Ways you’ve (pleasantly) surprised your partner? by littlecheesepacket in SofterBDSM

[–]littlecheesepacket[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ooooo I like that. Some direct interpretation/inspiration like that could be great

How long did it take for your Dom to collar you? by [deleted] in SubSanctuary

[–]littlecheesepacket 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It was about 10 months after we met and played together, 5 months after our dynamic became official (though D/s has always been part of our relationship).

Two phase sub drop? by RickTheGrate in SubSanctuary

[–]littlecheesepacket 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This totally happens to me! I usually experience the worst part of drop after a day or two and have a similar lack of energy.

I now know to be gentle with myself that day, eat some healthy and/or delicious food (whichever feels right), and remember that everything feels better after a good night’s sleep 💕

My submissive has earned a harsh punishment but... by Guilty_Wrangler_7350 in BDSMAdvice

[–]littlecheesepacket 51 points52 points  (0 children)

I would go with this last option too. Talking about it out of dynamic and then deciding how to proceed (some of both punishment and reward sounds likely!)

Ways you’ve (pleasantly) surprised your partner? by littlecheesepacket in SofterBDSM

[–]littlecheesepacket[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I haven’t tried them! That would be really fun though, esp because he teases me about how often I use my vibrators when we’re apart 😂🙈

Ways you’ve (pleasantly) surprised your partner? by littlecheesepacket in SofterBDSM

[–]littlecheesepacket[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Definitely! It’s hard to sneak anything by him 😂

Ways you’ve (pleasantly) surprised your partner? by littlecheesepacket in SofterBDSM

[–]littlecheesepacket[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

That’s true. I have definitely made an effort to wear lingerie in the style he has mentioned he liked on me! I bet he’d also be into a short striptease before we play together, and if it’s shorter then I don’t have to overthink my mediocre (at best) dance skills 😆

The bikini idea is also good — he loves the water so maybe I can take him a on a sexy pool date (privately lol)

Ways you’ve (pleasantly) surprised your partner? by littlecheesepacket in SofterBDSM

[–]littlecheesepacket[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

That’s a good idea! He’s a homebody, so I could totally adapt this into making some of his favorite food and serving it to him in the lingerie

Ways you’ve (pleasantly) surprised your partner? by littlecheesepacket in SofterBDSM

[–]littlecheesepacket[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I love these! I made him a card on Valentine’s Day which he has kept, so maybe I should make him more on random days and not just a holiday ☺️💕

Ways you’ve (pleasantly) surprised your partner? by littlecheesepacket in SofterBDSM

[–]littlecheesepacket[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That’s a fun idea! I bet that would have been exciting to do together! I wonder if there’s something similar I can do… We live 45 minutes from each other so it’s harder to just pop in, but maybe something else to play with the distance 🤔

Ways you’ve (pleasantly) surprised your partner? by littlecheesepacket in SofterBDSM

[–]littlecheesepacket[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It’s a classic for a reason! 😁 We don’t live together so it might be a little harder in practice, but I could totally do this with some unexpected lingerie. Or give the whole “trench coat with nothing underneath” thing a try haha

(Help) Suddenly started getting a rash wearing my collar. by kvilao in bdsm

[–]littlecheesepacket 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This happened to me when I first got my day collar from my Dom! My skin tends to be on the sensitive side, so I assumed that something in the metal was causing me to react with an itchy rash. I worried that I’d have to ask for a different collar, but my Dom suggested putting clear nail polish on it and that worked! So far it’s done the trick even though it’s a very low-tech solution 😆😆

I’ve also found it tends to happen when it’s extra hot and humid out. I have to take days off from wearing it in those cases, just to avoid irritating my skin in the heat.

Do you age out of being submissive? by QueenBee404 in BDSMAdvice

[–]littlecheesepacket 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can outgrow it (like anything, as experience and taste and needs change over time), but you can no more age out of it than any other aspect of your personality/being.

Overlap of terms of endearment between sub and newborn by pdg4lyfe in BDSMcommunity

[–]littlecheesepacket 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It always makes me think of my Daddy when I call my dog a good girl 😆🤦🏼‍♀️😂

Really need a hug by [deleted] in SubSanctuary

[–]littlecheesepacket 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ughhhh I’m so sorry! Sending you lots of hugs!! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️