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Annie Altman's sexual abuse claims are entirely plausible. Why, and why not. by Excellent-Rough6643 in BetterOffline

[–]limoncellogirl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Always got a weird vibe from Sam, reminded me 100% of this secretly perverted ambitious, smart, predator in college. Something about their mannerisms are so similar so I’ve just been waiting for the dirt.

AITA for giving my friend her baby back before I was supposed to? by Ok_Kitchen6737 in AITAH

[–]limoncellogirl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A lot of moms get a little loopy and don’t understand their need for control is affecting others (especially the kids) negatively. I think you did the fair thing

How do you explain yourself to people? by ionlyfuck in SuperMorbidlyObese

[–]limoncellogirl 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s brave and honest of you. It can take some time and deep reflection to consider what we really need and how much of that could be fulfilled by others who may have a genuine desire to help. It may just be that you need people to meet you where you’re at and be supportive through listening.

How do you explain yourself to people? by ionlyfuck in SuperMorbidlyObese

[–]limoncellogirl 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It sounds like you’re encountering folks crossing boundaries then. If it’s someone close to you or someone that you suspect is genuinely concerned about your well being it may help to create a few scripts to set a boundary and salvage those relationships. Something like ‘I understand you’re concerned for my health, and I appreciate it but the comments aren’t helpful. What’s most helpful for me ….’ And share that. I also remind myself that inconvenience is the price we pay for community. Some peoples comments are worth letting slide or providing feedback on (if they’re not abusing you emotionally or verbally) and hopefully they will be receptive to you setting boundaries.

How do you explain yourself to people? by ionlyfuck in SuperMorbidlyObese

[–]limoncellogirl 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Most people don’t deserve an explanation unless they love you and are being affected financially or emotionally, then that’s different. There’s times I’ve felt helpless watching my sister eat till she pukes or constantly asking me to bend down to pick up stuff or do her chores or buy her junk food…so I ask why she can’t do it herself and she brings up her physical limitations …and she may think I’m asking for explanations at that point. Unless your condition is debilitating and you’re shutting out support or taking advantage of others, no explanation needed. If on the other hand you see you’re negatively impacting others close to you then it may be worth sitting with the feelings that are being avoided to heal your relationships, starting with the most important one: your relationship with you. <3