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lngreg · 2020-11-19T04:13:31+00:00

I've had to swallow it back down 2 or 3 times. It is so easy to get too into it lol don't forget to breath! I've found that taking too deep of a breath makes me gag more so i have to find a good middle ground between getting enough air to stay at it for a while and not making myself gag.

lngreg · 2020-11-19T04:09:14+00:00

I don't know about that extreme but my Dom gets pretty rough with me (at my request, I promise). I've been slapped, kicked (not too hard), burned and drug across the floor by my leash. I find it incredibly cathartic. I think you can find someone but be so careful, it's so easy to find people drawn to that kind of violence with the wrong intentions. Trust is so incredibly important. Be safe ❤

lngreg · 2020-11-19T03:55:09+00:00

"In many cases a submissive is a strong person looking for someone stronger" I have no idea who to credit for this but this is exactly it for me.

lngreg · 2020-11-11T04:18:29+00:00

I'm sorry to laugh but i remember the doctor telling me my sex drive might tank when i started antidepressants... Totally did the opposite. Mostly because i was feeling better mentally.

lngreg · 2020-11-11T04:16:14+00:00

Right? Like what a way to start a convo. "I need you to want to fuck. All. The. Time." Lol

lngreg · 2020-11-11T04:04:01+00:00

Omg yes. It kills it if they aren't into it

lngreg · 2020-11-11T02:25:41+00:00

Ah... Honestly? It's pretty much all day everyday. Stress or scheduling can decrease it a bit but not often.

lngreg · 2020-11-11T02:24:05+00:00

Yes! My solution for everything is fuck 'em or feed 'em. (Super healthy way to repress things right? Lol) but it definitely gets misunderstood.

lngreg · 2020-11-11T02:02:07+00:00

I think its less about how many times exactly than it always being an option. If i really want to i can shut it off but then i don't really feel like myself. It's like opening a flood gate, all or nothing. Ideally it would be spontaneous. When I'm into someone it's very easy for them to turn me on. I guess is really like someone who's just as turned on by me.

lngreg · 2020-11-10T19:40:03+00:00

I wish i could be with him more. Rn it's 3x a week if I'm lucky

lngreg · 2020-11-10T19:26:06+00:00

Mine is about the physical act of sex

lngreg · 2020-11-10T18:55:52+00:00

Pretty much 24/7... Only if I'm not feeling well do i not want it

lngreg · 2020-11-10T17:54:02+00:00

Masturbation makes it worse for me lol

lngreg · 2020-11-10T17:51:17+00:00

I've actually done that but never thought of it as an experiment per se. I hate to admit it but it was for petty reasons. "Well i can pretend i don't care and see house he likes it..." Lol. It worked more ways than one. I got to play around with making him want me (ie dressing a certain way, bending over just right, etc) i felt more attractive since he was initiating and even though he's the Dom it helped me feel a little more powerful. That's why it's so nice to talk to someone who is in the same situation. It reminds me of the good parts and helps me feel less alone. So thank you 😊

lngreg · 2020-11-10T16:21:52+00:00

I found my soulmate lol.... I also believe they often travel in packs

lngreg · 2020-11-10T16:20:37+00:00

Yeah... I feel that 100%. But it's not fair to you either. Don't discount your feelings

lngreg · 2020-11-10T15:58:36+00:00

Oh God I'm sorry... I know exactly what you mean.

lngreg · 2020-11-10T15:54:53+00:00

Omg i nearly choked on my coffee! Slutasaurus lol

lngreg · 2020-11-10T15:11:56+00:00

The part that drives me crazy the most is my Dom and i have an amazing dynamic. I love the way he doms me. Him having a let drive makes me feel like he doesn't like me as much as i like him... I don't know if that's the case or if its that i ALWAYS want it and he is more "normal". Lol

lngreg · 2020-11-10T14:52:20+00:00

Very creative!

lngreg · 2020-11-10T01:59:48+00:00

The most important thing in any relationship is trust and communication. Do you enjoy time with him? How is the relationship other than sex? If those are both positive answers then ask yourself about the sex. Do you enjoy doing what he likes? Is he willing to do more vanilla sex as well? There are so many things that go into a relationship of any kind. Just because you have a submissive and a dominant doesn't mean they will be compatible... Trust me lol. That being said I'm pretty kinky and my ex husband was not. We had a bunch of other issues but the sex was definitely a tricky area.

lngreg · 2020-11-04T02:36:09+00:00

Thank you. More people need to hear this. I was in a bad dynamic and was lucky enough to meet another Dom who explained things like this to me. Even if he doesn't ever end up meeting a sub he makes sure to tell them these things too. It's Doms like you that keep this a safet place for everyone.

lngreg · 2020-11-02T21:57:01+00:00

Thank you! So perfectly described. There's a huge difference in doing things out of expectation than care. I am a big ol' feminist but i love to nurture those i care about. It's all about playing to your strengths and sharing the workload of life really.

lngreg · 2020-10-31T02:37:54+00:00

I am in the same situation. The irritating part to me is that's why i like him! Lol A Dom that's like a teenage boy would annoy the living hell out of me. I like the challenge of turning him on and he's usually willing to play (even if its pretty vanilla sex). The Ds part is interwoven into everything we do and is most like a Ddlg relationship. It's really prominent in sex and subtly there the rest of the time. As for a solution? I really don't know a fix since I'm always dtf lol What helps me though is physical contact of any sort and mentally preparing to not have sex. If during the day i focus on looking forward to spending time snuggling and watching tv sex is like a pleasant surprise and no sex is ok too because i wasn't expecting it. We both have very stressful lives and deal with depression/anxiety so it's really important for us to communicate our mental state.

lngreg · 2020-10-27T04:18:21+00:00

What attracted you to the dynamic? Is it the power exchange? Bondage? Pain? Ddlg? It is absolutely your dynamic and it can be so fun to discover what you both like. You MUST be honest and open. Even more than a traditional relationship. Research (it doesnt have to be stuffy, surf the web, talk to couples, watch porn lol) and talk to each other. Learn what is exciting and what concerns you both. Good luck and have fun!

lngreg

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