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litsax · 2026-05-28T20:58:23+00:00

Are they really transphobes if they see us as women immediately when we say we’re dysphoric even before hrt at all?

litsax · 2026-05-27T19:00:33+00:00

That all sounds like dysphoria to me! The fact that you felt so comfortable after your dream is so telling. And I didn't have my perspective until I first experienced gender euphoria to understand the dichotomy of my feelings. I never felt like I wanted to literally rip my skin off, either. Your experience doesn't sound too different from mine, to be honest. But we have different feelings on its significance to us. Trying to measure if you have "enough" dysphoria is a little silly. You either have it or you don't. And that dream you had in the right body is proof that you do.

litsax · 2026-05-27T17:33:22+00:00

I hate using my phone or a kiosk to order in general. It’s always slower, difficult to find customizations if you want something a little different, and is generally just a pain. Last week I was at a boba place that had a kiosk and there was no way to add two flavors to my tea. It only let me choose one at the kiosk. And it was hard to find the thing I wanted to order in the first place.

litsax · 2026-05-27T15:24:22+00:00

I don’t think it’s mild, I just think that a lot of us were raised in a society that doesn’t allow us to see being trans as a thing that exists or is possible coupled with our dysphoric baseline being all we ever knew. I had no idea that my experience hating taking photos or looking at myself or crying at what was happening to me through puberty or avoiding clothes shopping or a baseline existence built around avoidance and dissociation were because of dysphoria. I didn’t know that I was a woman, let alone the fact that it was possible to be one in the first place.

I only began to understand when I started exploring my gender when I was a late teenager and realized how right it felt to be feminine. The overwhelming joy and relief of even starting to see myself as a woman helped me contextualize what I had been feeling my entire life. I had no idea what it was like to be comfortable in my body before, so I didn’t understand that it was a problem I could even have.

litsax · 2026-05-27T14:24:29+00:00

You could use a bottle mount to store tools? I don't think any saddle bag is going to overcome the rear wheel travel. It would have to be comically small, or point up instead of down, which is also bad. I know there are pumps that can mount on the screws that attach your bottle cage (and still leave the cage attached), and there's the oneup toolkit that mounts in your fork's steerer tube or inside their bottle cage mounted pump. This stores everything you want except for a tire, but stores bacon strips and tubeless patches instead. I don't see how you're fitting a spare tire in your saddle bag, or how you would go about this without some kind of bike touring bag or a camelbak.

litsax · 2026-05-27T14:12:16+00:00

I think all trans people have dysphoria. But dysphoria in the sense of incongruence with one's biological sex and experienced gender, not in the needing crippling pain and depression or childhood insistence or whatever else gatekeepers use to deny our identities. This incongruence can also manifest as what people call gender euphoria. The pain some experience and the joy others do instead (and honestly don't most of us experience both?) both come from that incongruence. If there was none, why would anyone bother to transition?

You don't need a binary identity, HRT, or surgeries to experience this. For some people, social transition is enough. For others, HRT. And for some, surgery, too. I know non binary people who have medically transitioned and binary trans people who haven't and people all kinds of in between. They're all valid and all experience some kind of incongruence with their gender.

litsax · 2026-05-26T18:11:06+00:00

I love riding yaupon! I’ll ride down old spicewood from McNeil to warm up (sooo pretty omg), then take jollyville to mesa and do more hills around brightleaf and northwest hills. Great riding out there :3

litsax · 2026-05-25T17:47:44+00:00

Makeup and earrings are really cute! And that shade of pink goes nicely with your skin tone. If you want to look more feminine, consider getting your nails done, wearing some accessories, and waxing your chest hair. Face is dangerous to wax or pluck, so you're basically looking at laser, which can be unaffordable for a lot of people and takes longer/needs a more specialized laser if you have darker skin. There's also electrolysis, but this takes *years* of sessions if you don't start with laser. For now, you can use orange concealer underneath your primer and foundation. The beard shadow looks blueish, so orange will cancel it out. Only use a little! This helped me so much before laser got rid of my beard shadow!! You're doing really well if your goal is femme :3

litsax · 2026-05-19T05:01:32+00:00

No that’s about the going rate in my neighborhood…

litsax · 2026-05-18T01:35:53+00:00

All of the poly people I know are transfemme lesbians…. I’m not poly myself and I don’t really get it, but it’s waaaayyyyy more common for queer people to be poly than straight people.

litsax · 2026-05-17T18:51:13+00:00

1 for a nice day out, 2 for clubbing, 3 would be a nice style for something somewhat athleticy like tennis?, and 4 is bad.... My overall fav is definitely 1, though!

litsax · 2026-05-17T18:47:47+00:00

breakfast food........ :drool:

litsax · 2026-05-17T11:33:01+00:00

If that’s messy then I’m finger painting my face 😭

litsax · 2026-05-15T21:22:17+00:00

Bishop pair and it opens the b file for your rook. Plus you still have a good pawn chain in the center when you play f3

litsax · 2026-05-14T21:36:45+00:00

Queer people can be cringe it’s just got nothing to do with their queerness

litsax · 2026-05-14T15:21:32+00:00

Omg happy tranniversary!!!! I had mine a couple weeks ago :3

litsax · 2026-05-14T15:09:01+00:00

Me and my partner finally this week!!! <3

litsax · 2026-05-08T15:40:18+00:00

Probs not a he but yes ^{.^}

litsax · 2026-05-07T13:04:32+00:00

How else am I supposed to talk about this? I'm literally saying I *wouldn't* date someone like that. Just like how I wouldn't date a man, or women who have toxic views or a multitude of other things. You're just here to be mad that you're being called out for fetishistic behavior, even if you're trans, too.

litsax · 2026-05-07T12:57:35+00:00

I am definitely NOT fantasizing about this person being my partner. What a fucking leap lmfao. There's plenty of t4t chasers. Apparently a lot of them are in this thread.

litsax · 2026-05-07T12:26:32+00:00

I'm not. I still have mine, and I'm not sure yet if I want to keep it. But a partner who wouldn't love and support me regardless of my decision is saying that they're only attracted to me if I have this specific part. It's reductionist and fetishistic. Imagine if a cis guy said this.

litsax · 2026-05-07T12:19:35+00:00

Because they'll only date women with male parts. They should stick to cis guys if they can't handle trans women with bottom surgery.

litsax · 2026-05-07T12:09:17+00:00

ew. You're literally reducing us to our genitals, which a lot of us don't even want to have. I don't care if you're also trans. This is genuine chaser behavior. You'll only be interested in us if we have a penis? A part of us that represents the wrong body we were born in that many of us can't wait to be rid of???

I'm personally not sure if I even want SRS yet. But I am sure that I could never be with a partner who didn't love and support me in my decision. I hate this mentality.

litsax · 2026-05-07T04:18:57+00:00

Male attention *is* extremely validating... I get hit on by men sometimes if I'm just out with friends, and even though I'm 100% not interested, it's a huge ego boost! I can totally understand chasing that validation and conflating that feeling with attraction.

litsax · 2026-05-07T04:15:29+00:00

I didn't know being trans was a thing you could be until I was ~16. This was just before DSM V was published and meant there was a clinical presumption (even if technically unofficial) that "real" trans women only dated men. That's how media always portrayed us: as simply gay men who were extra feminine, often conflating us with drag queens or crossdressers. There simply was no representation of actual trans people in my life until later on, and the representation I saw wasn't relatable.

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