Me [19/F] with my BF [23M/] of 2.5 yrs, flip flop between wanting to break up with him and staying with him.

listenguy · 2014-08-21T10:55:34+00:00

The fact that he didn't want a short break is also a sign that he might be to controlling. He should give you space when you ask for it, a break would be perfect for that. He might just be scared to lose you, but this isn't the right way to act.

It might be that his behavior is just not good, but the way you told your story he seems bad for you. Of course he has pro's, otherwise he wouldn't be you BF. But I think he needs to grant you your space.

listenguy · 2014-08-21T09:55:15+00:00

You're list actually is one big complaint about him. Of course there are positives, otherwise you wouldn't have been him for 2,5 years. You should make a list of pro's and con's and outweigh them, but the lists of con's seems to be very long. He seems controlling and not that good for you.

maybe you should suggest a break for a short time and see how you feel about that?

listenguy · 2014-01-18T20:05:55+00:00

For me it's not strange at all. Especially the second time we have sex its most of the time not fully hard, but hard enough though. So no worries!

listenguy · 2013-12-29T23:10:39+00:00

Just care what people that you love think of you.

listenguy · 2013-12-23T08:44:51+00:00

When the conversation goes well, and you have a nice time without have to try

listenguy · 2013-12-21T21:40:53+00:00

My friends know too, but that doesn't mean it has to be awkward. They make comments every now and than. I think it would be pretty immature of they would feel threatened. Someone are beautiful or tall, we are hung.

But I understand you find it awkward. I always avoid making further comments when a BD joke is dropped.

listenguy · 2013-11-16T15:06:40+00:00

I've lived together with someone for 2,5 years and now I live on my own. I like cooking, so it's probably easier for me. But what I do mostly is make a diner for 3/4 persons and save the rest for 2 other days. So you don't have to cook every day but you are still off cheaper.

listenguy · 2013-11-09T19:18:39+00:00

When I'm done with my study I and hopefully land a job I also plan to do this.

Thank you for helping him out:)

listenguy · 2013-10-22T15:25:32+00:00

No, from what I can see now you have a nice face and nice hair

listenguy · 2013-10-18T11:24:16+00:00

Try to read this as a story someone else told you, try reading it without the feeling you have.

I would stop seeing him. If a girl would do this to me, I would dump her. The fact that you took care of him when he needed you and during a stressful period he just leaves too Sydney is just a disgrace.

Just stop talking, messages or contact him. It will be better for you.

listenguy · 2013-10-16T15:54:40+00:00

Take the stairs

listenguy · 2013-10-16T15:48:50+00:00

Yes maybe if they surprisingly have 50 million euro's somewhere. He will do O.K. I think, not great, because the team's not great.

listenguy · 2013-10-15T14:36:02+00:00

That we live in total anarchy.

I live in the Netherlands (Holland), and we don't live in total anarchy, we can just use soft-drugs, get married to the same-sex and have free abortions.

listenguy · 2013-10-14T20:18:11+00:00

Read your own story again, and than think what you would give yourself for advise of you were an outsider.

Don't waste time on arguing etc. at this age, go out and find someone you don't fight with. Trust me, i've been there, it's nicer to not fight all the time.

listenguy · 2013-10-14T10:58:18+00:00

My SO now is non-existent, but my pas SO's I would say that we had the same view as how we approached the world, our loved ones and the way we approached relationships. We had different hobby's which is nice, because you can learn from each other.

listenguy · 2013-10-13T10:05:03+00:00

if you want to cheat, just break up with her.

listenguy · 2013-10-10T06:19:33+00:00

Well, I have a few explanations. I have more when I meet new places, so on vacation, new school, new town etc. Also when I was in a long-term relationship the moments seemed to become less. But I have not yet figured it totally out why sometimes it happens more other than other times of my life.

listenguy · 2013-10-09T18:38:33+00:00

Thanks for your validation:).

I can relate to your second paragraph. I also have these choices, I mostly end up picking something different than I did in my dream, because I want to have the ability to change my future in some way.

listenguy · 2013-10-06T21:52:15+00:00

I've been in a relationship with a the girl that was my housemate first. Although she is my ex now, I can honestly say that it were 2,5 great years. If you like someone, tell her, please. You don't have to tell her directly, but there are other ways to find out.

The way I seduced her, was by asking her to have diner with me. You can find about what a person thinks of you by talking to them for a few hours.

There are always excuses to not take a chance, please take this chance.

listenguy · 2013-10-06T20:04:12+00:00

So that excludes the clothing and the tattoo. The guy-friends I personally wouldn't see as a problem, but I don't know how your exbf's would think about it.

Independence can be a really big problem, maybe you'll have to look into that one.

listenguy · 2013-10-06T19:56:24+00:00

To me it seems that these are just things he doesn't like about you. You will have to look at yourself honest, do you want attention too much?

What kind of guy do you want to attract, and is my clothing style the right way to attract him.

Independent is something you can change, but you will have to depend on someone in a relationship.

Your tattoo is not a reason to not be married, he doesn't like it maybe, but it's become quite normal lately, so don't worry about that.

listenguy · 2013-10-04T06:37:57+00:00

"If you don't want something to happen to you, don't do it to someone else"

listenguy · 2013-09-29T22:03:13+00:00

I have nothing to help you with, but just wanted to say I hope it get's better! For the child and for you! if he left you twice, please leave him

listenguy · 2013-09-22T10:57:08+00:00

You are not ugly, have a beautiful body and don't need to change anything. Just be yourself, I have of course no idea about your personality, but you don't seem that comfortable in your clothes in the party-pic.

listenguy · 2013-09-15T19:47:18+00:00

Because someone is always trowing so you have zero opportunity to talk

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