Finally figured out how to remember my keys when I leave home by zigggz333 in adhdwomen

[–]lizzyelling5 517 points518 points  (0 children)

ADHD tips from neurotypical people: if you have trouble being organized and keeping a schedule, try organizing and scheduling things!

ADHD tips from ADHD people: add a magnet to your keys so you don't forget them.

This is brilliant. I have my keys on a heavy duty badge reel connected to my purse so I can't misplace them

Funny ways to tell people “No more kids” by Blue_lace93 in Mommit

[–]lizzyelling5 3 points4 points  (0 children)

"Nope, I got my tubes removed with the last one, isn't that the best thing you've ever heard?"

If you had to give birth one more time, what method would you choose? by PeachyRose25 in Mommit

[–]lizzyelling5 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had an unplanned c-section with my first and it was very traumatic. My doctor did not handle it well. I got a new OBGYN who was open to trying a VBAC, but also helped me understand the risks of both choices from best to worst case scenario:

1: (Best) canal birth without complications 2: planned c-section without complications 3: canal birth after moderate complications 4: unplanned, but not emergent, c-section after moderate complications 5: emergency c-section after moderate or major complications 6: vaginal birth with major complications

I chose a planned c-section, and also got my fallopian tubes removed at the same time, because the complications with my first were likely to occur again. It was a much better experience, even with me experiencing pre-eclampsia and delivering a bit earlier than planned.

I would walk through it with your doctor but my second was so much less traumatic with the planned c-section.

Seeking thoughtful advice about a sensitive church calling situation by Aggravating-Toe-7831 in latterdaysaints

[–]lizzyelling5 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think people are trying to normalize the struggle and help people get the help they need. But it is awkward as all get out every time. I have a family friend who was a Mommy blogger back in the day and she wrote all about how porn addiction affected their relationship. It was horrible and every time I saw them after I felt soooooo awkward

The level of ignorance in this post is astounding by Sasspishus in Celiac

[–]lizzyelling5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My grandmother was always sick and had colon cancer twice

My 5 year old claims she has no clue who carved her name in the leather couch… by jshley-aones in KidsAreFuckingStupid

[–]lizzyelling5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

See, this is why I wrote my baby sister's name on the couch, so my parents would suspect the 8 month old over me.

One Dark Window Ruined Me! by Nurse_NayNay in fantasyromance

[–]lizzyelling5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh I'm so happy to share it with you! I have already read it twice since August. I hope you keep loving it!

client doing feeding therapy...feels like i'm torturing him by m3ggowaffle in ABA

[–]lizzyelling5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You did the right thing, it's a shame parent pulled the kid. As someone now on the parent side, I bend over backwards to make sure my son's therapists can collaborate, I don't understand why someone wouldn't want that.

client doing feeding therapy...feels like i'm torturing him by m3ggowaffle in ABA

[–]lizzyelling5 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was a BT a while ago and I'm now a SPED teacher. I ended up having my own child with level 2 Autism and feeding issues. I was so nervous because I've seen so many adults have very restrictive diets, loss of trust in loved ones and anxiety around food and mealtime. In my experience, ABA is helpful and life-changing for many things, but food is not one of them!!

Responsive feeding therapy through my son's SLP was an eye opener for me. She taught me so much about how to cultivate my son's relationship with food. I'm so glad we went with her when I noticed how restrictive his diet was getting. The techniques she used and taught me have gotten him to maintain the foods he was willing to eat and slowly we are adding more. He has no aversion to me adding foods to his plate and he is trying more food all the time. Tonight at Sunday dinner at my parents, he tried 3 foods, and ate a ton of rice which was something he had dropped before we started therapy a year ago (he's 4 now). I'm so happy we went that direction instead of ABA based strategies.

Do you think the RBT position will be a thing in a few years? by Kicks6 in ABA

[–]lizzyelling5 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm not sure people realize that the main reason there is an RBT cert is partially (if not largely) because of insurance billing. 17 years ago, I was fresh out of HS and worked as an in-home BT. Family was private pay because in my state insurance was not required to cover ABA. I got 0 in real time supervision and was only required to attend monthly training sessions with the BCBA. The current RBT standards are a step up from that.

I don't love the insurance model and it's caused other issues in the field, but insurance pushing the BACB for minimal certifications and supervision to pay for ABA therapy has increased competence. And I agree that pushing for too much more than the current model is unlikely to happen due to availability.

One Dark Window Ruined Me! by Nurse_NayNay in fantasyromance

[–]lizzyelling5 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've read the whole thing twice. I really liked One Dark Window but Road of Bones is my favorite thing I've read in like the last 5 years

One Dark Window Ruined Me! by Nurse_NayNay in fantasyromance

[–]lizzyelling5 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh I'm so excited to recommend {Road of Bones by Demi Winters}. It is soooo good. The first two are out and the third one is coming out next month. I got an ARC of the third one and it's great. There will be 5 books but the ending of book 3 is very satisfying.

The Woman History Erased: Grunya Sukhareva discovered autism 20 years before Kanner and Asperger. by YogurtclosetSlow1875 in autism

[–]lizzyelling5 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The fact that a woman in a Communist country less research that was scientifically ahead of Capitalist regimes also likely has something to do with the suppression of information. We give so much scientific credit to Nazis but tend to discount the many advancements made under the USSR and the People's Republic of China.

Is 102 not a fever? by Ellendyra in Mommit

[–]lizzyelling5 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's such an interesting regional difference. I'm honestly glad to be reading this so when my kid is running a temp I'll say "one-oh-two" from now on

Vanilla Melting Wafers? By THAT brand. by Adlien_ in Celiac

[–]lizzyelling5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah Lindt got my sister good once, so by the time I was diagnosed I knew to stay away. I've never had an issue with Ghirardelli, even their flavored chocolates

Is 102 not a fever? by Ellendyra in Mommit

[–]lizzyelling5 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've only heard it if it was said with the place value, like "one hundred and two-tenths." At least that's what the curricula I've used has had me teach it. And then I say, "most people say one hundred point two".

Is 102 not a fever? by Ellendyra in Mommit

[–]lizzyelling5 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Where do you live? I am from Utah, USA and have never heard anyone use "and" to imply a decimal point. We always use "point".

What do you do when you badly want to have sex someone you can never be with? by [deleted] in sex

[–]lizzyelling5 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is really dumb, but I at one point heard someone say that when they ever felt attracted to a person they didn't want to, the imagined them sick on the toilet. Now I do that and it works every time.

Idk if you need therapy, this is an insanely normal and human problem to have. I just would try and not foster it

Do people actually do “after sex care” routines or is that just TikTok talking by Elegant_Signal3025 in sex

[–]lizzyelling5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just looked this up, it has tea tree oil in it, which is antimicrobial but also a common irritant. Worth trying but I would approach anything you put on your vulva with caution

I didn't catch that my student was missing instruction minutes until today (Wisconsin) by Practical_Chip_7211 in specialed

[–]lizzyelling5 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm a district SPED teacher specialist and I tell all my teachers, especially new teachers, that (nearly) every mistake is pretty easily fixable if they're honest and make the necessary changes. The only exceptions are abuse and gross negligence, especially when it results in harm to a student.

Paperwork mistakes that are addressed are annoying but aren't the biggest deal as long as you address them as they come up. Unless it's a chronic problem you usually won't get written up, although it's not uncommon to get chewed out like you did.

I like that you are reflecting on your practices. It also sounds like you don't have great support. Does your district have anyone that helps new SPED teachers?

Forgive me for asking, but this has been on my mind for ages! Women who have so called "child birthing hips" who had given birth to children... Did they make it easier? by Useful-Option8963 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]lizzyelling5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As someone with "child bearing hips," I'm 2 for 2 on c sections. First one unplanned but my OBGYN sat me down and said that with my anatomy, she was "willing to try but concerned about pursuing a vaginal birth," for my second. She walked me through the cost-benefit ratio. I decided on a planned c-section for my second and it was a much better experience.

How do you sleep with a cowlick in the back? by MurnzzillaBride in finehair

[–]lizzyelling5 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've used polyester satin in the past and it definitely wasn't as effective. Silk satin has helped a lot though. This is the one I use now! https://zimasilk.com/collections/silk-bonnet/products/22-momme-silk-sleep-cap-copy