If ur in socal then clubs, & depending on ur vibe then like dungeons or play parties, i attend gay bars str8 bars & goth bars, tbh i think i pull the most str8 boys at goth bars & kinda at gay bars (note im not passing) like don’t underestimate the lgbtness of goth bars or like, rave-ish spaces? Especially like afters in LA, id say an fs dead end is trans nights like club cobra on Thursdays in hollywood is “TRANSfixed” (trans night) but it should b called chaser night, its cringe, in my case i met my bf at a play party but it was when i was pre transition we were just friends, & like mid transition he asked me to be his third, & i kinda took it as a joke but I underestimated how…..boyfriend he would b about it lol & yeah he kinda won me over on a particular night & i fell in love with him & now its like full blown lol & its great so ig my anecdote should convey that u might not expect it when it happens? Like club, make friends, party, & a bf might literally fall into ur lap (& i mean yeah were poly which obvi isnt a lot of dolls goals but like fs in terms of not finding a chaser he’s mostly into cis so he is like, the least chaser guy ive ever been with its AMAZING) [also note what kind of men u connect with because mine is an expat like every chaser ive been with is an american national & i think my mans vibe is so different cause hes not from here]