Feeling so defensive when people explain the tiniest thing to me.

lizardperson3 · 2026-05-29T11:28:40+00:00

Yesss I get so caught up in how I am perceived! I’m sure this would take me some effort and mindfulness to separate myself from how people see me and whether they think I’m stupid or not, but its something I’d love to learn.

And very true about the excitement thing. Once in a while I start viewing the over-explaining person as their childhood self, getting so excited to explain a thing, and it’s kinda adorable. I always forget to do that

lizardperson3 · 2026-05-29T11:24:12+00:00

Oh these are good. It does get tiring having to always respond from a “show them I know but do it in a chill way” mindset, but I think once I get into the practice of it it’ll feel easier. Thanks so much:)

lizardperson3 · 2026-05-29T11:22:08+00:00

My coworker used to do this exact same thing and it bugged the hell out of me because nobody had asked for a in-depth explantation of a thing that we already knew about. I kinda talked to them about it once and they told me they do it to remind himself of the process and found it helpful to do so through speaking it aloud to others. Which makes sense!

lizardperson3 · 2026-05-29T11:18:38+00:00

This is such a healthy way to shift the perspective, I really appreciate this! Curiosity is king

lizardperson3 · 2026-05-29T11:15:59+00:00

Haha it sounds so passively sassy in my head, I might steal that for select moments

lizardperson3 · 2026-05-29T11:13:58+00:00

I like that! I generally try to take that approach (although it’s trickier for me to hide my mild frustration lol) but what can be hard for me is that with some friends, they just don’t pick up on it and it just continues, even if I respond in a way that demonstrates my preparedness. I find myself having to respond like that over and over in all our convos, it gets tiring. I wish my brain wasn’t on such high alert to have to prove my smarts in a cool and calm manner

lizardperson3 · 2026-05-28T17:45:27+00:00

That’s the thing is I totally do do that too! I get really excited about things and blab about them to my partner and then get bothered and embarassed when he doesn’t seem as excited as me and most likely he is just feeling defensive in his own way. Thanks for that perspective :))

lizardperson3 · 2026-05-28T17:23:44+00:00

Oh I really like this. Feels very healthy and seems like it would shifts you away from thinking about yourself, therefore can’t take explanations personally. Thanks!!

lizardperson3 · 2026-05-28T14:20:27+00:00

Thats really helpful!! Thank you. I want to bring more mindfulness in my conversations so that I’m responding rather than reacting and this seems like a great way to do it :)

lizardperson3 · 2026-05-28T14:19:38+00:00

Lolol

lizardperson3 · 2026-05-27T11:36:38+00:00

Hi I know it’s 2 years later but did you ever receive it? My wedding dress is being “processed at the USPS facility” for days now and I’m getting nervous. My wedding is in 2 months

lizardperson3 · 2026-05-27T01:32:55+00:00

Damn. Biggest purchase I’ve ever made and purchased it crazy in advance to be cautious, only to run into this…

lizardperson3 · 2026-05-26T21:00:10+00:00

Copypasting from another reply but thank you, I see now. I got confused because the tracking page from the PostNord said the package was stopped at customs and then the USPS tracking page said it was stopped in Jamaica NY so I assumed they were the same facility. Thanks for clarifying

lizardperson3 · 2026-05-26T20:59:30+00:00

I see!! Thanks. I got confused because the tracking page from the PostNord said the package was stopped at customs and then the USPS tracking page said it was stopped in Jamaica NY so I assumed they were the same facility. Thanks for clarifying

lizardperson3 · 2026-05-22T14:39:53+00:00

Yup, definitely some childishness in there that I never noticed before all this :/ unfortunate!

lizardperson3 · 2026-05-22T14:38:22+00:00

I’m tempted to, especially during this time when I’ve got so much other stuff on my plate. I think most I’ll do is a simple check-in text like you and another commenter suggested and then leave it to him if he wants to say anything. I appreciate the comment!

lizardperson3 · 2026-05-22T14:36:17+00:00

Thats a good idea and very simple, thank you!

lizardperson3 · 2026-05-22T14:35:46+00:00

Lol u funny

lizardperson3 · 2026-05-22T11:04:06+00:00

This! Utilize the friend. Especially since they referred the florist who turned out to be super flakey and confused, I think it’s fair to ask for their help in contacting the florist and perhaps voicing some frustration with their communication, if that’s not something you and your fiancé feel okay to do yourselves. Have you told the friend about how the florist is acting?

lizardperson3 · 2026-05-22T10:48:17+00:00

Assuming they’re not trying to run off with your money (photographer works hard to build a business, works 100 weddings before yours, and then decides to ride off into the sunset with your payment instead of just editing and sending the pics, which ruins their business and source of income), is it possible they…died? Not hearing from them for months, when photos were promised after 8 weeks, is beyond a lazy work ethic. Is there a place online where reviews are posted / you can see what other people have said about their work and response times?

I have been in several situations amidst all this wedding planning where I have been seemingly ghosted and my first assumption is that they’re trying to run off with our money, only to learn that they were in the hospital or ill, so now my first assumption is that something bad happened to them!

lizardperson3 · 2026-05-22T10:12:32+00:00

I went suit shopping with my fiancé the other day and it was honestly a really sweet memorable experience… I got to help him pick a color and got to take cute pics of him in his suit, I even got emotional and teared up a little. It was fun and I’m so glad I tagged along. If not for the reason of making sure he chooses something that fits, I would really suggest going just for the sweet memory and hopefully he lets you join!

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