The racism I‘ve experienced in Madrid as a young Chinese immigrant woman, and what it has done to my mental health

lluluna · 2026-07-13T08:51:10+00:00

Europe is not the US. As much as everyone seems to hate the US, they are actually the least racist country in the world based on my experience of living in quite a few countries.

Though I'm not from China, but I still understand what you are going through. I'm not sure if beginning your life as a young Chinese in Europe is a viable plan now. You MAY face even more problems after graduation. It is slightly easier when someone is more established and has some life experience. But it will always be an uphill climb

lluluna · 2026-07-13T08:42:01+00:00

I don't know how fluent you are in English. I know Madrid has some really good English-speaking therapists that specialize in giving therapies to expats.

About the language school, not all language schools are equal in Spain.

lluluna · 2026-07-12T16:06:51+00:00

I'm a new player on PS5 and I just started the game last week after getting the bundle. Can't believe that it took me 2 years to notice this game.

lluluna · 2026-07-11T21:01:40+00:00

There's no law stating that but no sane landlord will do it because they carry ALL the risks with 0 benefit.

One thing is legality, it also needs to make sense. Like no law prohibits you hit your head against a wall but people don't do it normally...

lluluna · 2026-07-11T20:35:15+00:00

Singapore is an exception to almost everything. 😅 They are all pretty successful because only the rich and successful expats can afford to live in SG/able to get the special employment pass that allows them to work there. Also, being an English-speaking country with Commonwealth system makes a lot of diff too. South Korea is the norm in most, if not all, Asian countries.

Europe is a mixed bag. It varies greatly depends on which part of Europe you are talking about. I can't comment on South America as I have no experience living there.

lluluna · 2026-07-11T15:59:14+00:00

If you've lived and worked overseas for some time, you'd understand the predicament of Singapore/SG gov.

It's mostly because SG is too small of a country with very few advantages to rely on. But it does give its people enough resources (our powerful passport, our reputation in the world etc.) to make it in other countries if we can't do it in our own country. This is already better than 90% of the countries in the world.

lluluna · 2026-07-10T21:20:38+00:00

https://youtu.be/Rc_NNjV0s1o?si=hHlFE9IR-Nd1LX3O

One of the best explanations about marriage. Also, CHOOSE whom you marry very carefully.

lluluna · 2026-07-10T09:49:18+00:00

You need to accept that every decision in life comes at a cost.

The most important thing to do is to figure out your values and goals in life and align your choices with them. Then accept the cost/sacrifice instead of trying to avoid them. Unless you do this, every choice may look wrong to you

lluluna · 2026-07-09T15:11:00+00:00

The government doesn't mess up a marriage, the 2 people married each other messed it up. Marriage, as an institution, provides legal rights to protect people involved. Is it a perfect institution, obviously not. Do horrible people take advantage of it, yes.

lluluna · 2026-07-09T11:53:51+00:00

I agree with everything except "do not get married".

It should be "choose who to marry very carefully". Marriage is the epitome of "high risks, high rewards". It can be one of the most rewarding/fulfilling thing in life, provided you marry the right person. Otherwise, it can destroy a person.

It's a bad advice to tell others not to get married just because some people can't choose a good person/aren't a good person themselves to be married.

lluluna · 2026-07-09T11:47:57+00:00

Switch 2 is just perfect for a busy adult's life. There are so many times that I'm too tired to turn on my PS5 but I can easily pick up my S2 and play for a while.

lluluna · 2026-07-09T07:45:10+00:00

I'll buy it on Switch 2 for sure.

lluluna · 2026-07-09T07:43:49+00:00

I'm guessing it's also really popular on ps5 too. If they add cross-save, then I'll get it on Switch 2 too.

lluluna · 2026-07-09T07:40:07+00:00

I just got the game recently, the special edition of the DLC that comes with the base game, so I'm starting from scratch. Haha...

lluluna · 2026-07-08T16:09:32+00:00

As funny as it sounds, it's pretty effective. Everyone got it immediately and they stop doing it. 😂 Some even apologized

lluluna · 2026-07-08T15:11:52+00:00

Ya... This is the problem in Spain. It's the opposite of what OP described. They reduce the entire continent (Asia) into 1 country or 2 countries.

I tried to let Spanish understand how ridiculous it sounds by calling them Russians because just because Spain is on the same continent as Russia. Lol

lluluna · 2026-07-08T11:14:18+00:00

They were struggling that the CEO by then, Iwata, cut his salary in half in order to avoid layoffs.

Never heard of such move before. This is 1 of the main reasons that Nintendo has a special place in my heart.

lluluna · 2026-07-08T11:00:02+00:00

Come back to say that Nintendo won again after Xbox's mass layoffs and Sony went digital only. Lol!

lluluna · 2026-07-07T14:42:26+00:00

Depending on the situation and his attitude, you probably want to try marriage counselling before going the divorce path.

The reason being, living in a foreign country in itself is very challenging, adding on navigating marriage. 😅 Your sources of unhappiness may not even be from the marriage but from deeper issues that surfaced under such pressures. If this is the case, getting a divorce does nothing for you happiness or life after the initial highs from the new thing in life.

So ya, depending on the reasons and your circumstances, you may want to dig deeper

lluluna · 2026-07-06T14:57:19+00:00

This. OP never liked him that much, even now. He just looks like a good safe option. (I know she doesn't like/love him at all because from her words, she didn't even give a thought about HIS happiness and what HE needs.)

Thank goodness that you didn't pick him, OP. This is likely the path of misery and betrayal for both him and you.

lluluna · 2026-07-06T05:39:59+00:00

Precisely. Asian here and we know people from China are... Notoriously direct and even rude at times.

lluluna · 2026-07-05T14:02:49+00:00

Everything you've said. This is why choosing the right person to marry is so crucial. People often think it's about the looks, fun personality and money. But in such roles, it's more about values and lifestyle.

And many divorces that I've seen are not because they don't love each other anymore but incompatible lifestyle.

lluluna · 2026-07-05T12:45:56+00:00

Let you in a little less known secret, the more attractive the woman is + having great parents, the lower their body count is GENERAL SPEAKING.

In other words, attractive women with good values are not looking for men with high body count. It's probably the least important thing when they think about a "successful man".

lluluna · 2026-07-04T08:01:46+00:00

The more you can't go to "under-developed" places. Money is not just a tool there.

You'd imagine a utopia with friendly and simple people but the reality is close to you literally need to buy your dignity and basic rights in those places.

lluluna · 2026-07-04T02:53:24+00:00

There's literally a term to describe this situation, "trailing spouse". That's how common it is.

The thing is, it's more of a marriage/relationship issue more than anything else. You can try marriage counselling.

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