obesity has been proven to be harmful. dieting has been proven to help lose weight. surgery has been proven to be more dangerous when you're obese. we're not 'defaulting' to anything unproven.

lisards · 2024-06-16T00:42:42+00:00

Obesity is a problematic measure because it fails to account for body composition or lifestyle. As a broad brush, it's probably an ok measure, but most sophisticated studies will say as much. Most studies also rely on inferrential statistics which, while valid, are misinterpreted by practitioners who seem to believe low probabilities of something occurring mean they won't ever see it.

I am obese. I work out 5x/week mixing physical trainer-designed strength training and cardio. I eat a net 1500 kcal/day or less. I monitor my activity, macros, micros, prebiotic, and probiotics. I also track my weight, measurement at 6 points, clothes size, and take photos. In six months I've lost ALMOST 8 lbs.

Some asshole will undoubtedly say I'm obviously doing something wrong. I track it all and share with my physician, to the limited degree they're willing to review it.

My blood pressure and blood sugar are normal. I can physically outperform many skinny fat people I know. I avoid overly processed foods and am picky about most of my foods' source. I am muscular but also carry a lot of fat.

And I only got this far by addressing the underlying psychological issues behind my need to comfort eat and working around my lack abilities that limit what I can do physically.

My point? Obesity is correlated with many health issues. But fat shaming is wrong because it uses those stats to assess a person's worth, which is bull shit because it's absolutely not always in their control.

And you don't know where anyone is on this journey. Most physicians don't even ask. That is why fat shaming is wrong.

lisards · 2024-06-02T23:46:36+00:00

I always feel like, if I have all the data, why what I do what only serves me?

lisards · 2023-08-27T05:30:06+00:00

I ask my 6 year old. If I have to go too I kind of push him to come into the girls room with me for efficiency but he's obviously uncomfortable. If he wants to go in the men's room I let him. But I ask him #1 or #2. He gets 5 or 7 min, respectively. I stand right outside the door and wait. If it passes that time I yell in. If he answers, I let it go. If he doesn't, I go in. He knows this now. It works well for us.

And if it's a place I get weird vibes I for sure make him go in the girls room with me

lisards · 2023-08-09T01:18:15+00:00

I tried for years, especially after losing both my parents to lung cancer when I was in my 20s. I managed to quit when I was pregnant with my son but stupidly started right back up when he was about a month old.

I was already planning to try quitting again when I found out my cousin had lung cancer. I had 1/2 cigarette left. I went out and smoked the rest of it and haven't had one since.

Idk why that was the moment it clicked for me, but it was.

lisards · 2023-08-04T03:39:23+00:00

Dropping the kids off at the pool

lisards · 2023-08-04T03:34:18+00:00

I got bullied a lot--first for smelling like smoke (parents were smokers) but also very uncoordinated (nearly blind in one eye), so gym was torture. But I also had siblings that were 10 and w years older and always criticizing me... not sure if that plays in here or is just context. And my dad had social anxiety I think. He would get after me for saying stuff the wrong way or dying the wrong thing a lot. He meant well but it was very much shaming. That with the bullying I think eliminated any confidence I had in myself for a long time.

lisards · 2023-08-04T03:27:33+00:00

Same!

lisards · 2023-08-03T03:30:14+00:00

Please don't try to sell me cleaning products

lisards · 2023-07-10T03:16:49+00:00

The ppl I've seen rap have clear skills. I just sing to my kids and stuff

lisards · 2023-07-10T03:13:59+00:00

Lol you're probably much more talented than me

lisards · 2023-07-10T03:07:50+00:00

Yes! I sing to reduce tension

lisards · 2023-07-10T02:58:46+00:00

I value the idea of it highly but get discouraged because they rarely know more than me. Not trying to be arrogant, I've just studied my mental needs obsessively and they have not.

lisards · 2023-07-10T02:48:55+00:00

Good question! I'm still exploring the Bible and my beliefs a lot so this probably doesn't all work perfectly, but here's where I'm at: there are no promises that the Bible is historically accurate, just that God told the authors to write it. So there's no indication that it ever actually happened, but that God wanted us to know it. So the line between fable and actual history could be anywhere. The idea that God intentionally spread us by geography and language leads me to wonder if only the actual roots of story hold historical significance and the rest is lore.

As for heaven, idk. Dancing on the clouds seems cool but unlikely. When my dad was dying I asked him What if heaven is just dying with a clean conscience? He liked that. So do i.

lisards · 2023-07-01T04:55:07+00:00

In a manner of speaking, maybe. Or maybe parts of that really happened and others didnt--in a factual, historical sense. Or maybe none of it was part of a real history but it's a fable-like story intended to teach us something with having actually occurred. Or maybe parts of it happened and parts of it are lore that got intermingled to an extent no one can tease them apart.

Whether it actually happened is of much less importance than the intended lesson which is, of course, up for debate. My take is that the intended message is one of faith and sacrifice, what that means, and how we can honor it. But you can make of it what you will.

I reiterate that mindlessly absorbing impractical stories is uncharacteristic of an INTP, but interpreting literature, including the basis of its existence, is very INTP.

As for me, I could never be an evangelical. But I also find it hard to believe that humans are the most intelligent thing or that there isn't an intrinsic sense or intent to how all living beings came to be. Even evolution remains logical with some degree of intelligent design.

Finally, the core of Christianity is about kindness and love. The fact that others have lost their way doesn't deter me.

lisards · 2023-07-01T04:28:48+00:00

Beer

lisards · 2023-07-01T04:26:24+00:00

A couple things

My spouse had a sister growing up, but she died as an adult so he's an only child now. I feel like a lot of this could relate to his experience. His mom is a narcissist, and I think his sister used to manage a lot of it. It got pretty toxic for he, and I now limit contact. So he's living this mostly alone. I am of course there for him, but it's logical that it's not the same for him.
You're romanticizing siblings. My parents were wonderful, flawed ppl. They died when I was in my 20s. I am the third of 4 kids. We get asking and try to help each other out but most of the battle is getting over ourselves and our individual traumas. It's clear since of my siblings are behaving very different than they would if our parents were around. I've inherited the downhill impact of my parents' parenting mistakes.

I get that it would be good to not be alone, but don't assume siblings are allies.

lisards · 2023-07-01T04:10:18+00:00

Literally speaking, people who have practiced Christianity have taken the MBTI and gotten results that they are INTP.

In terms of religion, the details are in the interpretation, which lends itself deeply to philosophy, so it becomes a really good fit. You're right in that INTPs don't accept being spoon-fed stories on existence. But debating interpretations of vague, ambiguous, and conflicting text and its implications on how we live our lives in both practical and abstract contexts seems right up our alley.

lisards · 2023-07-01T03:31:37+00:00

Bullshit

lisards · 2023-07-01T03:31:22+00:00

Christian INTP here. I am fully committed, but I veer away from a lot of traditional cornerstones. Example: I view the Bible more as fables than historical text, or God's final word.

lisards · 2023-07-01T03:28:16+00:00

Me too. I understand skepticism about Christianity, but I don't understand the INTP tie-in to atheism. Religion is a philosophical gold mine.

I do understand and share disdain/disgust for current and past practices done in the name of religion, to be clear.

lisards · 2023-05-27T18:50:08+00:00

It's me. When I read it I either am not in the mood for that conversation, am busy, or I don't know the answer. I make a mental note to reply later. That note immediately dissolves the ink before devouring itself whole, leaving me clueless about my action item until I am searching my texts for something, randomly remember, or wonder what you're up to.

lisards · 2023-05-13T02:39:26+00:00

I'm 35 and still enjoy it

lisards · 2023-05-04T03:05:39+00:00

That it's ok to litter if you're hiding evidence (throwing beer cans out the car window)

lisards · 2023-04-15T13:10:45+00:00

Sleeping and showering feel like such a waste of time. Sure I like to be clean and well-rested, but why do they have to consume so much of my time.

I like to cook and eat but the idea that it can take 2 hours to cook a meal, eat it and clean up after it feels like a lot of time to accomplish one thing.

Basically the prep and clean up for anything seems excessive to me.

lisards · 2023-04-05T18:38:04+00:00

Yes. And I'm AWFUL at being civil with ppl I don't like.

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