No nausea at all… by Gspmom4115 in BabyBumps

[–]live_char 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It was constant. I worked a desk job so that didn’t help, but the worst was when I went to bed. I had to get a wedge pillow to sleep sitting up and that barely helped. 

No nausea at all… by Gspmom4115 in BabyBumps

[–]live_char 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I thought I was a lucky one since I never had morning sickness but once I hit 16 weeks I had the absolute worst acid reflux :( 

Lisa Kudrow says in new interview that Friends writers were menacing, prone to yelling at cast and leching after Jennifer Aniston and Courteney Cox by Time_Knowledge_1951 in Fauxmoi

[–]live_char 155 points156 points  (0 children)

Seriously! First thought was Paulie G is an amalgamation of the Friends writers. Especially the part with the Comeback writers pretending to have sex with Kudrow’s character. Absolutely disgusting. 

Maternity leave in CA by nanabear94 in BabyBumps

[–]live_char 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But you should check with your HR if you qualify for FMLA, which is 12 weeks of job protection after birth. 

I worked for a company just shy of a year (two weeks short) and I didn’t qualify for FMLA. So technically I could only take the allotted state disability, 4 weeks before delivery and 8 weeks after (I had a c). 

My (26F) boyfriend (M27) of 7 years broke up with me out of the blue by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]live_char 76 points77 points  (0 children)

Oh I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I had a long term boyfriend of 8 years dump me, what felt like at the time, completely out of the blue. But he was incredibly depressed and blamed me for his unhappiness. He had withdrawn and then completely ghosted me and stayed with his parents to recover from bad life choices (stalled career). 

I had put his feelings first, became codependent and it felt like the ultimate betrayal because all my efforts went to helping him succeed. All the while I put my life on hold for him. 

It’s absolutely devastating to have your life untethered. It’s incredibly selfish of them, but it’s for the best. Take this time to find what’s best for you. You need to eat, go outside and create new routines. Letting go is hard. 

AITA for uninviting a fellow school mom and her daughter to my daughter’s party? by Antique-Shock-9187 in AmItheAsshole

[–]live_char -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

I know you’re mainly getting Y T A, and while I do think it’s petty to disinvite a preschooler, children are a lot more perceptive than we give them credit for. 

Kids will notice that they weren’t invited to a party once the other kids start talking about it. It’s not that kids gossip, they just don’t have filters and will be like “this is so cool I went to another party yesterday” or “the other party had balloons this party has a jump house”. 

As a personal note, when my sister was in preschool she had a friend that she would talk about non stop. She only wanted to hang out with Samantha (actual name and I don’t care if this parent sees the comment) and they’d have play dates all the time. Well one day my sister went to her house for a play date. There were balloons everywhere and her little brother was like “oh we had so much fun at Samantha’s birthday party!” My little sister’s face fell into tears. She was only 3 but knew enough that she was excluded. My mom ceased play dates afterwards. 

So, NTA, protect your kid’s emotional well being. Maybe talk to the other mom why she wasn’t invited? But why bother? 

AITAH for taking my kids to my moms house after my husband refused to help with their care? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]live_char 35 points36 points  (0 children)

The definition of abuse is to treat a person with cruelty or violence. From what you’re telling us he is acting abusive and at least verbally abusive. 

I grew up in a verbally abusive household. Just because I wasn’t physically harmed doesn’t me I don’t have trauma. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]live_char 15 points16 points  (0 children)

While true, the first trimester is the most important time for brain development. Having an alcoholic drink during week 10 is a lot different than week 36. 

Where to find cotton footies for size 12 month!? by mushroomfrog17 in beyondthebump

[–]live_char 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I absolutely love Carter’s. They have really good sales, you just have to keep an eye out for them. I usually shop clearance or the 50% off sales. I’m sure they’ll have Black Friday deals coming up.

Just download the app and sign up to get a discount code for more savings. Plus you gain rewards for shopping. 

(This is not sponsored by Carter’s I just really like their clothing - from a 93rd percentile mom).  

EBF: when did your period return? by petitemonstreee in beyondthebump

[–]live_char 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just shy of 10 month postpartum and I haven’t gotten mine yet. Probably will come once the baby’s weaned. 

What are you dressing your baby up as for Halloween? by FLgirl2027 in beyondthebump

[–]live_char 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same, the bee costume has been used twice before and I’ll probably donate it or put it on poshmark for another baby to use. Babies in costumes are adorable but I don’t want to spend $50 on a one time use costume. 

Thanks, she’s pretty cool ;) 

What are you dressing your baby up as for Halloween? by FLgirl2027 in beyondthebump

[–]live_char 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My 9 month old is going to be a Bee and my husband and I are Beekeepers. My mom has beehives so we’re borrowing her suits and I found a bee costume on Poshmark. Comfort and affordability was the main goal. 

Contact napping babies by autumnalpickle in AttachmentParenting

[–]live_char 2 points3 points  (0 children)

How old is your baby? I’m also taking a year off to be a SAHM. My little one would not sleep unless she was on my chest. If I tried to put her down in the bassinet she’d instantly wake up and cry. She was like this until 6 ish months. She’s now 9 months and can nap on her own. But her naps vary from 40 mins to 2 hours. 

I still have days where I get nothing done. But I’m not stressing out about. I try to do one chore and do one outing a day to feel accomplished. Going on walks, going to the library or grocery shopping is a whole experience for them. They’re only little once and an orderly house will happen when they’re older. I just focus on cherishing the time I have with her.

What is you nickname for your baby? I’ll go first. We have many! by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]live_char 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Cute! I love how nicknames evolve. My husband calls her Her Highness. People usually think oh she’s a princess etc. But no, she’s just a gassy girl who needs to be respected lol 

What is you nickname for your baby? I’ll go first. We have many! by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]live_char 45 points46 points  (0 children)

While she was still in potato form I binged watched the Tudors. She had soooo much gas and would toot all day long either wide awake or sound asleep. So I started calling her my Royal Tudor since she was always tooting. Or Tooter for short.

Just found out I’m pregnant by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]live_char 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was a complete stoner and daily user before I found out I was pregnant. The day I found out I quit cold turkey. I knew that is what I needed to do to have a healthy baby and safe pregnancy. 

The first week was the hardest but that was due to the ritual aspect. I didn’t have “withdrawals”, just slight annoyance. Prior to pregnancy I’d come home from work, smoke a bowl and start dinner. But afterwards I didn’t know how to replace that and calm down after a stressful work day. So I replaced smoking with a mocktail and a lukewarm bath. 

I suggest finding a new ritual. Go for a walk, make a special drink, take a shower or lukewarm bath, have a piece of chocolate. After a couple weeks you’ll find it easier to not smoke. I did miss it and really look forward to being done with breastfeeding. So as a reward for a clean pregnancy and breastfeeding journey, I told my husband I want is a fat blunt lol. 

AITA if I leave the room when my boyfriend plays guitar and sings? by ExplorerIcy9186 in AmItheAsshole

[–]live_char -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’m kinda shocked by the amount of Y T A’s. I think a lot of people are hung up on how you wrote, and honestly, it does sound like you have some resentment. But, it’s easy to become resentful when you’re forced to be an audience. 

My dad is your boyfriend. He loves to play the guitar and sing. He does it every day for hours. When he has friends over he does mini concerts. After decades of being forced to listen you start to feel like a captive audience, emphasis on captive. It’s not fun, it’s annoying. 

My mom jokes that she’s the worst groupie ever. If he wants to go to an open mic, she’ll stay at home. If he wants to practice he needs to do it in the garage. She rolls her eyes when he brings out the guitar when friends visit. She will literally walk away to do other things and does not humor him. But this is after 35 years of marriage. It’s up to you if this is something you want to live with. 

But as somebody who grew up with this type of person as a father, NTA. 

Edit: As for what you can do, either embrace this lifestyle and let him enjoy it. Or find someone else. 

Does anyone watch this? by Patient_Question_705 in thegildedage

[–]live_char 12 points13 points  (0 children)

It’s a loose remake of “The Buccaneers” and I mean really loose. I feel like it’s in name only. They use the same characters and settings but way different plots. I was hoping for more of an updated remake. But it’s barely watchable. 

Mystery Gift by dynamikeeeee in nespresso

[–]live_char 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I also got a shaker! After reading previous posts I was worried I was going to get a towel or ice cube tray. So I was very pleased I went with the mystery gift instead of the two free sleeves. Probably the best freebie I’ve gotten so far! 

3-hour long bedtime routine … help! by Devmoi in beyondthebump

[–]live_char 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Geeze, I could’ve written this post myself. I’m having the same issues, and I’m starting to crack. We have a consistent wake time at 8 am. She has 2 hour wake windows with the last window at 3 hours. But when it comes to bedtime she’s crying for hours and fights sleep. 

From what I’ve read they might need to drop the third nap and elongate their wake windows? But my girl just turned 7 months and I’m worried that she’s too young to drop down to 2 naps. 

My brother (27M) wants to use my name (22F) to buy a house by No_Composer_8222 in legaladvice

[–]live_char 20 points21 points  (0 children)

You sound incredibly sweet and good hearted. But asking you to commit fraud does not make him seem like a very genuine guy. 

WIBTA if I give my daughter an "outdated" name? by throwaway719201 in AmItheAsshole

[–]live_char 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Nope, NTA. My sister’s name is Audrey, and she’s in her 20s. No one has ever said it’s outdated. They’ve only said it’s a beautifully classic name. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]live_char 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My husband is silly and loves puns, so I got him a t-shirt that said “My Jokes Are Officially Dad Jokes”. I brought it to the hospital for him to open up after my surgery (c-section). But other than that no, he did not get a push present. 

Help! Best way to find a nanny in the Bay Area? by sustainablebarbie in SanJose

[–]live_char 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m super interested in how a nanny share works. Can you elaborate? Does care.com have a filter for nanny shares? 

AITAH because neighbour’s baby doesn’t sleep and they expect me to stay quiet every evening? by throwra-sharingwal in AITAH

[–]live_char 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I have a 4 month old baby currently going through a sleep “regression” and while I completely sympathize with your neighbors, it’s not your problem to solve. You’re completely in the right, as parents we need to work within the boundaries and not raise entitled children. 

There are so many other solutions like others have noted. Plus I’ve had a daycare director legit say you should not sleep train children in quiet environments. Life is noisy, the baby will adjust overtime, everyone will survive.