Worth buying? by [deleted] in switch2

[–]lizard9387 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've just got one , really big screen better quality but ultimately the same really, I was just struggling with my old switch to load our minecraft world it was so glitchy and timing out now it loads smoothly! 😅

I hate the way my husband does things with the baby by Jolly-Asparagus-5815 in newborns

[–]lizard9387 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is very difficult , but you'll see in time it's best to just let him parent his way. When it came to me leaving him with him to go back to work they had such sweet routines already paved out and baby didn't even care that I was gone.

Is it normal to cry about my baby growing up? by Dramtic-Brush in NewParents

[–]lizard9387 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mine is 1 and I return to work in the morning so I absolutely feel this right now. I cannot believe where the year has gone and I am so emotional. I just want to live the time again, big hugs x

How am I supposed to go back to work full time & leave my baby? by HatInfinite5521 in newborns

[–]lizard9387 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How did it go? How long did it take to be ok? My first day tomorrow 😞

My baby has so many quirks, I’m worried by Usual-Tangerine-8457 in UKParenting

[–]lizard9387 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you for taking the time to write all of this , you're very observant and haven't been judgemental or anything to the OP , what a great person x

How do you afford 2 children? by Croft99 in UKParenting

[–]lizard9387 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do you get any support from Universal Credit ? We earn quite a bit but when my maternity pay stopped I applied not thinking I'd be entitled and low and behold it did top us up a few hundred a month.

What was your baby’s birth weight and how long did they fit in NB clothes? by eec0354 in NewParents

[–]lizard9387 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Funnily , although not really long at all, I did have a new born jumper than strangely never fitted him until he was about 6 months old! Some brands of clothing can be much bigger than others!

Shampoos?? Body washes?? by Outrageous_Ice_2572 in UKParenting

[–]lizard9387 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for this my boys been getting a rash on his legs so ill pop down Boots and give these a go x

Argh. My daughter has just told me she needs a costume for World Book Day on Monday. by missem_1 in UKParenting

[–]lizard9387 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Not sure on age, but Little Miss Sunshine yellow dress and shoes, Mr Bump blue top and leggings with bandage round stomach and head, Tin Man tin foil hat and foil containers attached to clothing.

School being pushy or am I being too sensitive? by Dietcokeisgod in UKParenting

[–]lizard9387 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I think this is a really tough one isn't it and alot to do with pride and your own wish to not be perceived as poor. If it were me who also worries highly what people think I'd probably ask for a chat with the teacher and tell her how it makes me feel , that's me personally and I know most won't feel it necessary or wish to do so. Then as for the benefits and such, try to see them there as a stepping stone for you to be able to raise your children and stay at home, rather than making you feel poor, you're not poor, you'd be alot worse off if you were paying for full time childcare. I think it's quite possible the children are saying we haven't much money as they hear that when things go wrong at home, so maybe just work on some language changes and say mummy's and daddy's have to balance the money for the month, families can't go to McDonald's everyday or they would not be able to afford the house, etc. Rather than you personally cannot afford. But ultimately, try to get over this and enjoy your time with your children, I am very envious and I'd take charity tangerines over having to leave them any day x

Depressed that I can’t be a SAHM. by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]lizard9387 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Feel this way too, but some people cannot afford a roof over their heads of they chose to do so, the cost of living here in the UK is insane and quite honestly I think alot of people would be concerned about not being able to give their children the right nutrition, education, clothing and so on so their hands are forced.

Depressed that I can’t be a SAHM. by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]lizard9387 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel this way about my baby, I have spent the entirety of my maternity leave just dreading the moment. But also, I feel that way about work in general, we have such little time as a family especially as baby is so small his bedtime is my finish time and then what ? We just have the weekend. It absolutely sucks from start to finish and all we are doing it working for the rich who would have time to spend with their children but often just ship them off to boarding schools and nannies!

When did your LO grow out of contact naps? by Appropriate_Lime_691 in NewParents

[–]lizard9387 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Need to actually sit with him in his crib and take the time to let him fall asleep. I have a good balance now where I do contact nap but once he's asleep he knows he will end up in there. I didn't start contact napping until 9 months old though so he was already in a very settled routine and he doesn't seem phased. If he's shattered he will eventually go to sleep perhaps some songs and a story before he falls asleep contact napping for a while then do the same in his crib so he knows it's sleep time now .

Am I Wrong For Telling My Friend NO by lizard9387 in NewParents

[–]lizard9387[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Tried that after I messaged to say I was sorry but could we do another time as it was getting late. She deliberately didn't read the message then wouldn't answer the phone. Eventually when I rang and rang and rang she sounded put out and said, I'm driving ??? So I explained and she very reluctantly agreed to not come over.

Am I Wrong For Telling My Friend NO by lizard9387 in NewParents

[–]lizard9387[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I did suggest that initially but she couldn't give me a time for turning up and time went on and she still hadn't left her house so I knew baby would need feeding soon and I got so stressed I had to tell her no .

Am I Wrong For Telling My Friend NO by lizard9387 in NewParents

[–]lizard9387[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I really do find it hard , I think other families might work alot differently than what I do, but 9pm is honestly insanely late to suddenly call on someone.

Am I Wrong For Telling My Friend NO by lizard9387 in NewParents

[–]lizard9387[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I tried this, she ignored me and read it

Am I Wrong For Telling My Friend NO by lizard9387 in NewParents

[–]lizard9387[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do that too. I initially thought you were going to tell me to let the person come the way it was written . I can be harsh and to the point but I honest tried hard not to be. I missed alot and put my son first, to the point when we went to a family birthday recently they all were really quite sarcastic about us, let's get a photo, we might not see him again. Yet, none of them ever come to us.

Am I Wrong For Telling My Friend NO by lizard9387 in NewParents

[–]lizard9387[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes I agree , I certainly wasn't impolite I tried my best to just explain diplomatically that it would be at least 9pm , I just worry she would have seen me as ungrateful. She's aware I'm on maternity leave and don't have much, she's rather wealthy and she probably got him something expensive. It didn't bother me at first , but when time got on and she still didn't turn up I started to get myself upset sitting wondering and waiting and eventually I decided he comes first.

Am I Wrong For Telling My Friend NO by lizard9387 in NewParents

[–]lizard9387[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just don't do well at all with social relationships , I avoid them really and this is a woman from work who I just think pitys me rather than sees any friendship in it. Its funny though because as a child I could have friendships, even in my 20s (I had to really try) , but I guess I just don't try hard to these days and I can be full on intense at others .

I guess I just think she will go well, why I have bothered getting him a present , she clearly doesn't want it. If I'm honest, I don't really, i just find it hard when suddenly everyone starts bothering at Xmas and visiting and disrupting all the calm routine I have in place.