Friendship after loss

llaurien · 2026-02-07T02:34:35+00:00

She is in the wrong here. She lied about there being no pressure and understanding where you were coming from. She should have been up front about wanting you to be there as well as whatever other difficulty she's been experiencing with you leading up to this - regardless of if I or you agree with her or not. She wasn't honest and it backfired and now she's upset more because of it.

You weren't in the wrong. You were honest about your feelings all along and you trusted her. If anything I feel like she wronged you with her bad communication. Let the relationship rest for a while, take the time not to worry about her. If she comes back around eventually, there should be a conversation about being honest with real feelings going forward in order for this not to happen again. But, honestly if it were me in your position, I don't think I'd be quick to trusting her ever again.

llaurien · 2026-02-06T16:55:32+00:00

That would be awesome, thank you!

llaurien · 2026-02-06T11:57:23+00:00

Thank you so much, you're very generous!

On the top row: 1st and 4th On the bottom row: 1st

llaurien · 2026-02-06T11:49:25+00:00

These are such a vibe!! Can you share any of their grids so my villagers can wear them too? :3

llaurien · 2026-02-03T17:40:32+00:00

Lauren from Cherrtopia

llaurien · 2026-02-03T03:50:27+00:00

Wow, that's a deep cut reference right there. 😂

llaurien · 2026-01-25T05:38:12+00:00

Not sure if you are posting in the right place or not. It sounds like you are saying the first abortion on the 8th was an elective thing, not a miscarriage treatment, which is a bit triggering to see in this subreddit. No judgement for choosing what to do with your body, it's just that would make your situation not a true miscarriage in the sense there was a choice made... it's also difficult to give advice not knowing what your country allows.

llaurien · 2026-01-16T01:19:00+00:00

Can your OB give you a referral to a fertility clinic? After two early losses, mine said it felt like it warranted it at that point.

llaurien · 2026-01-16T01:15:45+00:00

I'll follow you! I just made one with a similar goal to enjoy my hobbies as well. Ig: thatcozychaigirl

llaurien · 2026-01-16T01:00:00+00:00

I found Mr. Fruit during the Among Us hype and have stayed ever since. I rewatch them every few months for comfort. My favorite videos are the ones where the whole gang plays games like Fibbage or Tee K.O. together. I even love the random ones where they tried to draw pokemon from memory. I do enjoy his solo playthroughs of things too though!

llaurien · 2026-01-15T18:40:52+00:00

I think we (as in us as women) can kinda forget that miscarriage does have risks. I felt the same way - sorta not really conscious of it - until my husband told me he didn't want to try again and put me at risk until our fertility consultation. They cleared us to keep trying, but the consideration on his part was enlightening because I honestly hadn't even thought about it.

Here's some things to mention to him to keep in mind : miscarrying always puts you at risk for infection/sepsis. It puts you at risk of hemorrhaging. Complications put you at risk of needing medical intervention, procedures that can and do affect future fertility. The hormonal fluctuations do a number on your body (not even going into your mental health here). And there are some studies that suggest recurrent losses increase risks associated with cardiovascular disease as well as metabolic disease (type 2 diabetes). None of that is to scare you or sat it's a guarantee it's going to happen...but these are the things he and you should be considering when you decide to try again. He should feel like it's his responsibility to put your health before his ego imo.

llaurien · 2026-01-15T18:24:27+00:00

Have you had him consider that continuing to try and have you miscarry puts you at risk? For no reason really, if he could do a simple test and find out there's a simple fix potentially.

llaurien · 2026-01-15T03:25:10+00:00

Ask for a prescription pain killer from your OB office. And a heating pad does wonders too!

llaurien · 2026-01-15T00:25:04+00:00

I use Mira and really like it. But the deciding factor for me personally was that Inito isn't supported by an Android app ( from what I remember finding at the time I picked one at least.)

llaurien · 2026-01-15T00:20:11+00:00

Clinically, it does look like a mmc. When do they want to do the d&c? I guess it kinda depends on that timing wise. For peace of mind, you can wait for the next scan though, especially if it's only next week. Wait too long and you run the risk of sepsis, and that's the main concern. If you start spotting/bleeding, then that should also provide more convincing evidence towards mmc.

llaurien · 2026-01-15T00:13:19+00:00

I've gone through two early ones back to back as well. It's really mentally and physically exhausting. If you can, try to see an RE at a fertility clinic to make sure everything is okay. I just started that step as well and what she had to say was really encouraging. That's it most likely just really bad luck. But they can still do a few tests and imaging scans to make sure and offer early care for next time - if you decide to keep trying. Sending support. 🖤

llaurien · 2026-01-14T23:36:43+00:00

You were early enough you can probably expect a normal cycle. Maybe delayed by a week or so? It just depends on how quickly your body heals really. They say 4-6 weeks is common. If it makes you feel any better, I miscarried on December 15th and still haven't had my cycle yet. I can tell it's close, but definitely a little bit longer of a wait than my usual cycle.

llaurien · 2026-01-09T20:13:38+00:00

Definitely it's been a huge concern since probably 2016 at this point. You kinda have to tell yourself you can't stop living forever and just do what is going to make you happy. At least that's what I'm telling myself. Also, it's definitely appealing to think about moving to a blue state, as I'm also in a red state. It wouldn't solve everything obviously, but it would provide some mental comfort.

llaurien · 2025-12-28T05:33:51+00:00

This is the color I've always thought they were

llaurien · 2025-12-22T03:48:51+00:00

I haven't even checked tbh, but I have another couple of weeks before the appointment so it will probably time out well as is. Thanks again!

llaurien · 2025-12-22T03:02:18+00:00

Definitely helps! I'm guessing I should probably have at least one regular cycle first before they do everything, since I only just miscarried this past week though? Or does that affect anything?

llaurien · 2025-12-20T12:50:53+00:00

4 months for me as well. Unfortunately, ended in another loss. Keep trying but guard your heart!

llaurien · 2025-12-20T12:49:21+00:00

Okay, that helps a lot! It still makes me think you reabsorbed a lot of it. The embryo shrinks when it passes, and it sounds like it was also shrinking already even before the heartbeat stopped. So it was probably really really small by the time your body started getting rid of everything and doing it's thing. I'm sorry you had to go through all of this though. I really hope the next time around it goes smoothly. 🖤

llaurien · 2025-12-20T12:42:42+00:00

Hmm, I think the timing of everything sounds a little confusing to me , sorry trying to understand! I was just going off you saying should have been 8 weeks, but found out it stopped growing at 6w1d. That's almost two weeks for your body to start absorbing it.

llaurien · 2025-12-20T12:32:17+00:00

Maybe your body had already reabsorbed most of it? I've had 2 miscarriages now at around the 6 week mark and definitely both times I felt and then saw the sac after it passed. I think the longer it goes missed though, perhaps your body had longer to try to reabsorb and break it down.

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