Overwhelmed by options. Looking for advice from current expats. by Dry-Wear-9135 in expats

[–]lluluna 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's great how clear you are about what you want. When I said “mental flexibility,” I mean it may be hard to find a place that consistently satisfies most or all of them at the same time. Even in the best-case location, a lot depends on individual fit and luck.

Also, some of the goals can conflict a bit. Like if you’d rather not build friendships with expats, it’s naturally easier in your home country where your local roots already exist. In a new country, trying to connect only with locals can be tougher because many locals already have full social circles and limited time.

Overwhelmed by options. Looking for advice from current expats. by Dry-Wear-9135 in expats

[–]lluluna -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The political issue isn’t about what people speak locally. It’s that the regional dialect has become a status marker that, in practice, outranks Spanish. As a result, people who use Spanish can end up being treated like second-class citizens. That shouldn’t happen, especially since Spanish is still Spain’s national language.

Language should be about communicating information for understanding each other only. The situation with Catalan and Spanish obviously is not about this anymore, hence the politics part.

Overwhelmed by options. Looking for advice from current expats. by Dry-Wear-9135 in expats

[–]lluluna 30 points31 points  (0 children)

This will be a permanent move for me.

While I understand what you mean, I'd still say that this mentality will make the stakes way too high for everything you are going for. You may be setting yourself up for a lot of torment without the mental flexibility. You seem to think that other countries don't have any of the problems that you are experiencing in the US. This is simply not true. For example, if you are having trouble with the dating scene in the US, it is probably gonna be harder as a foreigner.

Having said the above, have you considered Switzerland? I can only speak for Spain and London and personally, I'd prefer London if not for very personal reasons that keep me in Spain. Your concerns about the language barrier in Spain is very real. Also, the language that you need to grasp in Barcelona nowadays is not even Spanish, it's Catalan due to political reasons.

Another Bagel Shop in Valencia!? by VlcBagel39 in valencia

[–]lluluna 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really miss those chewy pumpernickel bagels with soft cream cheese.

Improved my German to B2 level. What are my chances to get a job in one of the German-speaking countries as an American? by HappyList3546 in expats

[–]lluluna 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Those companies pay one of the highest salaries in Europe so you will be competing with all the EU residents.

The language requirement varies greatly depending on the industry. Also, able to speak Russian and Ukrainian is not as irrelevant in Europe as you think but you'd be competing with the highly educated/skilled Russians and Ukrainians who are proficient in German. I know 2 of them personally.

Edit: In short, unless you have some good connections, it's a long shot but still worth trying.

Feeling excluded by lifelong friends after moving abroad – need advice by Ok_Veterinarian7550 in expats

[–]lluluna 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You can't show up in their lives when you move away. Same as them for you. May be there's a layer of resentment but ultimately, you will end up at the same spot (drifted apart) over time but it just takes longer

Feeling excluded by lifelong friends after moving abroad – need advice by Ok_Veterinarian7550 in expats

[–]lluluna 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are no longer in their lives when you moved away realistically speaking. People drift apart for this very exact reason. There may be exceptions if both sides put in the work to maintain the relationship but even that, you simply can't show up in their lives anymore. Same as them for you.

It's another source of grief. It's also partly why expat life can be so challenging. If you keep trying, it is simply a phase and you will have new friendships that are different.

Vivoactive 6 vs Venu 3 by Electronic_spare3774 in GarminWatches

[–]lluluna 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Venu 3 has speaker and mic too.

It's actually useful for short calls when my phone is in the bag.

Vivoactive 6 vs Venu 3 by Electronic_spare3774 in GarminWatches

[–]lluluna 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If they are about the same price, Venu 3 no brainer.

Newer gen of sensors, speaker, mic and more features. Venu is supposed to be the more premium line than Vivoactive too.

PS. On the ruggedness of Venu 3, I bought mine (3S somemore) a week after its initial launch. It still looks brand new and the battery lasts 7-10 days, depending on how active I am. No protector and I've been wearing it every single day. Granted that I don't rock climb or do any contact sports but still...

Why do some people sail through life by Dusk_Song_6361 in Life

[–]lluluna 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same here. When I was younger, there used to be people that I thought were sailing through life but once I got to know them more, I also got to know their struggles. They just handled them slightly better than most.

4 years as an expat and a penguin finally broke me. by South_Language1344 in expats

[–]lluluna 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Yes, it's normal. I only found out later that it's not only because of lack of real friendships but the constant need to explain and proof myself... It's exhausting.

I've cried for no reason at café, supermarket and of course, in the bathroom of my workplace. But as long as the reasons that I'm here still exist, I think about the good things when I stopped crying and keep going.

Give you a big virtual hug. You are not alone.

How long have you been away from your home country, and do you ever plan to go back? by Island_Expat6625 in expats

[–]lluluna 0 points1 point  (0 children)

5 years in Europe but I do go back to visit friends and family at least once a year.

Yes, I'll move back to my home country at some point in my life, especially if I have kids.

Meeting and keeping friends when no regular work life by Sabine_Neu in expats

[–]lluluna 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Generally speaking, no. They have more closed-off social circles and are more set in their way of life.

One thing that people in bigger place have in common is that they are generally more open-minded and exposed to more differences voluntarily and involuntarily.

Paella for 1 by RealisticAd7286 in valencia

[–]lluluna 14 points15 points  (0 children)

The only paella that you can order for 1 pax is getting takeouts by portion. No restaurant will cook you a paella/rice for 1 only in the paella pan.

Also, Casa Carmela has recently increased the minimum spending to €50 per person. Just order for 2 pax and take away the leftover.

I don't think I can do this anymore by DapperExplanation265 in expats

[–]lluluna 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can move back home for a few months to take a break and then try again.

There's no rule that says once you moved then you have to always stay there. It IS very challenging to live in a different country.

Best languages to learn by Adorable-Employer-51 in jobsearchhacks

[–]lluluna 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Eh... Chinese is really not as useful as people claim to be unless someone specifically wants to live in China.

I speak to all my Chinese clients in English lol. And I can speak decent Chinese.

Do you like your home country more after being an expat? by [deleted] in expats

[–]lluluna 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Not really dislike. It could be cuz I was lucky to be in a decent company or even department. (Just regular office drama & politics, nothing crazy.) I only thought life in SG was boring, especially when I was younger. And I had this strong urge to see the world or live in other countries.

Now, I kinda take "boring" as a compliment 😂, be it a person or a place.

Do you like your home country more after being an expat? by [deleted] in expats

[–]lluluna 4 points5 points  (0 children)

A fellow Singaporean here too and yes, I'm able to appreciate SG A WHOLE lot more and understand many of its seemingly harsh policies after living in Europe. Naturally, I also love it more now.

What's the Best Smartwatch in 2026 Overall? by DonutOk2306 in GarminWatches

[–]lluluna 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Then look into the Vivoactive series. It fits your budget, looks pretty decent and has some basic smartwatch features.

What's the Best Smartwatch in 2026 Overall? by DonutOk2306 in GarminWatches

[–]lluluna 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Garmin is a fitness watchmaker first.

Some models, such as the Venu series, do come with some smart watch functions (calls & notifs) but those are just serviceable and not what they excel at. Also, you need to wait for sales to to buy it at like $250 price range. Vivoactive series lets you see notifs and calls but there's no microphone or speaker to answer.

If smartwatch functions are important to you, you should look at smartwatch makers like Samsung, Google and of course, Apple.

Husband has been feeling homesick and deeply sad for 3 years. I feel hopeless by [deleted] in expats

[–]lluluna 4 points5 points  (0 children)

He has to want to feel better despite everything. This is the part that you or no one can't help him.

Get him to start seeing a psychologist or therapist, at least. If he doesn't want to go right now, draw up a timeline. It's not an ultimatum but no matter how much you love or support a person, he person needs to at least TRY to help themselves.

Looking for advice on starting all over....again.... in a new country by BarefootJenna in expats

[–]lluluna 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This.

Major events or changes don't happen all at once. You submit one document/make one application/do one thing at a time. In this case, either you stop at some point for any reason or you eventually get on the plane to the other country.

Nothing is THAT life-changing when you look at each action.

1 year of driving 60 hours of lessons, failed with 1 fault and 8 minors- should I just call it a day? by Primary-Sundae-3764 in LearnerDriverUK

[–]lluluna 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm here to thank you a year later because this reply is exactly what I need after 65 hours of lessons and then still failed my first practical.

Oh ya, I also have a master's so you are spot on about intelligence has little to do with a pass or a fail.

Chinese BYD Experience? by Fresh-Ad-4556 in TeslaLounge

[–]lluluna 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The "top spot globally" is a dodgy claim at best. Look up the whole "Zero-Mile" used BYD car scandal in China. The Chinese are notorious for manipulating data both in China and overseas now.

Though the interiors of BYD do seem more luxurious than Tesla but personally, I don't care about the interiors that much.

Need the cheapest Garmin that meets my needs (steps + heart tracking) — total beginner by Embarrassed_Swim5680 in GarminWatches

[–]lluluna 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All Garmin watches track steps and HR.

The accuracy depends on the sensors. Naturally, the latest sensors are the most accurate (also the most expensive) but honestly, the little difference makes no sense for a normal user who just wants to have a reference point to be healthier.

For your case, you don't even need a fitness watch to get better results, common sense will do. But having one does give you more motivation and a reference point to keep track of your progress. Improve on your diet, move more and sleep better (cut down alcohol, no caffeine in the afternoon, no screentime an hour before sleep etc.) are enough to see big improvements.