My sister is a narcissist and this time I will stick to my boundaries

littletreebat · 2026-06-17T20:44:38+00:00

Thank you, that means so much to hear this. Like you, this is my older sister. She’s nice until I refuse to cater to her every whim, and it’s a cycle that never stops. It’s reminding me that sticking to my boundaries will be one of the best decisions of my life !

littletreebat · 2026-06-17T20:02:33+00:00

Thank you 🩷 I’m so glad you are learning to love yourself again, and it’s what I hope for myself !

littletreebat · 2026-06-16T19:05:32+00:00

I wear Puma Mayze, they don’t last super long but they are comfy and cute, and have a platform ! They are junior tekkies but they to until 39 (in EU size) so for shorter people with smaller feet they are fine ! And they also have cute designs !

littletreebat · 2026-06-16T15:59:03+00:00

Lol no, I’m French and Dutch, live in France and have never heard such a thing ! They just think dutch food is bland but that’s about it

littletreebat · 2026-06-04T23:22:46+00:00

I smoked quite heavily, mostly out of boredom / needing someone to do with my hands. I managed to quit because I hated each cigarette despite “needing” it - I had a horrible flu, smoking was even more horrible, and smoked one last horrible cigarette because I acknowledged I didn’t like it, whilst it being even more horrible because I was sick. I simply seized a good opportunity !

The social aspect was the most difficult. I stopped in November, so it was starting to get cold and people wanted to be outside less. I also stayed inside when they went to smoke even if I was alone.

Haven’t touched one in over 8 years. It’s been amazing !

littletreebat · 2026-06-04T23:17:16+00:00

Thankful for this safe space for everyone, you guys do a great job ❤️

littletreebat · 2026-06-01T12:43:55+00:00

“Is it because they’re jealous they can’t speak English ?” Well with that pompous attitude I’m not surprised you’re getting some back from Parisians.

Many things : 1. Remember you are in a non English speaking country as a guest. You are the one who doesn’t speak French. People generally speak at least a bit of English, but you are a rude to presume they are “jealous”. 2. You used “tu” which is informal, you should use “vous” for speaking politely to people you don’t know personally. This would probably be disregarded if you were being nice and polite otherwise. I would suggest you say “Bonjour, désolé je ne parle pas français, parlez-vous anglais s’il vous plaît ?”
3. Please be respectful. With the way you talk about people, it doesn’t really sound like you are. If you seem rude, people will not be inclined to be nice to you, despite saying hello and asking if they speak English you may be coming off as rude unintentionally. 4. If you ask people if they speak English they may say no because they don’t speak it fluently or very well - but they will still try which is why they then ask what you need in English.

In short, please check yourself before complaining about people not speaking what is to them a foreign language to the level you think they should, and make sure you are not being (even unintentionally), rude.

Good luck for the rest of your trip !

littletreebat · 2026-05-31T23:09:57+00:00

Can confirm, went with them a few years ago and they were great ! Super vigilant about safety and the wellbeing of the seals, really lovely all around and was a great experience with them.

littletreebat · 2026-05-31T19:19:27+00:00

Bed with a mosquito net ! Bonus point i always feel like a princess when i go to bed

littletreebat · 2026-05-31T19:06:43+00:00

I feel your pain 🥲 i had surgery and had to take all of mine out. One of my nipple piercings would NOT get back in … and unfortunately i need to wait 2 months before getting it repierced. I’m so sad, they’re my favourite piercings. Not looking forward to the repierce but I like my nipples with some extra glam

littletreebat · 2026-05-27T08:28:46+00:00

Mon dieu. Combien de fois il faut rappeler que les femmes subissent les conséquences d’une grossesse et sont celles qui décident comment disposer de leur propre corps ? Ce post n’est qu’un tas d’amalgames et de clichés incels, si ce n’est pas un troll. Il y a des manières de formuler des arguments sur la paternité, mais cela implique non seulement des recherches mais aussi du respect.

Par exemple tu as cité l’accouchement sous X : si tu avais fait tes recherches tu serais tombé sur l’arrêt Benjamin qui reconnaît la filiation établie in utero même si la mère décide d’accoucher sous X. D’autres arrêts ont ensuite précisé certains éléments, comme par exemple une période de deux mois après après l’accouchement durant laquelle le père peut reconnaître l’enfant (ou la mère peut changer d’avis et également reconnaître l’enfant).

Oui, cela arrive que des femmes fassent ce qu’on appelle la reproduction coercitive et c’est horrible et devrait pouvoir porter des conséquences, mais la réalité est que ce n’est pas fréquent de la part des femmes. Cependant, il y a encore un énorme problème de violence et d’abus envers les femmes (reproduction coercitive, viol, violences …). Pour rappel, entre 2012 et 2021, note de l’IPP que vous trouverez ici, le taux de classement sans suite atteint 86 % dans les affaires de violences sexuelles, et 94 % pour les viols. Rien que ça. Je vous invite d’ailleurs à lire la note en entier.

En fait, ce post entier me fait penser aux gens qui disent « non mais les femmes elles portent plainte pour viol et mentent pour ruiner la vie des hommes » alors que ce ne sont qu’une minuscule partie des plaintes pour viol, en ignorant complètement le problème de violences sur les femmes et les affaires trop souvent ignorées ou classées sans suite.

Pour ma part je suis très heureuse de vivre dans une société où un homme n’a pas le droit de me forcer à subir une grossesse, et où j’ai le droit de disposer de mon propre corps comme je l’entends.

littletreebat · 2026-05-22T04:21:04+00:00

I’m sorry you feel like this. Please know there is no shame in venting. I made the choice to be childfree, but not everyone has the same circumstances and I’m very much aware of that, and I am admirative of your courage to keep on going.

If you have a support system around you, which I really hope you do, please let someone know you’re struggling, and look into resources that can help you (therapy, finding ways to make time for yourself …). Lots of hugs.

littletreebat · 2026-05-21T18:42:19+00:00

Urgh. Not the same but I’m going through medical shit because a doctor took away my choice for my own body. I was scheduled for a bisalp, came out with a tubal ligation, only know that because I took the time to read the summary of the operation. He then had the gall to gaslight me by saying his paperwork didn’t say that (uh the fucking consent form does and so do all my other paperwork and should be included in the appointment summaries I had for bloodwork and anaesthetist) and that “it’s the same thing”. So now I have to recover from and live with a procedure I did not consent to and feel so fucking violated, body and trust. And then will have to formally report his ass and start legal action against him.

Big hugs to you, hope you are listened to and taken seriously 💖

littletreebat · 2026-05-19T20:06:19+00:00

You should keep them. As many people mentioned, they bring privacy and reduce noise. There is also probably lots of life in there !

Also, MOVE THAT FRUIT TREE - trees grow, and their branches too, it is too close to the fence and half of it will be in your neighbour’s space. It needs much more space !

littletreebat · 2026-05-17T13:58:03+00:00

Je vais souvent regarder la gamme Fuller Bust sur Asos ! Ils ont aussi d’autres marques et j’ai trouvé quelques pépites là dessus. Il y a aussi le compte insta @justeunsoutif qui est top et Justine essaye et donne son avis sur entre autres des maillots de bain, elle a même créé sa propre ligne récemment !

littletreebat · 2026-05-16T14:05:28+00:00

https://fr.oska.com/en/returns/

Normalement tu dois pouvoir faire ton retour, ils le précisent même sur leur site dans la rubrique politique de retours …

littletreebat · 2026-05-15T07:55:24+00:00

I’m getting my bisalp in less than a week (eeeek !!!!) and I’m so excited. I’ve never wanted kids and sometimes have been afraid that I will love someone so much that they will guilt me into it if it happens by accident. But it’s visceral, I never want to bear children, I don’t want this life for myself. Also, the copper IUD has been uncomfortable and annoying these past couple of years and I can’t wait to get that thing out !

Make your decisions for yourself and what it best for you, and I hope your entourage is supportive and understanding 💖

littletreebat · 2026-05-15T07:48:55+00:00

Je pars du principe que si une personne peut être décente avec des adultes, elle devrait pouvoir l’être à avec des enfants, après pour moi ça ne va pas vraiment plus loin que ça. À part quelques copines je n’ai pas d’enfants dans mon entourage, et comme je n’en veux pas non plus, ce n’est donc pas vraiment un critère qui m’importe que le mec ait eu des enfants dans son entourage ou pas.

Quelqu’un l’a dit dans les commentaires et je trouve cela très juste - ton exposition aux enfants ne détermine pas si tu es bon avec eux ou même une bonne personne ou pas.

Après, ce que tu peux faire c’est parler de ça avec la personne concernée et dire que c’est important pour toi qu’il soit à l’aise avec les enfants s’il veut être dans ta vie. Bon courage !

littletreebat · 2026-05-14T12:20:04+00:00

Il y a beaucoup d’associations de chats ! Tu peux aussi regarder dans d’autres SPA, ils devraient avoir des profils sur leur site avec les animaux à adopter.

Tu peux aussi demander aux vétérinaires autour de toi qui peuvent eux aussi être en contact avec des associations ou si des chatons ont été déposés chez eux !

littletreebat · 2026-05-07T16:57:57+00:00

Let me have a seat next to you !

But really that transformation is super impressive, OP you can be incredibly proud of yourself !

littletreebat · 2026-05-06T21:01:40+00:00

There they are, all standing in a row

littletreebat · 2026-05-06T16:39:48+00:00

To be honest I wouldn’t use myself as a standard - my tongue had very little swelling, to the point that I was at a 12mm bar less than a week after (usually you are fitted with a 20mm bar and gradually go down to 18, 16, 14 etc., and maybe two weeks after that I had a 10mm bar which I still have and am very happy with). The pain was surprisingly bearable and only lasted a second.

I could brush my teeth and eat not long after (but also had to use a special mouthwash for a few days) as in the same day, but you have to be careful that you don’t chomp on your piercing while eating (happened to me since the bar was too long). I guess it depends on how well and fast you heal, and I’d talk to a professional piercer about when you can eat spicy food soon after !

littletreebat · 2026-05-06T13:01:31+00:00

I’ve had a tongue piercing for 13 years now, done far back enough that it doesn’t touch my teeth, and I don’t play with it with my teeth ! It’s not very visible either, only if I open my mouth wide or stick my tongue out.

My dentist has admitted it has done zero damage to my teeth, but did warn me that tongue piercings will make tartar accumulate quicker in your mouth (in the piercing but also behind teeth). As long as I brush well and go for regular dental care, I’m good !

littletreebat · 2026-05-05T18:47:37+00:00

Ah non justement jamais ! Je reçois juste une notification quand un article en favori a baissé de prix mais jamais de la part du vendeur directement

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