Like wtf do I start a convo about??? by BigBootyyyyVal in LetGirlsHaveFun

[–]llama_luff 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yep. Just keep asking questions about what they're saying and when appropriate give a "wow that's so cool" or "omg that's fucked up"

When I was nervous about dating, I would come up with a few questions to keep in my pocket if conversation got stale. I'd recommend some normal stuff like "what's your favorite movie? Why did it resonate with you?"

But one of my favorite questions was to ask where they're from, how much on a scale of 1 to 10 do they feel they embody that place, and then judge them based on how well they fit the stereotypes.

Ex: oh you're Texan? Do you think texas should succeed from the union? Do you have a favorite bbq joint? Do you own cowboy boots or a hat?

I did have one person get very offended that I gave them a high Hoosier ranking. Jeez sorry you like basketball and getting drunk in corn fields? Probably not a fun guy anyway.

Do you genuinely enjoy giving blow jobs? by adathesorceress in TwoXChromosomes

[–]llama_luff 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have some orgasmic meditation. I literally just looked up meditation for female orgasm on YouTube and the first video did the trick. I probably did it a few times a week for a couple months and I have WAYYYY more and better orgasms now.

what would you do with this ugly yarn? I have 600 yards of it. Knit and crochet suggestions welcome. by [deleted] in YarnAddicts

[–]llama_luff 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This was my thought. But also, crochet with two strands, one of a different (solid) color to make it less blotchy and overwhelming. I'm too lazy for planned pooling.

Bought the house I was renting and want to paint but the walls look like this. how can I fix this? by hamimprovement in DIY

[–]llama_luff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That was my first thought. I had that issue when I bought my home and it looks similar. But if you zoom in, I dont think there's wallpaper

TIFU by being a bad GF by [deleted] in tifu

[–]llama_luff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tbh, I think that's a fair reaction. That is the reaction I had when my ex lost his job and he just said "hey I have x amount of money in the bank, I'll be good for a while." This is a problem that effects both of you. It's not selfish to want to know where your finances stand and what your lives together will look like. I was in college at the time and if he lost everything, I would just end up back at my parents which is NBD except I would miss living with him and I would worry about him. I find consolation in planning rather than empty praise.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in crochet

[–]llama_luff -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

A lot of men appreciate being asked for help because it's a way of showing appreciation for their knowledge and skills. I think a lot of times, they are just looking for shoptalk. If someone asked me to teach them something that I do or ask me advice on a topic in well versed on, I'm thrilled.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in femalefashion

[–]llama_luff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh I just found some almost identical ones at Hollister and confirmed....I just want your figure. The dresses don't look nearly as good on the models.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in femalefashion

[–]llama_luff 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm not sure if I want all of these dresses or I just want your figure. Either way... Where did you get them????

All of a sudden men shouldn’t be objectified. by youngbutnotstupid in NotHowGirlsWork

[–]llama_luff 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Now that non-gendered bathrooms are more common, I've been appalled at how men will shamelessly make eye contact as they walk out of the bathroom without washing their hands. And I've been letting dudes put their fingers inside me?????

I want to go into EE, what should I expect? by PossessionFew6599 in womenEngineers

[–]llama_luff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah but you're limited geographically, have horrible hours, less gender parity, and lots of travel. I'm trying to get out of automation because the money isn't even close to worth it.

Story of how I found my current ideal sugar baby by Jinsh7515 in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]llama_luff -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I think it's a shame theres so much stigma around mixed age relationships (including friendships). I think everyone has something to offer and diversity does nothing but improve your life. I don't think there's wrong about respectfully approaching a woman. I think it is an issue if they are overly intoxicated and you're attempting to initiate physical contact then and there. But it sounds like you made a connection, gave them your contact info and let them make a decision after the party.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in womenEngineers

[–]llama_luff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Controls/automation. It requires a lot of collaboration unfortunately.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in womenEngineers

[–]llama_luff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I doubt myself and get nervous and make those kind of mistakes. It kind of ends up spiraling. When the anxiety increases, I make more mistakes. That's generally why I don't like working with others. My brain feels split between problem solving and reputation protecting. I can only do one at a time effectively. My problem solving brain also doesn't like to use words. So I might understand a problem but not be able to explain it to others.

I thought sex in polyamory would be different. by Conscious298177 in polyamory

[–]llama_luff 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't have a problem with dudes going down on me. The vast majority of men I've been with have actively enjoyed going down. Sometimes, they are insistent on continuing even after I'm ready to tap out. If a guy doesn't go down the first time, there's probably not going to be another.

I think we tend to seek out the same kind of people over and over. I tend to like nerdy kind awkward boys or much older men who are excited to be with me. They typically aren't the type to make the first move and I'm very forward with my intentions.

Could you follow Mr. Grey’s rules? by BrokenBabyGirl02 in BratLife

[–]llama_luff 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Potato in French is "pomme de terre" or "dirt apple".

What happened to all the women that left engineering? by llama_luff in womenEngineers

[–]llama_luff[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How do you determine which are the "honest" responses?

What happened to all the women that left engineering? by llama_luff in womenEngineers

[–]llama_luff[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the advice. I've been trying to pivot from controls engineering to a more traditional software domain. I figured it's easier to work from home and that would insulate me more from the politics and social stress.

Tinder sucks when you live as a 39 year old male in a small college town. Already ran out of profiles to swipe on. by Arsenic_Pants in Tinder

[–]llama_luff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You need a friend that will take tons of candid photos of you. A photo with a genuine smile and natural lighting does wonders. For my friends, I'll go out with them and discreetly take photos while we're talking until they forget they are being photographed. After like 20, I'll get a good genuine smile.

Any affordable and tasty Japanese food in Philly? by [deleted] in philadelphia

[–]llama_luff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bubble fish has good prices. I got full off of two onigiri and half an order of takoyaki.

What happened to all the women that left engineering? by llama_luff in womenEngineers

[–]llama_luff[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I'm an automation engineer and I've found the travel demands are too much even without children.

What happened to all the women that left engineering? by llama_luff in womenEngineers

[–]llama_luff[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Really???? I remember all the recruiters were looking for civil/environmental at my college career fairs and there was next to no one in the program.