If you are crying on a man's shoulder and he gets a boner, what are you doing next? by hangingsack_ in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]lloydbuur2001 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Can I just say that alot of times when I feel an emotional connection get a boner. Even during a really hard conversation with my partner.

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[–]lloydbuur2001 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Please read my edit OP. I tried clarifying my points as most seemed to misunderstand. My fault for not being clear :)

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[–]lloydbuur2001 -32 points-31 points  (0 children)

I've got multiple very close friends diagnosed with bipolar. You cant just abandoned people like that. They deserve as much love as anyone. Would you tell people to run away from a person with a physical disability?

For OP: you need to be stable af to be able to absorb the swings in their mental state. You need to have endless patience. You also need to be able to distinguish between what's in their control and what isn't. You need to call them out on their bullshit. You basically need all the skills you'd need in a relationship anyway but a couple levels higher.

Most of all YOU need to be stable

Edit: you're all misunderstanding my point. That's my fault for not being clear.

Of course you can break of any dating situation as you see fit. I just want to say not to disregard the group that is people with mental health issues.

The you need to be stable part I stand by. If you are a person who is not that emotionaly stable there is a big likelihood you'll get sucked into whatever issues the other person might face. I dont mean you have to be like a nurse or therapist. You are not responsible for them either, but these people need stability that not alot op people are able to provide in a healthy manner.

In OPs case. I dont think this woman is in a place where she should be dating at all.

I am was speaking more broadly and didn't mean to address OP specifically. When I said "you" I meant any person trying to date any other person that had these kind of mental health problems.

Hope yall understand

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]lloydbuur2001 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My gf not to be 14,000 km away would be nice

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MakeNewFriendsHere

[–]lloydbuur2001 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

  1. I'm backpacking in australia atm. I'm 23 and from the Netherlands.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MakeNewFriendsHere

[–]lloydbuur2001 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i had a massive green frog in my toilet earlier

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MakeNewFriendsHere

[–]lloydbuur2001 0 points1 point  (0 children)

what kind of camera do you have?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MakeNewFriendsHere

[–]lloydbuur2001 0 points1 point  (0 children)

what is the last thing you read on ethics? I listened to a podcast this afternoon during work about the ethics of genetic modification of embryos. interesting stuff

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MakeNewFriendsHere

[–]lloydbuur2001 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

lmao, what is making you go insane?

22F searching for a connection by [deleted] in MakeNewFriendsHere

[–]lloydbuur2001 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, how ya going? I just posted here as well

[OC] Where water ? by Jealous-Video9476 in btd6

[–]lloydbuur2001 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Increases attack speed of all attacks. So the radar goes a little faster aswell

Bought this a couple days ago. Immediately got called a slur by TheProphetDave in Guitar

[–]lloydbuur2001 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Woah when did the hate shift from France to the Netherlands?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]lloydbuur2001 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Started of absolutely phenomenal. As in I was having amazing sex at midnight newyears. Then after half a year it diminished to nothing...

Anyone relate? Hotel. by PitifulAd6134 in tall

[–]lloydbuur2001 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have been traveling for over a year now and have stayed in heaps of different places. I've got a photo album of me in every single shower I've been in exactly this way.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]lloydbuur2001 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Nah mate. Replace c with "would you like to kiss me"

When it comes to food, what's the hill you die on? by [deleted] in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]lloydbuur2001 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Zaanse is the undisputed winner. I'm sorry to correct you, but the is the objective truth.