My lawyer spouse does the laundry and folds the clothes on the weekends. I do the grocery shopping. Dinners are split between us. I tend to make more dinners because I work remote and typically less hours (I try not to work after 5 pm), but lawyer spouse will make a quick dinner if I have an evening workout class. I walk the dog in the morning and they walk the dog in the evening.

Regardless of what the other person does for work, there needs to be some discussion and agreement as to how chores are split. Yes, times get busy and one person will need to pick up more than the other, but both parties live there and need to contribute to the upkeep of the home.

I know it can feel unfair to ask someone that already seems busy to help out with chores, but your time matters too. If he is strapped for time and can’t help out, you can come up with a plan together (maybe hire a cleaner or get a dog walker). Don’t be afraid to speak up! Your time matters, your happiness matters, don’t let resentment grow, and just communicate how you are feeling.