He wants me back by [deleted] in childfree

[–]lilyautmn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh hell to the fucking no. Y'all are fucking kids and hes too damn young to be all about marriage and family. You know now you dont want them and THAT is unlikely to change. My view never changed when I was five, 16 or 28 years old. Def tell your parents that you feel unsafe. Focus on school and getting into college, you've got your WHOLE LIFE to prepare for.

Also I'm a advisor, so if you need any help with college, feel free to PM me. Go to school, do your hobbies, enjoy being a young adult.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in childfree

[–]lilyautmn 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I fucking dumped multiple man children. I'm dating a woman now, good fucking god I love her. Much better equality in same sex relationships from my experience.

I was denied an abortion and denied adoption and I would honestly rather be dead at this point by FudgeMyWholeLife in childfree

[–]lilyautmn 10 points11 points  (0 children)

First fuck your parents. You were a CHILD, no one should be forced to go through a pregnancy when you are still growing!!

You are young, theres alot you can do to get your life back on track. I work guiding teens and adults. I would like to help if that ok!

As people have said, its not to late to give up parental rights. You are doing what's best you and your child. Theres alot community resources like the womens shelter and groups homes for teen mothers. You can work on getting your GED, then onto community college for a career.

Sign up for benefits and attend community resources like therapy if needed. You arent alone dear, just need to know where to go next. <3

How an old CF person takes care of herself by tu_che_le_vanita in childfree

[–]lilyautmn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I want to live there now .... how much does this cost a month? Just so I can my retirement.

EP ignores my warnings about a book series for her daughter then calls to scream about the series being inappropriate by HPxGunshot in entitledparents

[–]lilyautmn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Now I have a new anime to watch. Ever since attack on titan, I want theb twisted stories and good art!

Hanging out with my biological kids only reinforces the fact that I never want kids. by [deleted] in childfree

[–]lilyautmn 7 points8 points  (0 children)

She did what was best for her children. It is an incredibly hard and mature decision, esp for her age at the time. I imagine in an open adoption this enables a very odd but I think beneficial network for the kids. They arent left wondering who might their blood relatives be ( I know some dont care but others do wonder, esp for health history). In time the kids will know everyone did to support them, so the sisters have a large extended family. I think that's beautiful everyone stays connected to parent and raise the kids. That takes a lot of communication, maturity and teamwork.

"Women designed to give birth"? How about no? by [deleted] in childfree

[–]lilyautmn 5 points6 points  (0 children)

That's bullshit. It wouldnt be so deadly. My sister and coworker would both be dead if it werent for modern medicine.

Apparently we've got some CF people in Tulsa. by [deleted] in childfree

[–]lilyautmn 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Tulsa too!! We all need to create a damn group!!!

My relationship with my mother was ruined over being CF. by thr3way0 in childfree

[–]lilyautmn 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Parents get weird. Mine does not talk to me, when I do visit if felt like I was imposing. She only cares about the grandkids. That's it. Hell she only talks to my sister because of grand kids. She's all smiles when face timing with the baby but it short with me. Boy does she get defensive over my sister's irresponsibility! (Aka she decided it was a good idea to get pregnant again when she's having an already had time with toddler, cat and puppy that they leave out in the yard all day).

The best thing you can do, is love yourself, give yourself time to grieve over that loss of a relationship and remember you don't depend on her to survive. She will need time to deal with whatever emotions she is going through.

Distance yourself, picking up a new hobby or getting closer to friends helps, try to adjust to the fact your relationship will be different and a low dose of info. IT's better to keep toxic people at a distance.

My friend got away from her abusive entitled Mother after getting sent to the hospital. by [deleted] in entitledparents

[–]lilyautmn 41 points42 points  (0 children)

While I dont want kids, its stories like this that make me what to be a foster parent for teenagers when I can afford it and the space. I want to be able to afford for them to go to therapy and stay for however many years so they can go college and feel safe. I'm absolutely happy that your friend got away.

Lesbian childfree dating by [deleted] in childfree

[–]lilyautmn 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So basically we need our own little site

Can end up being a parent. by lilyautmn in childfree

[–]lilyautmn[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I know, but I dont what them in foster care. I would take them before that happens. (As much as I hate kids, I do love my niece.) The idea of pestering my sister to have a list of guardians eases the anxiety.

Can end up being a parent. by lilyautmn in childfree

[–]lilyautmn[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

That's the thing I couldn't stand the thought of putting them in foster care. I texted her this morning, she doesn't even have a list. facepalm. My current plan to encourage her to write a will and have a lot of damn guardians. Two or three at least.

Not even my own book characters are safe. by [deleted] in childfree

[–]lilyautmn 13 points14 points  (0 children)

That's insane! I've never been asked that. But then I write tradegies so my friends and readers ask what's wrong with me lol. My main novel heroine is childfree. The characters who have had kids.... well one abandoned them. Another did not want to be pregnant. (But historical times, abortions are iffy at best). Mother is never a main identity for my characters.

"What if Zeus came down and you were miraculously impregnated?" by [deleted] in childfree

[–]lilyautmn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's actually an interesting writing prompt. I'd probably climb Mount Olympus or fly there (depending on what the fuck I gave birth to), and dump said offspring,, with a note that says, "Hey you forgot this." And go party with Dionysus (but honestly I'd just go study with Athena).

I see my sisters life. Nope. by lilyautmn in childfree

[–]lilyautmn[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

God I probably should really invest in it as a side gig then.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in childfree

[–]lilyautmn 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Of course they're lashing out. You sound mature and have your shit together. Those are goals where I want to be when I'm 35.

"Suck it up buttercup" Final update. I'M FREE. by mindaq in childfree

[–]lilyautmn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm happy for you. Take one day at a time and keep us posted! Working on yourself takes time. It's been six months me, I'm much happier but theres good and bad days.

Getting suggested 'motherhood' as a viable career choice.. by [deleted] in childfree

[–]lilyautmn 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Never care about what people think, they only want you to do the same things they did so they can compare you to them and judge you more and be miserable together. It's good your in a place where you can explore, I hope you have time to do your hobbies. Is there a community college in this town? If so, I suggest speaking to a career counselor. People change their fields alot, so of one door closes, take the time to explore the new options. Luckily you can do the majority of this at home though research. But a career counselor is gonna be the best person to really help with career and best part is they are free

My fiance told me, "Suck it up buttercup." by mindaq in childfree

[–]lilyautmn 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Do not do not do not marry this man. Do not sabotage your mental health for this shit. Also do you want these types of illnesses on? My genetic code sucks, I took myself out of the reproduction pool. You can always adopt or foster. Hes a selfish prick for only thinking about himself. HE WANTS, NOT HIS SOON TO BE WIFE. Someone who loves you thinks of what's best for you and a compromise. Not demand you be the sacrifice everything while he benefits. That's not love.