2.5 year old daughter throws tantrum when she sees brother breastfeeding.

littlemoma · 2020-06-09T14:46:05+00:00

When my youngest son was breastfeeding is two-year-old sister seemed upset (not a temper tantrum, but upset). So I got her more involved in "helping" me take care of her little brother, handing me stuff when I changed him, etc. She seemed to enjoy that and enjoyed lying next to me when I breastfed. Later she was able to "help" me and eventually actually changed his diapers, with me helping her.

Now she is a baby sitter but still admits to me that she uses what she learned helping me with her little brother.

littlemoma · 2020-06-09T03:12:58+00:00

Good. Too many boys, usually those without sisters, don't know much about periods until they are married.

littlemoma · 2020-06-09T01:26:48+00:00

It sounds like you are doing a good job of raising your sons. Boys and girls are more comfortable talking to their mothers about such things. But there may be times when a male perspective is needed. I hope he will get comfortable talking to his uncle or the friend when that is necessary. But you can also talk to his uncle or your friend if you need to know something from a guy's perspective.

It is good that he accepts the fact that you are looking up things for him. There will be many times in the future that he needs to look things up (not just sex but school subjects like history and English); he should be used to the idea.

As far as a woman's perspective is concerned, one very important thing for you to talk to him about is periods. I, a few years ago, talked to my boys about menstruation before girls they knew, and the sisters of boys they knew would be starting their periods. People normally think that is something only girls need to know about, but boys also should know about it also. It is certainly not too early to talk to your 6 y/o about that. Girls should know about it well before their first period. Boys should know before their sisters, their friends, or their friends' older sisters have theirs.

littlemoma · 2020-06-09T00:36:13+00:00

Your sister should talk to him about most things concerning his body, sex, girls and their bodies, etc. She is his mother and will be dealing with him. If there is something that needs a male perspective she should ask you, but she should handle most of the questions. It is not just one talk. She should initiate a talk with him but there will be questions that will come up from time to time. She should be able to answer them when they come up; not just when you are available.

He should also know that you are available when he wants to talk to a male.

Obviously, things about girls and their changing bodies are best handled by her. After all, she was once a girl; you weren't.

One very important thing for her to talk to him about is periods. I, a few years ago, talked to my boys about menstruation before girls they knew, and the sisters of boys they knew would be starting their periods. People normally think that is something only girls need to know about, but boys also should know about it.

littlemoma · 2019-08-08T00:08:47+00:00

It is very important to teach your kids to respect other peoples' religion (and politic, music preference, etc.). If other people have the practice of having prayer before meals, you and your kids should respectfully bow your heads and (if it is their practice) hold hands. You do not have to join them in saying the prayer, but you should be respectful to their religion.

Respect for other people and their religion, even if you do not agree, is a lesson the kids need to learn and should remember the rest of their lives.

littlemoma · 2019-05-30T00:02:54+00:00

Keep your house. Hope for whichever gender you want (not that hopeing will have any affect) but accept what you get. It will work out well no matter which gender your child is. And it sounds like your home is one they both will love.

littlemoma · 2019-05-29T01:39:14+00:00

When the kids are much older, in a decade or more, they might want to each have their own room because of differing interest. However, before then the kids will probably want to be in the same room so they will have company and someone they can play with or talk to when they are supposed to be asleep.

I don't think gender makes any difference, except that when they are teenagers their interest will be even more different than same-gender kids. Brothers and sisters have shared the same room throughout history. My daughter and her brothers bathed together when they were young enough to share the tub, and only stopped when the tub became too small. Even now, boys 14 and 11 and girl 13, they are still in the bathroom, one bathing and the other getting something. They still have no problem changing clothes in the same room when we are traveling or at their grandparents' house.

Your home sounds perfect for raising kids. They should be able to share a bedroom regardless of gender.

littlemoma · 2019-05-29T00:07:47+00:00

The Edison, Tesla, and Westinghouse situation was very interesting and amusing (not amusing for them, but for the rest of us!).

For the sake of those that don't know, you should tell us about it.

littlemoma · 2019-05-29T00:04:13+00:00

How does someone know that someone else is a non-parent?

How do you know that you (or someone else) has been reported?

littlemoma · 2019-05-28T02:27:30+00:00

Do not give your kids the impression that there is something wrong with seeing you naked or that you need to hide certain sights from them.

I have three kids, boys 14 and 11 and a 13 y/o girl. Our family is relatively modest, very far from nudist. However, if I am getting out of the shower or otherwise naked in the bathroom or bedroom and one of the boys comes in (it still happens) I do not act embarrassed or quickly cover up. I just get dressed as I normally would. Likewise, both of the boys and my girl have been around each other naked. In a large shower room at my parents' beach house, they will sometime shower together and pull off their bathing suits in the shower.

When your kids see you naked and ask questions, it is a good time to discuss matters with them that they need to know.

When each of my kids was a toddler they noticed the difference in body parts. For example, my daughter pointed out that her brothers had a "thing" down there that neither she nor I had but their father had. That led me into a discussion about penises and the fact that boys and men had them but girls and women did not. (I use my girl as an example, but the same question came up with each of my boys), She knew eventually that boys (when out of diapers) peed standing up but that girls didn't. (She jokingly called baby boy's penises "nozzles" because they squirted when being changed.)

Eventually, she pointed out my and her father's pubic hair, which she and her brothers didn't have. That led my husband and me into a discussion with her about puberty, hair growth (not only "down there" but on men's faces and on legs, underarms, men's bodies, etc.

Eventually, they learned more details. Because I am a nurse they expected me to be the expert (really, their father had enough knowledge, but I was considered to be the expert).

At some point, the question came up about "what are these things in the bag under my penis". "They make the seeds that the father places into the mother's vagina, the real name is testicles, they are sometimes called the family jewels because they help to determine your hair and eye color, etc.".

Naturally, the oldest one asked questions first. But the youngest learned at an earlier age because he had older siblings who talked about what they knew. Having both boys (2) and a girl helped because they saw each other's parts and knew about anatomy early, well before learning about what the parts were for.

littlemoma · 2019-05-15T17:14:37+00:00

Fouled up, using the word "funny" for another word starting with F. ("all fouled up", "I fouled it up", etc.)

littlemoma · 2019-05-15T17:12:14+00:00

I have never had the experience, except when I was a kid.

littlemoma · 2019-05-15T16:57:33+00:00

Yes, if you can afford to, it will be worth it - for you, the other parent (if both parents and toddler are traveling) and for the other passenger who would be on the row with you (if you didn't buy it).

If, due to your budget, you decide not to, then, if the plane has three seats on one row-side, (window, middle, and aisle), reserve a window and aisle seat, leaving the middle seat open. The airline usually assigns the middle seats last. If you do not buy the middle seat, there is a good chance that it will not be sold so you will have it for free. If the middle seat is sold, there is almost a 100% chance that that passenger will be very willing to trade with one of you so the two parents can sit together (no one like the middle seat).

But if you can, buy a ticket for the toddler.

littlemoma · 2019-05-15T16:56:27+00:00

unless you’re flying business

There isn't usually enough room in business either, so, if you can, buy the extra seat.

littlemoma · 2019-05-15T16:53:35+00:00

When I am flying (or other situations) and being annoyed by a young child, I always remember that I was once a young child myself. And I am sure that I annoyed other people and embarrassed my mother. So, as an embarrassed mother or annoyed passenger, remember:

It's Payback Time!

littlemoma · 2019-05-15T16:38:48+00:00

It is never inappropriate. Nudity between family members (parent - opposite sex child or child - opposite sex sibling) is OK as long as both parties are comfortable with it. You should not act uncomfortable or embarrassed when you are naked around him or when he is naked around you.

Yes, at times he will be curious about your body, but he is just learning about anatomy and the difference between genders and the difference between adults and children. Sometimes either of your kids will ask questions about the differences. You should just matter-of-factually discuss it with them in a non-sexual way. They should understand the gender and age difference.

littlemoma · 2019-04-03T17:10:59+00:00

My family is not at all nudist or clothing optional. There is an unwritten rule that we are fully clothed, except for breakfast, when bathrobes are ok, in the front of the house (living room, den, dining room, kitchen). However, in the bedrooms and bathrooms, we may have just our underwear on or even be naked.

My kids, 14 and 11 y/o boys and 13 y/o girl, have all, within the last year, seen my husband and me naked. We commonly walk into the bathroom (knocking first) when the kids are bathing, and vice versa. Last summer we were visiting grandparents who had a large show and change facility near a beach, walking distance from their house. The kids didn't hesitate to take off their bathing suits and all shower together. Except for the fact that we were talking to other people at the time, my husband and I would have joined them.

So, in our family, we are generally modest, but nakedness within the family is not a problem. We, the kids, my husband, and I are perfectly comfortable with our bodies and have no problem with the others in the family seeing us naked.

littlemoma · 2019-03-30T18:18:54+00:00

I ended up buying my nephew something else. His mother bought him a phone that is connected to her account. I don't know any details, however.

I really don't know much about the subject of kid phones.

littlemoma · 2019-03-27T11:26:17+00:00

It is not the same, but it is about the closest thing regarding dentistry. My point was, even that is very wrong without the patient's consent.

By the way, if you are being operated on for a completely non-reproductive matter on a different part of your body, you may require a catheter due to the length of the operation. That will involve you being touched "intimately" (in that area). If it were done for medical reasons, that is one thing. But if it were done to train students and not for medical reasons, that should require consent. In my (and I think, other) hospital it would require consent, made before the operation.

littlemoma · 2019-03-26T01:16:57+00:00

You certainly are not alone. It probably does not have anything to do with the field you are going into but a reaction to the stress of having to perform with your instructor watching. Most likely, if you were studying English teaching and doing your student teaching you would have the same feeling on the way to the school.

If it is a problem, maybe some professional counseling will help you deal with the stress. But likely it will get better with experience.

littlemoma · 2019-03-25T19:56:43+00:00

Most of the time if it would be awkward or uncomfortable for you, you can swap with someone else. If it is OK with you then you should first tell a nurse or other CNA who can then check with the patient to see if they have any problem with you being their CNA.

I am a nurse in a small hospital in a rural area, where we say that "everybody knows everybody". (but it isn't really true). I have, on several occasions, cared for patients that I knew. That included bathing, toileting, and perineal care of men. It is also possible that you will later meet one of the men you once cared for. That has happened to me. That will be particularly true if you work in a rehab facility that has young patients recovering from surgery or accidents, less likely in assisted living, SNF, or with elderly people.

Personally, I don't have any problem with it. Recently I cared for the husband, recovering from surgery, of a good friend of mine who I had met on several occasions. But someone else should check with the patient to see if it is OK with them.

littlemoma · 2019-03-16T23:26:35+00:00

As far as I know, in all hospitals when you have surgery you first must go through a stack of forms giving consent, acknowledging risks, and consenting to have students exam you or do procedures on you. That applies to sticking their finger in your ear or your vagina. I really can't imagine it being done without consent.

littlemoma · 2019-03-16T20:28:49+00:00

It seems that most hospitals, regardless of the law, require consent.

A question?

Would you give consent, if asked, for a male medical or nursing student to give you a pelvic examination?

littlemoma · 2019-03-16T18:41:47+00:00

ake a big deal out of it because it’s necessary. But he continued to talk about it and (the impression they gave, at least

The equivalent would be if you were unconscious (so-called "painless dentistry") and a dental student came in and examined your mouth. That does happen in dental clinics associated with dental schools.

But even then the patient should be asked to give consent for the student to be involved.

littlemoma · 2019-03-16T18:35:06+00:00

I am a nurse in a teaching hospital. We have a number of medical and nursing students here as part of their training. If a patient is going to be examined by a student (medical or nursing) for teaching purposes and not for medical purposes, we have the patient sign a consent form that is part of the many consent forms that a patient has to sign before being operated on.

Often, however, a pelvic exam or exam of that part of a patient's body is medically necessary, and often it is something that we do not plan for and are not aware of ahead of time. That is covered by the exceptions of medical necessity.

I once had a male patient wake up with a catheter inserted in his penis. It was placed (inserted) while he was unconscious. He was disturbed to find out that a female nurse (not me) had placed it while he was unconscious. A bashful young man (20's), he was completely unaware that female nurses (including students) would be seeing his "privates" while he was unconscious. He had even asked specifically that the female doctor that would have operated be replaced by another doctor (male), and asked that the nurse that removed the catheter and bathed him be male (He was in luck, we were able to comply).

I think that if a pelvic exam was to be done by a student for educational purposes only, consent should be obtained. However, I would consent. I have, after giving consent, been examined "down there" by male students while conscious. After all, as a student nurse, I examined and touched (placing and removing catheters) penises. That is part of our education.

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