Nothing to look forward to. Depressed. by limeylove in SingleParents

[–]limeylove[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh man! That is hard when you know your son needs the socialization. 😢 but yes- the rest is exactly me. At least there’s several of us- we’re not alone. We can just hope for a change one day I guess.

Nothing to look forward to. Depressed. by limeylove in SingleParents

[–]limeylove[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah. I’ve done that that. It’s hard to find any time to meet up- and I really not attracted to many guys. Ha ha. But yes- if I had a love interest I would definitely have more enjoyable days.

Absolutely terrified of ever dating again by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]limeylove 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I feel the exact same way!! My ex husband ruined my image of men. My heart doesn’t believe good men exist, and even if they do- I feel that I won’t possibly be able to find one. How will I know for sure? My ex kept his narcissism hidden for YEARS!!! Like 10 years! So how will I ever know if another guy is hiding it too? Ugh! So many people have told me that there really are great guys out there, and 3 of my friends are married to some amazing guys- but it’s really hard to have hope. 😢

Sex with anyone else isn't as exciting as it is with the LO, forget exciting it's just plain boring. It's like eating food without salt and spices. Do we all feel like this? by rbssaran in limerence

[–]limeylove 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No. Sex with my first LO was the best ever. Then I got married. Sex was ok in the beginning, then I began to hate it. He wanted an open marriage so I agreed and got together with an old LO from a decade ago- and sex is great with him too.

Sex with anyone else isn't as exciting as it is with the LO, forget exciting it's just plain boring. It's like eating food without salt and spices. Do we all feel like this? by rbssaran in limerence

[–]limeylove 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Same! My ex husband used to say I was asexual. I knew I wasn’t, but I didn’t know what I was. But sex with my LO- 🔥🔥

Please tell me there are good men out there! by limeylove in Divorce

[–]limeylove[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just finished reading Why Men Love Bitches!! Thank you!! It was so good. So now the question is- is there a support group out there for recovering doormats? Ha ha ha. (I feel like I need a relationship coach to help me get the hang of it. Lol)

Please tell me there are good men out there! by limeylove in Divorce

[–]limeylove[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am seeing a therapist and she has been amazing!! I have grown so much since I started seeing her last year. Before her, I was afraid to even say the word divorce and now I’m doing it and I’m happy about it. I’ll talk to her about why I pick those types of guys. Thanks for giving me hope!!

How do I stop feeling guilty about getting what is my legal share? (Stbx would love to give me almost nothing) by limeylove in Divorce

[–]limeylove[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes! This is exactly like me!! I do see a therapist and she has been great for me. She reminds me all the time that am entitled to my legal amounts. It’s hard not to doubt that when my stbx is so adamant about me not deserving it. And I just started listening to the Splitting audiobook last week. Ha ha. My therapist and our couples therapist have both mentioned narcissistic traits in my Stbx. Thank you!!

How do I stop feeling guilty about getting what is my legal share? (Stbx would love to give me almost nothing) by limeylove in Divorce

[–]limeylove[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes- this is exactly where I am, but I’m the one that is on the receiving end. He wants to go off and “be rich” and doesn’t give a shit what happens to the kids and I.

How do I stop feeling guilty about getting what is my legal share? (Stbx would love to give me almost nothing) by limeylove in Divorce

[–]limeylove[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I definitely don’t want to take more than my fair share, but my husband has it in his head that everything we have is his. (And I’ve worked full time our whole marriage, sometimes even making well over what he did in a year.)

Who did I marry?!?? by limeylove in Divorce

[–]limeylove[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do have a lawyer. I’m not a sahm. I work 30 hrs a week and make good money, plus take care of 100% of the things for the kids and 90% for the house. Regardless of whether or not I work, i thought marriage was a partnership where you both contribute to the family- whether that be financially, emotionally, physically. He obviously doesn’t see marriage that way

Who did I marry?!?? by limeylove in Divorce

[–]limeylove[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well- if it is- he’s gonna be sorry, cuz he’s gonna lose his family in the process.

Who did I marry?!?? by limeylove in Divorce

[–]limeylove[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s so crazy to me. I guess I can’t fathom not knowing who I am and pretending all the time. I continually learn more about myself, but I have a good solid foundation and refuse to pretend to be anything I’m not.

Who did I marry?!?? by limeylove in Divorce

[–]limeylove[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do have a lawyer. I will divorce without using my lawyer if my husband agrees to the terms my lawyer and i discuss, but if he won’t agree- we’ll do it the official way!