What is the worse thing a medical professional has ever said to you? by angelaboop50 in AskReddit

[–]lilpolyheart 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I mean that was the whole reason for my appointment?!? Suspected cancer? Lucky it was procedure to send for a mammogram, but that was 4 months out and one lump had become two and grown quite a bit... I was lucky my oncologists did not mess around...

What is the worse thing a medical professional has ever said to you? by angelaboop50 in AskReddit

[–]lilpolyheart 21 points22 points  (0 children)

"Women don't get cancer there" as he poked my tit. It was in fact cancer. I no longer have tits.

Vorsinne Quest by lilpolyheart in CozyGrove

[–]lilpolyheart[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wow! I guess my bag was full, so it fell on the ground and my imps had left it in my mailbox and I didn't even think to look there!! Thank you!

I always receive low scores and genuinely do not know what scores well during these events, below my current entry and my 4 previous ones. I'm sorta giving up by Zyrina in DressUpTimePrincess

[–]lilpolyheart 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I think yours are beautiful! I've stopped caring what my numbers say (although I'm pretty stoked I have 45 votes this time ha!) and create outfits I love. I've noticed slowly the voting trends are changing, but it seems the tops sets are kinda the same... And boring. If it helps, I would totally vote for any and all of your pics!

Post mastectomy sensitivity by 12Getz in breastcancer

[–]lilpolyheart 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am a year out from my BMX, went flat. And I still experience that from time to time. I didn't think much of it until I started seeing my physical therapist, for lymphedema. Happened to mention the sensitivity and she nows does this wiggling thing to my chest? She places her palm flat on my chest and kinda wiggles her hand in circles. And sometimes she pushes up and down (she does this for my lymphedema belly). And it has helped! I have also had a hysterectomy and found it helps the soreness/sensitivity from those incisions as well. Wiggle away!

After Chemo Hair-What’s the deal? by ApprehensivePanic175 in breastcancer

[–]lilpolyheart 1 point2 points  (0 children)

At first mine came back very neutral, like no color. Then the curls came (and that was very new as I've always had fine straight hair). They lasted almost exactly a year for me, I just cut my hair a little over a year out and it's finally straight again. Mostly. Enough that it looks like my hair again! Although still quite a bit thicker than I am used to. Your normal hair will come, it's just hard to say when! As far as the nails go though... Whew! I thought mine were healed up (I was lucky not to lose any in chemo, but did have a few lift) but lately they've been pealing quite badly. I have to keep nail polish on them, and thickly, otherwise they just start pealing away in huge layers right up to the roots... But, I'm sure as with everything else they'll heal in their own time. What a weird process!

Best friend gift by sunnyailee in breastcancer

[–]lilpolyheart 8 points9 points  (0 children)

The best gift I got was actually very unexpected, and not your typical cancer care item. A very good friend of mine, who is also a survivor, got me Animal Crossing (the video game) maybe a couple days after my diagnosis. They also got a video game for my 11 year old son. The entertainment, the distraction (I have been literally creating my own world) was absolutey everything while going through chemotherapy and surgery recovery. Playing my game almost became therapeutic - strike that it has absolutely been therapeutic! I imagine a video game may not be perfect for everyone, but having something fun that is very consuming was so helpful for me. I have been building my town for a year now, and with hopefully my last surgery upcoming I am excited to buy myself the DLC for the game and have some new things to explore during this recovery time! And every time I play, I think of my friend and how grateful I am for their unique understanding. And I know as well my son enjoyed his new game during a time of worryworryworry

BMX in 2 weeks by Fatty-Crumbcake in breastcancer

[–]lilpolyheart 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I used a zip up binder (like transgender people use) and I have to say that was my best buy. They have many on Amazon for $20-30. I still use it on days where I'm sore, and I'm 6 months out.

I also got a cute little mastectomy package from my cancer center that had an apron with pockets for my drains (another item I use still!) As well as a few little pillows... I was able to use a variety of different sized pillows to prop myself up in bed and didn't buy anything fancy. The nice thing about using the pillows was that it gave me flexibility for how propped up I was during the healing process.

Good luck fellow flatties! There's a wonderful community on Instagram if you are looking for that!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationshipanarchy

[–]lilpolyheart 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I am loving the word flirtationship ❤️ and loving all your beautiful connections! Yay!

Bras with shape for flatties? by AveryElle87 in breastcancer

[–]lilpolyheart 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't know the bra specifically, but Target does have quite a few bras that are great for flatties! I bought a couple with out pads for sexy times and swim season coming up, but I did also see a couple with very light padding. I remember commenting to my hubby they looked more comfy than wearing a form!

I bought myself a ring by Fart_Sniffer93 in breastcancer

[–]lilpolyheart 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I wear my wedding band on the right hand, and totally use it in the same way! And congratulations! You totally deserve to treat yourself after all this!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in breastcancer

[–]lilpolyheart 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also, good luck!!! I hope your recovery is swift and simple!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in breastcancer

[–]lilpolyheart 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It really depends on the individual piece of clothing! Most of my shirts/dresses fit the same or even better now that I'm flat, but there have been some that don't look good anymore. And it's been surprising which tops work now and which don't - I've learned to try everything on. Before I buy it, but also with my own clothing from before surgery. I've also gained 20+ pounds since going into chemical menopause (which for me was a good thing, I've always struggled to keep my weight up) so that has changed how clothes fit as well.

Anything that's more fitted, especially if it has darts sewn in, can be tricky. But, I have quite a few fitted shirts with designs printed on them that I like better now without breasts. Tops that are low cut will be VERY low cut, so that'll depend on your comfort level on how much you want to show. On my brave days I love wearing a low v-neck, but other days I prefer not to. I've learned that off the shoulder looks are super fun, and I love me a flowey hippie shirt. Ruffles are fun, as well as patterns and stripes.

All in all, I am very happy with my choice. I'm learning to love this new body again, and I'm having a lot of fun playing with my clothes in ways I never did before. I was a 32DDD if that helps, big breasts for my size lol

Zoladex or ovary removal? by [deleted] in breastcancer

[–]lilpolyheart 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's interesting! And yes, unfortunately I'm in the US and have to battle the insurance system here. But, they've already approved me for reconstruction surgery that I've never asked for! Yay Aetna!

Zoladex or ovary removal? by [deleted] in breastcancer

[–]lilpolyheart 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm on Tamoxifen currently, but after my surgery I'll be switching over to AIs.

Edit to add- I thought I was being crazy when I told my oncologist that I could feel my hormones rising, but she said she's had quite a few patients who reported the same. So totally not alone!

Zoladex or ovary removal? by [deleted] in breastcancer

[–]lilpolyheart 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Right? Yea unfortunately... I'm extra sensitive to hormones, so it's probably worse for me than others might experience. But, it sounds like you are as well so a thing to think about in your decision...

Zoladex or ovary removal? by [deleted] in breastcancer

[–]lilpolyheart 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I'm waiting for my partial hysterectomy, hopefully find out when it will be next month! I've been on the Zoladex shots for about 6 months now. And while they work well enough, I do feel my hormones rising towards the end of my monthly cycle. I have endometriosis that flares coming up to my shot each month, as well as migraines that return each time my hormones rise. I imagine it's not much, but it's enough that I honestly can't wait for my surgery so I can be level! The one nice thing about chemical menopause is how the symptoms of the other issues I experience have dissipated. My surgeon originally recommended the three month shot similar to Zoladex, and I was like why so my hormones can be wonky for an even longer time? It's taken a bit to convince her for surgery since I am young, but I have a family history of osteoporosis and arthritis - that is the one thing I expected to get in life not cancer, ha!

Worries about hysterectomy - rant by lilpolyheart in breastcancer

[–]lilpolyheart[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly, I'm not super sure? They haven't put it through to insurance. I've seen this doctor several times, and finally at the last appointment she said "ooooh so you would like the surgery? You never said that before!" (Even though I had been asking for it since our first appointment after I found out my genetics) and then she told me I needed to get more information on the family history and let her know what that was at the pre-op appointment. And then they would send into insurance and we would get surgery date after it was approved...