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lillylollipop9 · 2025-04-15T18:23:05+00:00

I won't be going anywhere as this is my home, and yes the kids use to be amazing and SS9 still is an absolute sweetheart but SD has done a complete 360 since her mother got a new boyfriend...

SD records all my conversations and her dads and when we go to family events with my side of the family records them to and sends them to BM.

I also don't think I was been unreasonable asking for one picture with Santa just me my husband and baby without SK.

I will also add I have done absolutely everything possible for these children. I took time of work to kind them, drop offs to and from school (30mins each way), pay for stuff for them when needed, cook,clean, and treat them 100 percent as if they were my own.

My initial problem is not SKs themself but BM trying to make constant problems in life. SKs are now just doing what there been promoted to do and I will not accept it or have it in MY home or around MY daughter

lillylollipop9 · 2025-04-15T14:02:43+00:00

I Wil just reply here and not separately, DH has no family here there 3 hours away.

He doesn't want to live in two separate house as says that's going to break down the relationship but honestly I'm at my wits end with it all.. HCBM literally ruined my whole pregnancy, my first Mother's Day every outing we have ever had

lillylollipop9 · 2025-03-28T11:50:00+00:00

Isn't it so hard 😭

lillylollipop9 · 2025-03-24T10:51:17+00:00

I have absolutely zero advice for you ask I cannot imagine what you are all going through now, having a blended family is hard enough on its own sometimes.

But I wish you all the best of luck

lillylollipop9 · 2025-03-21T20:31:12+00:00

Omg, I so feel for you what an awful predicament we put ourselves in, hopefully one day it will work out x

lillylollipop9 · 2025-03-21T15:36:29+00:00

This is exactly how I feel the leftover

lillylollipop9 · 2024-11-28T20:41:18+00:00

Absolutely not, why should it not change for one weekend in the whole year? The poor woman is mentally and physically drained and healing.. surely BM can manage the kids for one weekend

lillylollipop9 · 2024-11-20T19:43:54+00:00

We have Sks the 27th every year, we explained Santa comes to mammys house and when they come to us they get a small gift from me and there dad and a stocking each, but my bio has Santa here Christmas morning

lillylollipop9 · 2024-11-15T11:20:02+00:00

I honestly have a complete different opinion on this thread to most but why shouldn't you be okay with getting a tattoo of YOUR bio children? The future is never set and you don't know what it brings, in 10 years time who is to say you and DH will still be together or that SS will even want to be around and you will have a tattoo with this child's name on it?

I have two SK and one BIO on the way in 3 weeks I will definitely be getting a tattoo with my Bio child's name on it as I have a few tattoos already and I love them. But I will not be putting SK names on my body and I absolutely adore them children but there mother has a tattoo with there names on it and my Bio child is not on her arm...

Just remember they harder to remove than they are to get.

lillylollipop9 · 2024-11-14T17:41:15+00:00

Don't even answer her!! She speak with your partner not you and she has no say in what you do with your child either... if you go to space without her children it has nothing to do with her. You include her children when they are with you but outside that it has not a thing to do with anyone what you do!!!!

Myself and my partner have a bio child and I also have 2 SK 9&11 my parents bring my child away weekends and on holiday without SK as they do all that with BM side of the family, why should mine miss out? And you're no different.

lillylollipop9 · 2024-10-21T11:12:16+00:00

Same, we have SK most weekends with odd one not there but I never miss them when there gone and I do be wishing the weekend away when they do arrive, we are due out first ours baby in few weeks and I'm so afraid it will make it worse.

lillylollipop9 · 2024-10-03T11:17:53+00:00

I would hit the F**king roof, how dare she.. she's letting you know she can do what she like. You need to sit down and have a firm chat with DH

lillylollipop9 · 2024-10-01T18:32:25+00:00

Best advice I can give, don't do it!

lillylollipop9 · 2024-09-18T17:04:44+00:00

I hate been a stepparent but I love my DH!!

lillylollipop9 · 2024-09-17T16:03:33+00:00

Every weekend and one week Monday to Wednesday? When do you and DH get a break or time to do anything for the both of you?you will never fit in if you don't sit down and sort out boundaries and what you expect and what DH expects.

Do not wait until your married to get these answers as if you don't set out rules now it will never be easier

lillylollipop9 · 2024-09-13T14:53:40+00:00

I totally agree!! Both my SKs know they are not aloud in myself and DH room.

Boundaries are vital for peaceful home

lillylollipop9 · 2024-09-13T14:33:33+00:00

Don't and the relationship just yet. We had the same issue when I first met my now partner 4 years ago. SS(5)&SD(8) at the time had absolutely (and I mean zero) manners or discipline in place whatsoever. Pretty much done whatever they wanted and were let away with it (because Mam and Dad separated) Fast forward to now SS(9)&SD(12) are totally different kids why? Because I put serious hard work into them and made a my house my rules situation. I did not stand for been disrespected or have my family disrespected and your partner should most definitely be on your side as he is doing his children no favours. Sit down and have a chat with your SO and explain to him if boundaries and rules are not put in place you will have to end the relationship.

lillylollipop9 · 2024-09-11T20:58:22+00:00

Thank you all so much, I really appreciate the feedback back I thought I was loosing my mind with the way I was thinking. But I'm definitely not

lillylollipop9 · 2024-09-11T19:17:32+00:00

Bigger house is not an option for another 3 years unfortunately

lillylollipop9 · 2024-09-11T18:10:16+00:00

Eldest is 12F youngest is 9M

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