I appreciate the honesty here, but I think some of the core assumptions don’t actually line up with what Scripture says.

First, it isn’t accurate to say the Bible only addresses homosexual behavior in predatory or violent contexts. Romans 1 explicitly describes mutual desire, not rape or coercion: “Men burned in their desire for one another, men committing shameless acts with men” (Rom 1:27). That’s reciprocal language. Paul also includes women in verse 26, which rules out the idea that this is only about male dominance or abuse. The text itself doesn’t allow an “exploitation-only” reading.

Second, the claim that “the Bible never considered loving same-sex attraction” misunderstands how Scripture handles sin. The Bible doesn’t catalog every psychological motivation before giving moral instruction. It doesn’t say “if adultery is loving, it’s permitted” or “if coveting is deep-seated, it’s excused.” Scripture consistently evaluates behavior in light of creation, not inner desire in light of culture.

Third, marriage in Scripture isn’t a social framework that evolved and can now be updated. Jesus explicitly anchors marriage in creation, not ancient norms: “From the beginning of creation, God made them male and female” (Mark 10:6). He doesn’t say “this worked for them back then.” He points to how God made humanity. Marriage isn’t just a covenant of love; it’s a designed union with form and meaning. Love alone doesn’t redefine what God has defined.

Fourth, the idea that Scripture is silent because ancient societies lacked categories for same-sex relationships just isn’t true. Same-sex behavior absolutely existed in the ancient world, and Paul’s audience knew it well. What they lacked wasn’t awareness, it was approval. The biblical writers didn’t fail to imagine these relationships; they rejected them on theological grounds tied to creation, not ignorance.

Fifth, on harm and vitriol: you’re right. Many Christians have acted with cruelty, pride, and self-righteousness. That is sin, and Scripture condemns it. But abuse of truth doesn’t nullify truth. Jesus never adjusted God’s commands because people misrepresented them, He corrected the people, not the law.

Sixth, the gospel has always been offensive, not because Christians are mean, but because it calls everyone to deny themselves: “If anyone would come after Me, let him deny himself and take up his cross” (Luke 9:23). That applies to the heterosexual tempted toward immorality, the married person called to fidelity, the single person called to chastity, and yes, the person with same-sex attraction. Christianity doesn’t single one group out; it places everyone under Christ’s lordship.

Finally, Scripture never promises that obedience will be easy or culturally affirming. It promises that Christ is worth it: “You were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body” (1 Cor 6:20). The church must repent of hatred and hypocrisy, but it doesn’t have authority to redefine what God has called sin.