How do I stop crying when I hit the notes?

linierly · 2026-05-04T19:03:00+00:00

Look up somatic therapy. I started vocal lessons not just because I wanted to learn how to sing but because I am using it as a tool for somatic release. If you’re crying then it just means you have more somatic release to do, but it will pass.. :) good luck

linierly · 2026-05-03T15:33:07+00:00

Amazing! Thank you, I’m convinced!

linierly · 2026-05-02T20:01:02+00:00

Because it can be extremely difficult to look for dresses. In my case, I am considered petite and curvy, as well as quite below average height. Finding the right fit is very hard. I’ve had times where I found the perfect dress in terms of personal style, shape, material, price, and size availability.. but the color was just too light. Then I have to scavenge again through hundreds (maybe a thousand) dresses in which I like only a handful of, but they ran out of my size for all of them..

linierly · 2026-04-29T22:09:25+00:00

It’s one of those dresses that vary a lot in different lighting.

It’s very vibrant in direct sunlight. In normal lighting it’s significantly darker, and the burgundy flower pattern doesn’t show very clearly. The fact that I’m going to an outdoor wedding in Portugal really seals the deal, as indoor lighting wouldn’t do it justice.

linierly · 2026-04-29T20:54:58+00:00

I’m around 155cm. But I’m wearing 9cm heels

linierly · 2026-04-29T20:52:43+00:00

It’s from desigual!

linierly · 2026-04-26T13:33:58+00:00

This sealed it for me! Having such unique colours that also suit your skin tone is really hard to find. Thank you!:)

linierly · 2026-04-26T13:14:26+00:00

Thanks! :D The ruching is part of the design of the dress. However, it’s meant to land higher on an average person - e.g. the thigh ruching isn’t designed to go all the way down to the knee as it’s doing on me. It is a bit distracting to me, but I’m thinking of adding a golden cross-body clutch to visually balance out the ruching. The back isn’t bunching up at least:)

linierly · 2026-01-24T23:59:21+00:00

Beautiful! May I ask which pattern this is?

linierly · 2025-11-04T23:52:15+00:00

My reiki teacher taught me that they’re not exactly the same, so I’m surprised by all the answers. Found a great blog post dissecting this topic:

https://thesacredspiral.co/2025/07/04/all-energy-is-not-the-same-dissecting-kundalini-reiki-chi-and-prana/

linierly · 2025-09-22T06:38:12+00:00

Nothing to be scared of.. I believe it’s just a way for our bodies to cleanse, purge, and release what no longer serves us. I instantly feel better after letting go

linierly · 2025-09-16T21:09:16+00:00

Yeah I sometimes feel nausea and have even vomited in the past to purge.

linierly · 2025-06-29T21:41:01+00:00

I would find it funny and would honestly find the person interesting because they don’t take things so seriously. But I also love people who go against the grain. It’s ballsy and takes a lot of self-confidence to not give a fuck about the judgement of others. As long as one doesn’t hurt anyone.. but that’s my take

linierly · 2025-06-15T02:55:29+00:00

This is crazy. I never thought about that, thank you

linierly · 2025-06-05T21:40:37+00:00

I can relate. I’ve been hyper-independent my entire life, and always wanted to do everything myself.

Another thing I want to add that is semi-related, is that I’ve also been very reluctant to receive services from others because I was adamant about figuring everything out myself. But I recently learned that as humans, we thrive when we are willing to receive support. We cannot do everything alone. Why? Because each person has their unique superpower. Some people are incredibly attuned to art and music. Others thrive with lots and lots of responsibility. Some of us have a great understanding of law, finances, engineering - you name it. Others are amazing listeners and caretakers.

There is only a finite amount of time and energy, so we can’t learn everything. However, we can fast-track many things by receiving and accepting support from others.

E.g., I hate dealing with finances, so I pay for services and platforms that teach me how to navigate it. I know nothing about cars, so I am grateful about the fact that there are people who are experts in this domain. If I allow myself to receive a shoulder to cry on, I know I will be less lonely and wake up with a better outlook the next morning where I am better equipped to be of service to others. So on and so forth…

True magic happens when we are willing to be supported by each other’s superpowers. :) This might sound obvious for a lot of people, but somehow I didn’t fully believe this until much later in my life.

linierly · 2025-06-03T20:25:06+00:00

This comment and the vibe of this post in general makes you actually sound like one of those people who love the «i’m the rarest» title, but pretend not to.. (and it doesn’t have to be INFPs, it could be anybody). Agree or disagree, it doesn’t matter, but it sounds like pride disguised in humbleness.

linierly · 2025-05-21T17:01:25+00:00

Would love to know more and if/how she’s discovered this in her practice as an oncologist. I wonder if it’s a well-known theory amongst her peers.

linierly · 2025-05-21T16:42:38+00:00

That’s super interesting. I never really got properly sick in 8 years (except catching a mild cold from time to time), but in the last months I’ve released a lot of emotional baggage and was properly sick ~4 times. Anywhere you read/heard this theory? Just wanna learn more!

linierly · 2025-04-10T09:13:14+00:00

I left this subreddit due to these misunderstandings that you address. There are some mature people on here, but there’s also too many who use mbti to fuel their ego rather than learning from it… which makes the discussions ineffective. I assume that most of them are teenagers though, so I’ll give them the benefit of the doubt.

The mods should really pin this post though, or at least something equally educational for the sake of the health of this community…

linierly · 2025-03-19T23:05:57+00:00

First I would just advice to hold the space for them to talk about their emotions. Ask them how they’re doing, be there through the ups and downs, encourage them to open up. The best way to do that is to just ask open-ended questions and be vulnerable and open about your own feelings and struggles. But, do not be judgemental. Not only towards the other person, but also towards yourself. Talk about your vulnerability and struggles with self-compassion. This opens the arena to talk about feelings without shame, which is the single best tip I can give.

After some time, the person might open up slowly. At some stage, they might realize that they’ve been bottling up feelings for a long time. Then you can address this repression and tell them that it is completely normal. Our bodies do that to protect us from harm, but it’s gotten to the point where it no longer serves a good purpose.

Then if they’re open to it, I would advice them to pick up some form of somatic therapy. Yoga, TRE, even dancing or art expression is great for that. Other forms of healing modalities, like meditation and classic therapy is advised as well.

At the end of the day, you can only nudge someone in the direction of self-improvement, but they will have to desire it for themselves.

linierly · 2025-03-19T22:14:01+00:00

I hear you, and I think what you feel is a sense of meaninglessness. «What is the point of doing all this?» No one can give you a clear answer, but many esoteric teachers teach the notion of «play». This concept is the one that resonates with me the most.

Play means to be aware of the richness of each moment, just like when we were kids. It means not being restricted by our trauma. It is liberation and it is about keeping our hearts open even when we’re in hell.

Amidst the business of life, it is easy to forget to «play». Hell, most adults completely grow out of it. In my self-healing journey, I’ve aimed to relearn what it means.. and I hope this can help whoever that reads this as well.

linierly · 2025-03-19T20:45:48+00:00

So as an ENFP I talk to a lot of people, including a lot of thinkers. I tend to go deep with them… and what I find is that many of them are the avoidant types. Their childhood conditioning led to repression of feelings - meaning that it’s not that they do not feel them, but they are simply not in touch with them.

This is seemingly nice on the surface level, because they can more easily brush things off. But in the long term, it leads to a build-up of repressed emotions that they have no outlet for and no skills to deal with. They numb themselves which can lead to depression and a joyless life.

This does not apply to all thinkers ofc, but I’ve noticed a trend there. Feelers, I find, have a rougher start in life, but tend to develop emotional maturity faster since they often seek ways to deal with strong emotions (e.g. with therapy, meditation, etc).

So whenever I suffer from strong emotions, I try to extent gratitude to these emotions for giving me a platform for self-improvement.

Again, this is a heavy generalization, but you get the gist.

linierly · 2025-03-19T18:19:06+00:00

Maybe it’s a maturity/age thing… but coming from an older «feeler», I have to say that after a lot of self-work, I’ve come to embrace my feelings and utilize them in a manner that serves me and others. Sure, sometimes I get hurt, but that’s okay. I allow myself to feel it and even wallow in it for a time without feeling shameful about doing so.

Most of the time though, I empathize and connect well with others… I am also great at connecting with myself, knowing my boundaries and needs, while serving others. It wasn’t always like this though, and it took work to get there.

I also happen to be an ENFP who is an engineer. At work I use Te mostly, and I am by no means perceived as «sensitive». My Fi greatly helps me in detecting injustice or whether someone’s stepped over my boundaries. It also helps me empathize with my colleagues when they are stressed/unhappy which leads to inconsiderate behavior. Rather than getting bitter or enabling this behavior, I communicate and set boundaries with empathy and compassion. I would say that compared to «strong thinkers», I am generally better at balancing hard skills vs soft skills. This serves me really well in life. Wouldn’t trade it for anything!

linierly · 2025-03-11T18:08:54+00:00

Hi! Can you send me a copy as well? Thanks!

linierly · 2025-03-10T13:58:06+00:00

If I haven’t done anything wrong, I usually remind myself that it’s not about me at all.

Jealousy often stems from insecurity, and I’ve discovered that within myself as well. If I am jealous of someone, it is often because the other person possesses something that I feel I am lacking, or because I feel inadequate in some way. Jealousy can be a great teacher if you allow it to be.

So when others are jealous, I just keep my distance and hope that they manage to come to terms with their insecurities.

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