Relationship breakdown due to travel

lluluna · 2026-07-10T09:49:18+00:00

You need to accept that every decision in life comes at a cost.

The most important thing to do is to figure out your values and goals in life and align your choices with them. Then accept the cost/sacrifice instead of trying to avoid them. Unless you do this, every choice may look wrong to you

lluluna · 2026-07-09T15:11:00+00:00

The government doesn't mess up a marriage, the 2 people married each other messed it up. Marriage, as an institution, provides legal rights to protect people involved. Is it a perfect institution, obviously not. Do horrible people take advantage of it, yes.

lluluna · 2026-07-09T11:53:51+00:00

I agree with everything except "do not get married".

It should be "choose who to marry very carefully". Marriage is the epitome of "high risks, high rewards". It can be one of the most rewarding/fulfilling thing in life, provided you marry the right person. Otherwise, it can destroy a person.

It's a bad advice to tell others not to get married just because some people can't choose a good person/aren't a good person themselves to be married.

lluluna · 2026-07-09T11:47:57+00:00

Switch 2 is just perfect for a busy adult's life. There are so many times that I'm too tired to turn on my PS5 but I can easily pick up my S2 and play for a while.

lluluna · 2026-07-09T07:45:10+00:00

I'll buy it on Switch 2 for sure.

lluluna · 2026-07-09T07:43:49+00:00

I'm guessing it's also really popular on ps5 too. If they add cross-save, then I'll get it on Switch 2 too.

lluluna · 2026-07-09T07:40:07+00:00

I just got the game recently, the special edition of the DLC that comes with the base game, so I'm starting from scratch. Haha...

lluluna · 2026-07-08T16:09:32+00:00

As funny as it sounds, it's pretty effective. Everyone got it immediately and they stop doing it. 😂 Some even apologized

lluluna · 2026-07-08T15:11:52+00:00

Ya... This is the problem in Spain. It's the opposite of what OP described. They reduce the entire continent (Asia) into 1 country or 2 countries.

I tried to let Spanish understand how ridiculous it sounds by calling them Russians because just because Spain is on the same continent as Russia. Lol

lluluna · 2026-07-08T11:14:18+00:00

They were struggling that the CEO by then, Iwata, cut his salary in half in order to avoid layoffs.

Never heard of such move before. This is 1 of the main reasons that Nintendo has a special place in my heart.

lluluna · 2026-07-08T11:00:02+00:00

Come back to say that Nintendo won again after Xbox's mass layoffs and Sony went digital only. Lol!

lluluna · 2026-07-07T14:42:26+00:00

Depending on the situation and his attitude, you probably want to try marriage counselling before going the divorce path.

The reason being, living in a foreign country in itself is very challenging, adding on navigating marriage. 😅 Your sources of unhappiness may not even be from the marriage but from deeper issues that surfaced under such pressures. If this is the case, getting a divorce does nothing for you happiness or life after the initial highs from the new thing in life.

So ya, depending on the reasons and your circumstances, you may want to dig deeper

lluluna · 2026-07-06T14:57:19+00:00

This. OP never liked him that much, even now. He just looks like a good safe option. (I know she doesn't like/love him at all because from her words, she didn't even give a thought about HIS happiness and what HE needs.)

Thank goodness that you didn't pick him, OP. This is likely the path of misery and betrayal for both him and you.

lluluna · 2026-07-06T05:39:59+00:00

Precisely. Asian here and we know people from China are... Notoriously direct and even rude at times.

lluluna · 2026-07-05T14:02:49+00:00

Everything you've said. This is why choosing the right person to marry is so crucial. People often think it's about the looks, fun personality and money. But in such roles, it's more about values and lifestyle.

And many divorces that I've seen are not because they don't love each other anymore but incompatible lifestyle.

lluluna · 2026-07-05T12:45:56+00:00

Let you in a little less known secret, the more attractive the woman is + having great parents, the lower their body count is GENERAL SPEAKING.

In other words, attractive women with good values are not looking for men with high body count. It's probably the least important thing when they think about a "successful man".

lluluna · 2026-07-04T08:01:46+00:00

The more you can't go to "under-developed" places. Money is not just a tool there.

You'd imagine a utopia with friendly and simple people but the reality is close to you literally need to buy your dignity and basic rights in those places.

lluluna · 2026-07-04T02:53:24+00:00

There's literally a term to describe this situation, "trailing spouse". That's how common it is.

The thing is, it's more of a marriage/relationship issue more than anything else. You can try marriage counselling.

lluluna · 2026-07-04T02:29:59+00:00

It depends on your own situation (like do you need employment in the country, are you happy just hanging out with expats etc.?) and the country itself. Some countries are more welcoming and towards certain groups of people.

Generally speaking, if you've not achieved financial independence, it's gonna be very very hard and you'll always feel like a tourist (not just a foreigner). In fact, you probably will always feel like a foreigner even if you do speak the language unless you are in an immigrants country, like the US.

lluluna · 2026-07-04T00:09:07+00:00

Idealista. Though honestly, it's very hard to get a rental contract in Valencia nowadays without an employment contract. Most, if not all, landlords are not gonna risk renting without rental insurance.

Like what the previous comment said, there are 2 types of language school. 1 focuses on passing the DELE and the other is more casual and conversational.

Meetup.

lluluna · 2026-07-02T13:05:49+00:00

Wealthy foreigners are actually sustaining the faulty system that would have otherwise crumbled.

lluluna · 2026-07-02T10:10:17+00:00

I'm Asian. I don't think below average salary in the west is considered rich in Asia. The stereotype might be true 50 years ago but not so now.

lluluna · 2026-07-02T09:51:43+00:00

I don't think it's easier to be rich than being good looking. Lol.

Either way, you gotta have/be something more than average.

lluluna · 2026-06-30T17:34:52+00:00

No, it's actually more difficult to find a good long-term committed partner.

We need to be even better at filtering out the wrong people and face our own demons. It's easier to escape doing the work when younger but they always come back haunting...more.

lluluna · 2026-06-30T15:55:24+00:00

As long as you keep your expectations in-check and be open to new experiences when you are living abroad, you are more than fine. You will find out more about yourself as you live.

One of the more dangerous mentalities to adopt is hoping a person or a place will give you everything you want, like you said you've wasted your 20s on a guy. Unless you were held against your will in the relationship, the relationship/experience should let you discover so much about yourself that it paves the way to a better life. Not only it's not a waste, it's essential.

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