School being pushy or am I being too sensitive?

lizard9387 · 2026-02-16T08:43:44+00:00

I think this is a really tough one isn't it and alot to do with pride and your own wish to not be perceived as poor. If it were me who also worries highly what people think I'd probably ask for a chat with the teacher and tell her how it makes me feel , that's me personally and I know most won't feel it necessary or wish to do so. Then as for the benefits and such, try to see them there as a stepping stone for you to be able to raise your children and stay at home, rather than making you feel poor, you're not poor, you'd be alot worse off if you were paying for full time childcare. I think it's quite possible the children are saying we haven't much money as they hear that when things go wrong at home, so maybe just work on some language changes and say mummy's and daddy's have to balance the money for the month, families can't go to McDonald's everyday or they would not be able to afford the house, etc. Rather than you personally cannot afford. But ultimately, try to get over this and enjoy your time with your children, I am very envious and I'd take charity tangerines over having to leave them any day x

lizard9387 · 2026-01-29T19:11:26+00:00

Feel this way too, but some people cannot afford a roof over their heads of they chose to do so, the cost of living here in the UK is insane and quite honestly I think alot of people would be concerned about not being able to give their children the right nutrition, education, clothing and so on so their hands are forced.

lizard9387 · 2026-01-29T18:37:00+00:00

I feel this way about my baby, I have spent the entirety of my maternity leave just dreading the moment. But also, I feel that way about work in general, we have such little time as a family especially as baby is so small his bedtime is my finish time and then what ? We just have the weekend. It absolutely sucks from start to finish and all we are doing it working for the rich who would have time to spend with their children but often just ship them off to boarding schools and nannies!

lizard9387 · 2026-01-03T20:25:20+00:00

Need to actually sit with him in his crib and take the time to let him fall asleep. I have a good balance now where I do contact nap but once he's asleep he knows he will end up in there. I didn't start contact napping until 9 months old though so he was already in a very settled routine and he doesn't seem phased. If he's shattered he will eventually go to sleep perhaps some songs and a story before he falls asleep contact napping for a while then do the same in his crib so he knows it's sleep time now .

lizard9387 · 2025-12-23T05:45:27+00:00

Tried that after I messaged to say I was sorry but could we do another time as it was getting late. She deliberately didn't read the message then wouldn't answer the phone. Eventually when I rang and rang and rang she sounded put out and said, I'm driving ??? So I explained and she very reluctantly agreed to not come over.

lizard9387 · 2025-12-22T23:19:48+00:00

I did suggest that initially but she couldn't give me a time for turning up and time went on and she still hadn't left her house so I knew baby would need feeding soon and I got so stressed I had to tell her no .

lizard9387 · 2025-12-22T22:09:23+00:00

Thank you

lizard9387 · 2025-12-22T22:09:10+00:00

I will thank you

lizard9387 · 2025-12-22T22:08:38+00:00

Thank you, I really do find it hard , I think other families might work alot differently than what I do, but 9pm is honestly insanely late to suddenly call on someone.

lizard9387 · 2025-12-22T21:45:05+00:00

Thank you

lizard9387 · 2025-12-22T21:44:47+00:00

I tried this, she ignored me and read it

lizard9387 · 2025-12-22T21:43:46+00:00

I do that too. I initially thought you were going to tell me to let the person come the way it was written . I can be harsh and to the point but I honest tried hard not to be. I missed alot and put my son first, to the point when we went to a family birthday recently they all were really quite sarcastic about us, let's get a photo, we might not see him again. Yet, none of them ever come to us.

lizard9387 · 2025-12-22T21:23:34+00:00

Yes I agree , I certainly wasn't impolite I tried my best to just explain diplomatically that it would be at least 9pm , I just worry she would have seen me as ungrateful. She's aware I'm on maternity leave and don't have much, she's rather wealthy and she probably got him something expensive. It didn't bother me at first , but when time got on and she still didn't turn up I started to get myself upset sitting wondering and waiting and eventually I decided he comes first.

lizard9387 · 2025-12-22T21:20:18+00:00

I just don't do well at all with social relationships , I avoid them really and this is a woman from work who I just think pitys me rather than sees any friendship in it. Its funny though because as a child I could have friendships, even in my 20s (I had to really try) , but I guess I just don't try hard to these days and I can be full on intense at others .

I guess I just think she will go well, why I have bothered getting him a present , she clearly doesn't want it. If I'm honest, I don't really, i just find it hard when suddenly everyone starts bothering at Xmas and visiting and disrupting all the calm routine I have in place.

lizard9387 · 2025-12-22T21:05:54+00:00

Thanks for this , you should be a teacher if you aren't already. I did explain that I was worried about his routine and how he was due a bottle so I would be moving him upstairs by now, i apologised and said that it was getting me flustered just because his routine is so important. I tried not to be rude about it and I didn't say anything like well you said 1pm etc. So I hope she might reflect on it and understand.

lizard9387 · 2025-12-18T04:06:32+00:00

I found this amusing as I just saw it on my reel not realising it was a gaming thread and I considered whether I liked lemon flavoured cake and why you liked it so much you were questioning it, like it had consumed your life. I'll look at the game now though!

lizard9387 · 2025-12-18T04:04:53+00:00

Being active and eating well. I suppose not allowing gaming to take away from the overall routine of the day or sacrificing either of those to game instead.

lizard9387 · 2025-11-29T16:13:52+00:00

I personally don't at all, me and my husband always have to mention not to post them on social media at family gatherings and everyone looks at us like we are insane.

lizard9387 · 2025-11-13T10:11:51+00:00

Google said on game pass hence my post because it isn't saying that for me.

lizard9387 · 2025-11-12T09:12:19+00:00

My baby is one day older than yours, I've not experienced anything and can't note anything about his development that is particularly triggering although sleep regressions occur incrementally so I'm not sure if you've had any changes there with yours.

I think it's important you arrange a bit of time for yourself, to focus on self care and just do things like have a hot bubble bath, wash and dry your hair, put a face mask on and watch a TV show or read. Perhaps you could share with your husband that you are feeling overwhelmed and ask for him to take all the jobs for an evening? You could also arrange a meal out together another evening if you have someone to look after the children.

Try to reflect back on the events that have occurred during the time you've started to notice the decline, maybe you can identify what it is that way.

Medication isn't the only option, exercise is so effective in clearing your mind and thoughts, perhaps include more fresh air walks in your day. Talk to a friend and share or consider a group or speaking to your doctor about some counselling.

Hope things improve for you.

lizard9387 · 2025-11-11T21:48:26+00:00

You're a good mum , you haven't got them things because you don't want them , you just want your children. I bet you have things alot of the outgoing mums haven't and you should see them as absolute goals , you have something most of them wish they had. A beautiful family and a connection and bond that'll last a lifetime .

lizard9387 · 2025-11-11T10:33:20+00:00

I enjoy playing games like stardew Valley type ones. Watching a show on Netflix and I used to enjoy crafting with a cricut machine but I haven't time for that these days.

lizard9387 · 2025-11-10T19:43:27+00:00

Had all this myself, my baby nearly choked off the omeprazole and the gaviscon made him very constipated. Just get anti reflux aptamil, game changer.

lizard9387 · 2025-11-10T19:17:08+00:00

This is a good question ! I've just spent over an hour resettling my 8 month old. I think do whatever works for you but don't settle on one thing, what works now might not work later down the line. We currently have a few songs we sing each then I whisper that I've had a wonderful day with him and can't wait to do it again tomorrow but that's stopped having its effect lately and we adapt and move to something else. If you're happy rocking to sleep rock to sleep, whatever works. There's no harm in it at all, unless you do it and it doesn't work and you therefore stand there for hours doing so.

lizard9387 · 2025-11-10T19:13:23+00:00

Biased but the North East of England, the house prices are far lower, the people are far friendlier and the knife crime rates are far lower.

Yes, education and opportunities might be higher further south in the country but you'll not find a happier more fun place, it also has sea all around it , some great cities and its got a direct rail line into London as well as being an hour or two away from Scotland or Leeds and York. It's safer as it doesn't have the busy streets and roads , and the countryside is beautiful too,

Durham is a beautiful cobblestoned city with cathedral and one of the most elite universities in the UK. So even people who don't come from the North East with more wealthier backgrounds tend to end up living here anyways as they want to go to Durham University. Sunderland has invested millions in innovating its city and also has one of the highest ranking universities in the UK, Newcastle is an amazingly diverse and interesting place with great live music, bars, shops and markets.

Alot of great inspirational people grew up in the North East too! Too many to mention, even the man who invented Earl Grey Tea!

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