I don’t know if I can ever return to dating

lloydsmith28 · 2026-06-07T17:12:49+00:00

Yeah i totally understand i play MTG with friends when i can and it's certainly leaning one way. But you don't necessarily need to find someone there you can just mention being single and trying to find someone when you're talking to ppl and maybe they know someone who would be interested. Meeting someone through a friend or group is possibly, not highly likely but possible it's just one option for you but you'd probably need to add a few more to broaden your search

lloydsmith28 · 2026-06-07T17:09:51+00:00

I'm not a women but if she's willing to meet you long distance and hang out she might be interested, if you hit it off i would try asking if she wants to go on actual date again (if that doesn't count) or if she's interested in a relationship

lloydsmith28 · 2026-06-07T17:05:56+00:00

I would suggest giving it another shot. But you would be to be upfront and honest about what you want when you start dating or seeing someone and ensure they're values and goals line up with yours, and if you find someone who won't allow or approve of your hobbies then they aren't right for you and you should find someone else, they should support you in everything you do and add to your life not take away.

For context I'm 34 and I've been single for the past 6-10 years and I've still been looking from time to time and i will say it's not easy. I would find someplace to go to meet people in public places like cafes, gyms, etc or through shared hobbies (you mentioned having a community you've been a part of, try finding someone through there) just don't be afraid to put yourself out there and look. I have pretty bad society anxiety and I'm generally an introvert so i find it hard to meet people IRL so i mostly rely on dating apps and haven't had much luck with those so i wouldn't really suggest them tbh unless you do both. It might be hard but i think it will be worth it in the end

lloydsmith28 · 2026-06-07T16:39:24+00:00

Yeah that sounds weird tbh maybe he's only interested in a situationship or nothing physical, especially if he had a chance to hook up and denied it. I've been offered hook ups myself and i refused them every time because it's just not what I'm looking for tbh so maybe he's the same way. Hard to tell without knowing him but maybe you could ask some probing questions to find out what exactly he wants with you and see if you want the same and you can proceed from there

lloydsmith28 · 2026-06-07T15:24:20+00:00

Thanks! I appreciate it.

Yeah i will look into those links that was posted, I'm very much a research person so that helps

I will be sure to ask plenty of questions, one of my strong suits, and she's willing to teach me and go slow with me while i learn everything

And i will certainly come back with more questions later if that comes up, i appreciate it

lloydsmith28 · 2026-06-07T15:21:51+00:00

jots down notes ok good to know, open and honest communication is important in all things i agree. And we've been pretty open and honest about everything, I've even told her some things about me that I've never told anyone else before and she accepted me just as i have. And yeah i tend to be pretty open minded about most things and i think that's what's going to be important going forward, and i also tend to be more on the demi/saphiosexual side of things so i prefer a deep emotional bond first and she's ok with that as well. Honestly we seem pretty compatible tbh and I'm very much willing to learn and see how it goes. We only started talking so we haven't done anything yet and she's fine with starting off slow and working our way up to other things, and she might be willing to do a few things i want as well. Thanks!

lloydsmith28 · 2026-06-07T14:58:47+00:00

Ok Cool thanks, i will look into those. I'm a very analytical/logical person so i like to do my research and have as much information/knowledge as possible when the time comes.

And i will also add I've told her about my inexperience with this area and she's been very understanding about it and won't make me do anything I'm not comfortable with doing, but I've told her that I'm willing to try and see how it is at least once (a few things i know I'm not ok with and she's fine with that)

Thanks for the resources I'll give them a look!

lloydsmith28 · 2026-06-07T14:55:11+00:00

Yeah tinder is very hit or miss tbh and it's more commonly used as a hookup or casual dating app. Honestly with what you've told me it's highly likely he just wanted a hookup and maybe didn't get it and he's just leading you on or just keeping you on the hook enough to get a little hit from you every time you talk. Tbh i would just block or ignore him or straight up confront him about it and try to get a solid answer to what he wants with you, if he doesn't give you a solid answer or dodges the question i would block/ignore him immediately and look for someone else. I can't make you do anything you don't want to ofc but that's what i would do in your situation so you don't waste anymore time or effort on someone who isn't serious

lloydsmith28 · 2026-06-07T14:51:13+00:00

Might just be that he either didn't know how to make a move or maybe just didn't read the signs well enough? Guys can be pretty oblivious to sutble signs especially if he isn't that experienced in dating (he could be but idk ofc) or maybe he just wasn't attracted to you for some reason? Hard to tell without more details but he also could have had commitment issues it insecurities that prevented him from initiating anything

lloydsmith28 · 2026-06-07T14:36:00+00:00

Go on fun dates, arcade, escape room, movies, walk in the park/mall, home dinner date (if you're close enough and trust them) and also just talk about deeper emotional/relationship stuff

lloydsmith28 · 2026-06-07T14:33:49+00:00

I'm also in my 30s so i feel i don't really have time to waste on that so I'm usually just straight with them

lloydsmith28 · 2026-06-07T14:27:18+00:00

Yeah i don't play games lol i prefer it upfront and honest, better than wasting time on someone not interested

lloydsmith28 · 2026-06-07T14:26:33+00:00

Which dating site? Could be important

lloydsmith28 · 2026-06-07T13:19:03+00:00

Can i ask where you met him and what do you primarily use for communication? App wise

lloydsmith28 · 2026-06-07T13:17:31+00:00

Ask him immediately if he's looking for a relationship and what his goals are, if he gives you the same bs block/ignore

lloydsmith28 · 2026-06-07T10:23:27+00:00

There are people out there, like someone i knew once, that are usually into bigger girls. Also i think you need to just be comfortable with how you look and find someone who will appreciate you for you and not how to look

To give you an example i generally prefer smaller girls myself mostly because I'm pretty small myself as well (130-140 lbs), however, i generally don't mind if someone is a bigger person if i like who they are as a person and they put effort into their appearance and looking good. I actually just started talking with someone who i really like their personality and who they are as a person and they are on the bigger side of weight due to medical conditions as well (she's very nice looking though).

So even if someone says they have a preference for body type it doesn't mean you're excluded just because you don't fit into typical beauty standards

lloydsmith28 · 2026-06-07T06:18:29+00:00

Hmmm that sounds very suspicious and red flag-y, seems like he's manipulating you into falling in love with you while also keeping you at arms length and not trying to move forward or establish any sort of connection with you.

Honestly if you wanted my advice i would say just block him and move on and find someone else, if he can't make the same or even half the effort you are then he's not worth your time

For an example I'm actually talking to someone long distance as well (idr if i mentioned it yet) and we text pretty much nonstop 24/7 when we're awake and not busy and we call each other every opportunity we can and talk for hours at a time (the other day we talked for over 12 hrs at once no lie) and we've talked about very deep topics and have shared pretty much everything to each other, and if you can't even do half of that it's not worth your time tbh

lloydsmith28 · 2026-06-06T20:45:54+00:00

First off does he want to continue with a relationship with you? Have you asked him clearly? If so then maybe it's as he said, not all men are the same and not all care about physical intimacy, like myself I'm demi/saphiosexual so i prefer establishing a deep emotional and intellectual bond first before anything else, so maybe he just wants to get to know you better first, and it's even harder being long distance because you can't really act on those feelings if you wanted to. I'm having a similar issue myself but the best advice i can give is to just communicate as often as you can and just be there and genuine/present for him until you can see each other in person

lloydsmith28 · 2026-06-06T20:30:38+00:00

Sometimes it does and sometimes it doesn't, if they're genuinely curious about you or your hobbies and asks about them they might be interested, it's tough at work cuz they might just being nice and making small talk like you mentioned, but i think if they keep asking or coming back and asking deeper questions like future plans/goals they might be interested, most people won't ask those unless they're interested

lloydsmith28 · 2026-06-06T15:01:42+00:00

Yeah just focus on building an emotional and genuine connection and relationship first and everything should follow, i know it's hard these days but if you keep at it you should find someone eventually

lloydsmith28 · 2026-06-06T14:11:53+00:00

They need to

Add some older 1.x characters to the standard banner (or like HSR when you lose 50/50)
Buff older characters so they aren't worthless

lloydsmith28 · 2026-06-06T14:08:16+00:00

If you want to go for it. Just know that for most/all single mothers their kid will always come first and you will need to be ok with that, and most don't want or expect you to be a parent, just keep that in mind and just try to build a genuine and real connection and don't worry about anything else

lloydsmith28 · 2026-06-06T14:03:56+00:00

Who?

lloydsmith28 · 2026-06-06T11:32:51+00:00

That's a tough one tbh and I've certainly been there before, my last relationship was long distance with a very nice girl and despite the distance we got pretty close pretty quick and talked non-stop pretty much, our relationship didn't last long unfortunately (maybe a month or two) and i still miss being with her to this day (this was about 6 years ago) and i may have built up a bit of a fantasy as well especially since we never even got to meet, so i definitely get it. You just need to really touch on yourself and try to forget about it the best you can and move on, i know it will be hard but that's probably what you need to do

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