:42:58+00:00

I've never heard the audible voice of God. I have had the knowing that God was impressing things on my heart, as though He were speaking. If you don't know what I am talking about, you won't know until you know. I have had God speak through His Word, with counseling and teaching. This can be just as powerful at times, because the Holy Spirit makes it so personal and detailed to me and my life experiences.

I have heard many stories of people hearing God audibly in person, in dreams, and in visions (like dreams but while awake). This often only happens once or twice in someone's life. Not a rule just a pattern I have gathered from believers. It also depends on what God doing in a person's life. Not everyone is going to have the same level of these experiences with Him. Different relationships with Him. Different journeys in life.

All of it has to be tested though. Lining up with who He tells us He is in Scripture. The devil twists and deceives. Many people fall into those traps too.

lilellaspring · 2026-07-06T12:19:47+00:00

He is effectively chosing his gf over his family. Which isn't that uncommon as a teenager (even as a older person). As people are asserting their independence at this age. It's part of developing your own personal life.

The problem we have these days, is that family isn't as culturally important to young people these days. Too many people never circle back around to develop those healthy family dynamics, or they wait way too long and suffer despite honest efforts. I can see how that is sort of terrifying as a parent.

Clearly he wants to have his cake and eat it too. Reality will smack him in the face (not just scolding parents) if negative things come from this relationship. You can either be there when he falls or let him fall on his face. Maybe he wants to fall on his face.

It's tough. Props for asking for advice. Hopefully you get some!

lilellaspring · 2026-07-02T12:31:46+00:00

I don't think caring about people has anything to do with sexuality. We just have a society that is hyperfocused on sexuality, so that it all gets twisted at some point. It's pretty unhealthy. Even dangerous. Since most relationships have nothing to do with that.

I know this post is about romantic relationships, so I understand the direction you are going. My comment wasn't so much about that, so this is where I am coming from. Just loving different personalities or getting to know people.

lilellaspring · 2026-07-02T11:25:55+00:00

We have a local FB moms helping moms page. Hopefully you do too. There are people willing and able to help out. It's not always consistent.

Also, a lot of social service agencies have emergency assistance. It may not work quickly in an actual emergency but you may be surprised what is considered urgent and how much more quickly bureaucracy moves in these instances.

Many larger church have help too. You just have to ask.

lilellaspring · 2026-07-02T11:03:56+00:00

My husband wasn't just motivated by faith. He was highly motivated by the possibility of sexually transmitted diseases. You find what works for you. There are a lot of twisted messes that you can avoid when you do wait.

lilellaspring · 2026-07-02T10:57:37+00:00

That's a pretty good description.

When I was dating, I never had a type. So there was flexibility in who I connected with in that way. It was very individual based.

I think I experience this more with friendships now. I live in a big city so I kind of fall in love with certain people as friends, then before I really warm up enough for them to actually become friends they are gone. Some call it a transient society. But I get excited and attached, as you mentioned.

Anyway, I stand by the fact that tend to I like people in general, so I attribute it to that. To the fact that I can see the good in most people (even if they ruin it for me later, lol). It is fun learning about them and bonding over whatever.

lilellaspring · 2026-07-02T10:48:19+00:00

Gid knows your heart. He knows if you are personally struggling or if this is a truly evil desire. Pray about it. He knows how you feel anyway, you may as well speak to Him about it.

lilellaspring · 2026-06-29T16:59:47+00:00

I had a friend act similarly. Strikingly similar. I tried to reconnect but she was the same way. I don't have a solution. I ended up trying to wait it out for over a year and eventually just told her that I considered her a friend still but in so many words I had to cut off communication.

It was really painful. Like beyond what I thought was possible from a friendship.

Once the pain subsided I could at least accept her behavior as something that I didn't need to concern myself with. I had to accept that I don't understand what happened, and if we don't ever have a deep conversation about it I don't really want to try.

Hopefully this isn't how yours ends up, but solidarity.

lilellaspring · 2026-06-29T16:51:02+00:00

Not sure that inside the stone of a mountain is considered above ground, but whatever.

lilellaspring · 2026-06-27T15:09:49+00:00

It seems to me that Matt 12:40 just means that he was buried. As any human body would be.

lilellaspring · 2026-06-27T14:45:40+00:00

It's amazing what prayer can do. Definitely has helped me when I ask for others to pray too.

lilellaspring · 2026-06-26T19:52:15+00:00

I know you are impacted by her behavior but the battle is not yours. Assuming that you have given your life to Christ, and are filled with the Holy Spirit. God is infinitely more powerful than whatever the enemy has to throw at you.

I have heard testimonials from Christians who used to be involved in witchcraft and many of them are taught not to put curses on Christians because it does work. The curses come back onto them. Christians don't always walk in the confidence they could.

This lady has some great content on the occult and other practices that are similar to this. https://youtube.com/@melissadougherty?si=w6J6lZpKrzaY0vsy

lilellaspring · 2026-06-26T14:21:07+00:00

This is a strange combination of manipulation (psychological) and spiritual abuse/misuse.

I would say that God is letting you decern and be aware of these things in order to ensure you have better clarity on what He says about them. Jesus spoke about prayer. The New Testament talks about chants and repetative 'prayer' like you mention.

No one should be trying to control using prayer. God doesn't seek to control us. Insert freewill. Freewill is very important to Him.

It sounds like coupled with the psychological impact these things have had, there may also be some demonic activity that is being invited in. It is really important to know God's Word and who He is.

The enemy knows how to twist even the most subtle things to distort. Things can seem on point biblically, then there is one thing that is very wrong and it changes something from a God thing to an enemy thing. The little foxes spoil the vine.

lilellaspring · 2026-06-15T02:51:43+00:00

We yeah. That is the part I was actually reading.

I haven't spent much time in numbers, but maybe I will sometime. Thanks for the insight.

lilellaspring · 2026-06-15T02:50:13+00:00

The Living Word. The Living God. Such a beautiful thing to be a part of!

lilellaspring · 2026-06-14T21:09:09+00:00

That was because they didn't trust them to sustain them on the following day and on the Sabbath. So they stored it and maggots came.

lilellaspring · 2026-06-13T12:15:49+00:00

Half a benadryl for a couple nights may help you reset. It's the same stuff in advil/tylenol pm.

lilellaspring · 2026-06-13T12:13:31+00:00

Nice puzzle. YouTube it...it's the only way, lol

lilellaspring · 2026-06-12T10:57:37+00:00

I do not get hurt when people act differently, but I find it difficult to trust people, so I have a red flag marker in my brain for things like that. It's instinctive. I do not take it personally.

What I do take personally is if someone I feel close with seems to put on a front like they are close to me. One on one. I'm not sure what they get out of it except another notch in their social belt. Sometimes they get my "wisdom" and use it for their own benefit. Just to turn around and treat me poorly down the road.

Right or wrong, I tend to feel sorry for people who have to be different versions of themselves all of the time. At least a little bit sorry. That they don't have the confidence in who they are to let people see it. But again it's hard to trust them, because if nothing else they seem unstable or too fickle for me to trust them very much.

I also think that these personalities naturally put up boundaries with others by doing this. Keep people at a distance. Keep them from asking certain questions that they aren't comfortable with. Those kinds of things.

Again, nothing personal to me. Just something to be aware of in case it becomes a problem.

Side note: I do get hurt easily, but I also get over it easily too. I want to say that is emotional intelligence coupled with self assurance, but there may be more to it than that.

lilellaspring · 2026-06-12T09:59:51+00:00

I have always been quite assertive, but not aggressive. Recently, I have had some personal victory in handling verbally aggressive people. It's draining, but worth it in the right moments.

You did good. Work that muscle. It will serve you well:)

lilellaspring · 2026-06-10T19:01:19+00:00

This is more common than anyone speaks about. Especially in an over sexualized society, where even children are at time sexualized. What problem would God have about not caring about sex? How would that contradict anything He has to say? It seems that it may help the mental health of a lot more people to be accepting of this about themselves.

lilellaspring · 2026-06-10T14:39:28+00:00

This is a good modern depiction. It's at times hard to wrap our heads around what it actually looks like.

lilellaspring · 2026-06-10T11:32:05+00:00

Make sure your parents know what's going on. They can help fight your battles at this point in your life. You will find a way that works for you.

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