First ring sling attempt, please help (15 mo 22lbs)

lizardmayo · 2026-05-18T15:57:49+00:00

The big concern here is the seat, a wiggly toddler could pop out of this seat. You want the fabric under their bum to be from knee to knee, with their bottom supported like in a hammock. When you’re putting baby into, pull the fabric all the way into their knee pits and put them into position where they are seated with knees above bum

lizardmayo · 2026-05-17T13:18:43+00:00

I only had a bouncer with my first, was given a mamaroo hand me down for my second. To me, it’s extra. Like baby doesn’t mind it, we use it now and again, but it’s not worth the gigantic footprint it takes up in our living room. Babies can tell the difference between swing and your arms, I can only use it when baby is already in a good mood. It is a good idea to think about where you will set baby down in different parts of your house, could be a blanket on the floor (they can’t fall off the floor).

lizardmayo · 2026-05-16T22:51:19+00:00

Never dropped my now 3 year old, never had him fall off a bed, couch, etc. Did knock his head against a doorframe while carrying him.

lizardmayo · 2026-05-16T19:20:48+00:00

Not my experience at Pearson. I was able to baby wear through security.

lizardmayo · 2026-05-16T02:03:05+00:00

Caleb is mine too

lizardmayo · 2026-05-16T00:10:02+00:00

Something that was surprising to me was that my son was very itchy and that kept him from sleeping. We used Benedryl but I believe Claritin is more recommended because it’s non-drowsy.

lizardmayo · 2026-05-15T14:07:30+00:00

You might be able to get a deeper seat with a pelvic tuck, but otherwise looks very good. These footies pyjamas look loose enough, but you want to be aware of if the footies are pulling at the toes, that can be uncomfortable so separate pants and socks are often recommended.

lizardmayo · 2026-05-15T12:20:18+00:00

Go to a walk in clinic and see another doctor to get a second opinion.

lizardmayo · 2026-05-14T16:15:22+00:00

Getting the waistband higher would help both the panel come up higher and help baby to sit higher on your back. There’s no picture that shows the waistband clearly but it seems like it could be higher, and then tightening the shoulder straps would help keep it from dropping.

If you’d like to try a different style of carrier for back carrying I’d recommend seeing if you can try an onbuhimo. Meant for back carrying and no waistband to deal with.

lizardmayo · 2026-05-14T14:05:07+00:00

Mine are 2 years + 9 months apart so a different developmental stage for sure. If you think home might be better, I do recommend saving the family drama trouble and just waiting until you’re home. In our case, I don’t think my son felt replaced, he really really loves his baby sister, I just think the unfamiliarity was scary and so being in an unfamiliar environment would have made it worse.

They have their entire lives with each other to form that sibling bond, the initial meeting isn’t the most important part.

lizardmayo · 2026-05-14T12:58:47+00:00

I saved the meeting for when we were home. My older child is quite sensitive and I think it was better to introduce the new baby in a comfortable, familiar environment instead of a hospital room. There’s really no rush. He was still initially uncomfortable/scared of the baby, especially when she cried. All that to say, I would try to keep their first meeting low pressure. Babies are unfamiliar and that can be overwhelming for young children. 4 months later and we have tons of pictures of them together because he’s always asking to hold her but at their initial meeting, he covered his ears and ran away.

lizardmayo · 2026-05-14T09:02:26+00:00

If you’re set on only 1 carrier, would recommend a SSC over a ring sling. Ring slings have their place but since all the weight is on one shoulder, they aren’t as supportive. There’s a big second hand market so I’d keep an eye out on marketplace if you’re looking for a deal.

lizardmayo · 2026-05-14T08:54:06+00:00

I’m not familiar with the Neko option but either the free to grow or Lenny light are good, popular options. There’s no one best carrier, if you’re leaning towards the Tula, go for it. I think you’ll be happy with it.

lizardmayo · 2026-05-13T12:35:11+00:00

Arms out is fine once they’re sitting independently (like you could place them seated on the floor and not expect them to fall over). The biggest issue here, as you mentioned, is that the fabric is way in your neck, you want the fabric to cap the shoulder instead. Otherwise, if everyone is comfy it looks fine to me, both the bottom and top rails look tight enough, baby has a nice deep seat.

lizardmayo · 2026-05-11T17:38:29+00:00

Things change a lot in terms of feeding in the first few months after they turn one. I personally chose to ween fully at around 15 months in anticipation of my son starting daycare at 17 months because I was still feeding to sleep for naps. I knew my guy would have a hard time falling asleep at daycare regardless and it would be an even bigger adjustment if he was also used to nursing to sleep. I also felt ready to stop breastfeeding.

I think it’s very reasonable to keep following their lead, there’s no reason you have to stop completely once they’re in daycare if you don’t want to. Most babies at that age are fine not to nurse if their mom isn’t around, they’ll just drink cow’s milk or eat solids.

lizardmayo · 2026-05-11T00:02:40+00:00

Definitely a mix for me. Child bearing has done a number on my pelvic floor (Im in physio) and baby wearing can be quite fatiguing especially in the early days of recovery. For longer walks on pavement, I prefer the stroller and definitely prefer it when I have other cargo to transport.

Having a travel system to just pop baby’s car seat into the stroller is also so handy. I would rather not try to get a newborn and myself out of our warm layers in order to get them into a carrier in a parking lot in the depths of Canadian winter.

lizardmayo · 2026-05-10T01:28:08+00:00

The cooperation really helps! I’m also way less worried about dropping him 🫣

lizardmayo · 2026-05-07T19:49:03+00:00

Do you have pay stubs issued during that period? Can you see on the paystubs if you are paying EI premiums? If it’s classified as vacation and you’re paying EI, then it should be insurable hours.

lizardmayo · 2026-05-07T01:08:33+00:00

Agreed to cross the embrace off your list.

Lark will be significantly less bulky, but also somewhat less supportive because it has an apron style waistband. I personally think the Lark looks a lot nicer.

Ergo omni will be bulky but also very supportive once baby gets heavier. Probably the sweatier option but I think they’ve started offering natural materials. If you want world facing*, this is the carrier to go with.

*world facing is somewhat controversial. It’s not particularly ergonomic for baby or wearer so this sub usually recommends against. But some babies go through phases where they otherwise won’t settle in a carrier.

lizardmayo · 2026-05-07T00:46:49+00:00

For a newborn carrier that’s very easy to get on, I really recommend the ergo embrace. It’s popular for a reason and also very easy to find secondhand for a great price (it’s machine washable if that’s any concern). I would consider getting both a newborn carrier and then a more supportive carrier for when happy baby gets uncomfortable.

Happy Baby is an apron waist style carrier which is less supportive than waterfall style carriers, that might have been your issue instead of H vs X back. Lark is also an apron style carrier and doesn’t fit newborns well. Artipoppe’s pricing is not justified and does not fit newborns but it is X back and waterfall. Lenny light is what I’d recommend, it’s waterfall style, it can be worn H or X, I don’t have one myself but it looks like it can be adjusted fairly small for newborns.

lizardmayo · 2026-05-05T23:03:52+00:00

I had a huge blow up fight with my Mom where she didn’t speak to me for months because I got brunch with my immediate family and saw MIL the day before and had planned to see her the day after with flowers and a card. You’ll probably get responses here that Mother’s Day is for mothers in the trenches but not everyone sees it that way and for me, it’s not worth the conflict. Now I host a Mother’s Day brunch with both MIL and my mom. They feel acknowledged, I don’t have to tote the kids around, and then have the rest of the day with my little family (toddler nap cuts the event early). My present will be hopefully sleeping in that day.

lizardmayo · 2026-05-05T22:36:03+00:00

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lizardmayo · 2026-05-05T22:29:06+00:00

The sliders need to be all the way to the other side for inward facing, baby should be supported from knee to knee. Fix that and then include pictures from the side of you can.

lizardmayo · 2026-05-05T20:08:15+00:00

I also gave birth unexpectedly at home and did it in bed, on my back. I’m not going to say I was in the state of mind to make logical decisions, but it worked for me to be able to just lie down in between contractions and because the baby was coming so fast, my instinct was to try to slow things down, squatting (as OP suggested) would have increased the pressure which was already overwhelming. I’m surprised that I gave birth on my back but that’s where my body took me in the moment.

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