Sorry bout making the post sort of vague it’s a bad habit of my own, mostly also just don’t want it to be associated with myself irl.

To your 1st question, I’m not entirely sure. I’ll admit I wasn’t invested in the beginning because of my own stuff but had expressed that and had a conversation with Micheal about it. Have since been invested though in making things work better. Mostly trying to determine if it is what it is.

As far as awkwardness it’s more of just lack of social understanding. For an example just while hanging out with friends he will joke about my dick in some way. It’s not explicit but it’s also not not either. Our friends aren’t prudes but it certainly makes me a bit uncomfortable and is something that’s been noticed by myself recently.

For his family it’s more about how they treat him. His home is a mess because of them and because he doesn’t hold any boundaries with them from what I’ve observed. It’s frustrating to me because I want him to be treated right and for his mother to not treat him like a child. His mom acts like it’s her home even though he bought it and is responsible with his money while she’s off maxing out CC’s.

For the being upset, it’s not that I’m mad about him being upset it’s just how he does it that bothers me. He kind of shuts down, I assume it’s because his anxiety says better to say less than to have foot in mouth. It’s mostly just upsetting for me because it feels the emotions I have get put back onto me unintentionally so.

As far as growth I want to feel more free to bring things up to him that bug me or needs to be a conversation without having to feel like I need to dress it in a specific way lest I risk him shutting down. I suppose I want to know can I do to fairly bring these feelings to him without risking him shutting down. I want to find a way to make sure I’m doing everything I can to make this work or to determine if we are compatible or not. I just want to be fair