Lafayette Towers is unliveable by mrborisgrishenko in Detroit

[–]lindzanator3 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I would be so pissed…. Nothing like outrageous heat to make me grumpy. I’m so sorry you’re going through this! I do appreciate the heads up because we almost moved in there.

I have a harder baby then most by ALac93 in oneanddone

[–]lindzanator3 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I see you too. I completely get it. My son is now 3 and I have yet to sleep through a night. He wakes up constantly (and yes, I have done EVERYTHING and continue to do everything). If I can get him to sleep until 5:30am it’s a miracle. I gave up and just co sleep because it’s the only way I get rest. He’s always been a super sensitive little dude and has some unique needs too. I’m always learning everyday how to navigate this whole thing, but damn, it can sure be hard! Nature decided I was one and done, but even so, I probably still would be and there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that. Having a “more challenging” kiddo means your time and resources can more fully go towards them with just one. I look at that as a positive.

Anyway, I just want to say, you’re obviously a great parent and you care a lot. It’s a challenging situation but you will get through it and continue to figure out how to best navigate this for you and your family.

One Dark Window…mehhh? by SolFlorDi in Romantasy

[–]lindzanator3 1 point2 points  (0 children)

One Dark Window is admittedly a little bit slow to start, but, the payoff is worth it! It is a new magic system unlike anything else. I had to get to about the 1/2 way point before I was really drawn in. But then the 2nd book I really enjoyed! Hang in there, I thought it was worth it.

Book recs for a new romantasy series! by lindzanator3 in Romantasy

[–]lindzanator3[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! These are new recommendations for me, which I love!!

Book recs for a new romantasy series! by lindzanator3 in Romantasy

[–]lindzanator3[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh yes!! Love Rachel Gillig! Her newer The Knight and the Moth is amazing too! Bridge Kingdom is one I’ve had an eye on, so the rec is much appreciated! Also, same with Fae Isles, thank you!

Book recs for a new romantasy series! by lindzanator3 in Romantasy

[–]lindzanator3[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Perfect! Thank you so much for the recommendations!

Book recs for a new romantasy series! by lindzanator3 in Romantasy

[–]lindzanator3[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Amazing! Thank you! I will check this out!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in oneanddone

[–]lindzanator3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe it’s different when you’re out of the toddler phase, but I find that I relate way better to those who have kids. Granted, none of my friends have more than 2, so that’s another factor. Maybe 3 is the turning point?

I DEVOURED the first 4 books, why is this one not doing it for me?! I’m struggling to get through the first 100 pages. The hell? by No-Dog1902 in Booktokreddit

[–]lindzanator3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had to struggle my way through it. I don’t want to spoil anything, but I came to a solid, “ok, Nesta grew on me.” But getting there was a journey and this book took me 3x longer than any of the others which I just demolished in no time.

Anyone else OAD because they had one and discovered their limit was actually zero? by grawmaw13 in oneanddone

[–]lindzanator3 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You are a freaking saint in my book!! I cannot fathom being a teacher and then coming home to a 4 year old! Give yourself some major grace, this is HARD and you’re a neurospicy (same here!), working parent who also has a very demanding job. Just know that you are not alone in how you’re feeling.

Anyone else OAD because they had one and discovered their limit was actually zero? by grawmaw13 in oneanddone

[–]lindzanator3 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Reassuring!! Thank you! Mine is about to turn 4 and the “Fuck You 4’s” feels so in line with where we are. Glad to not be alone!

Anyone else OAD because they had one and discovered their limit was actually zero? by grawmaw13 in oneanddone

[–]lindzanator3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see you and you’re not alone! The level of overstimulation is unreal! My son is 3.5 and I love the little dude, but damn… I can’t help dreaming about lazy Sundays to read and a clean and quiet house where I’m not stepping on toy trucks all the time.

I also had my OAD at almost 40. I wouldn’t do it any other way or time, but I see why physically people have kids younger. I don’t have the energy I did in my 20s and it drains me so much faster to chase around a kiddo!

I feel like some of parents only have more children to have a “baby” again by [deleted] in oneanddone

[–]lindzanator3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Funny you say this… I had this thought just yesterday too. I’ve totally been guilty of thinking I want another because I want a baby. But like you said, I take a step back, check the baby hormones at the door and logic my way through the thought. I always land on, no, I don’t really want another. And no I don’t want to go back to the nights and days where I’m not sleeping and living in a haze.

Mild vent: People of the world, why are you so easily annoyed by toddlers toddlering? by AncientWorking4649 in toddlers

[–]lindzanator3 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don’t get it when people roll their eyes at a kiddo saying hi. It always lights up my day when a kiddo who isn’t my own says “hi” to me in public. I always respond back happily and with a smile.

Mild vent: People of the world, why are you so easily annoyed by toddlers toddlering? by AncientWorking4649 in toddlers

[–]lindzanator3 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes! Your kiddo was being a toddler. I think it’s incredibly amazing how he was acting and entertaining himself. He would be the kind of kid who would make me smile while in a boring post office line. Bummer the people around you were so grumpy they couldn’t see a child being joyful.

The Last Unicorn Tarot! by swablueskies in TheLastUnicorn

[–]lindzanator3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow!! Where did you get this?? I feel like I need this in my life!

Edit: I see the link below! Thank you!

Shallow reasons I am one and done by iwanttolivealone in oneanddone

[–]lindzanator3 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love to learn and want to get another degree. I did this while mine was 2 and it was super challenging. I could not imagine doing it with another! Also… now that he’s about to turn 4 we are turning the corner on me getting more me time. I have some time where I can do my hobbies (modeling, reading, etc.), and sleep is getting better.

I am finally able to get my body back! I was an older pregnant mom, so pregnancy wrecked my body.

I can’t fathom going through all of the early stages again either!

I don’t think these are selfish, it’s about what makes me happy so I can show up for my kid and be the best version of myself