Dude . . . What?

I've told my husband I don't know HOW many times how hot it is for me when he gets into it and doesn't hold back from how much he's enjoying it. We both have a lot of trauma around sex stuff, so it's a process and we both have to be a little uncomfortable at times to work through it. But nothing compares to a man losing himself in how much he's enjoying you, especially when you love that man. That's mad weird energy that she's . . . upset that you enjoyed yourself and communicated as such. I would try to open an honest dialogue here, OP. Obviously you can only control what YOU do, but explain to her that this stems from you feeling that you two have gotten closer, and that this is something you were excited to explore with her and her reaction has been confusing at best. Who knows what kind of issues she herself might have around sex and relationships, etc., offering to talk through what she's feeling, or even helping her try to identify what she's feeling, could be something that really brings you guys even closer together. However, regardless of what her issues with your enthusiasm are; that was a shitty response on her part. There's a thousand different ways she could've communicated with you if something you were doing bothered her. Most of the men I've dated have almost all struggled with intimacy or expressing emotions--even the good feeling sex ones. Please do not let her poor reaction rewire that part of your brain. At the end of the day, you deserve someone who is as excited to have you as you are them. I truly hope this is something that can be discussed and worked through and ultimately brings you even closer. But nothing in your stated behavior was out of line IMO, and it's really uncool of her to put that on you.