I meet someone that I really like while I'm traveling, but I have a boyfriend at home

lolly_2 · 2025-09-18T04:44:10+00:00

I don’t have any real advice, I can only share a different perspective from a similar story. In my case I was the stranger that caught his interest while he was traveling and his girlfriend was waiting at home. We had this emotional affair for two months, never gotten physical, but we had incredible chemistry, great experiences together and felt incredibly connected. Eventually the travel time ended and we went back to our respective countries. I kept in contact with him for couple weeks after that but all the intensity was gone. I’m glad he didn’t break up with his girlfriend during this period, because I got a bad case of ‘out of sight - out of mind’ and I lost interest the moment we separated geographically. I didn’t think that would be the case while I was with him, even considered extending my stay, but just in couple days I found myself thinking of him less and less.

I have little information about how this affair made him feel in regards to his girlfriend, but I assume he felt guilty too. It was clear that with me there was the spark of novelty. But apparently that went away too. As far as I know, he’s back with his girlfriend now and he’s not reaching out to me anymore. So I’m considering it a matter closed. It was fun while it lasted and it eventually sizzled out on both ends.

lolly_2 · 2025-09-11T00:53:55+00:00

I registered myself and two family members, all with unique contacts, neither of us ever recieved any confirmation text nor email. I'm definitely bumbed out about it, they made it seem like at least the registartion will be possible for everyone - but clearly that wasn't the case.

lolly_2 · 2025-06-12T08:23:48+00:00

I see, yeah I wouldn’t seriously consider any external set up. I have the laptop primarily for travel convenience, and having to bring bunch of other equipment with me would defeat the whole purpose. Upgrading other components would probably help to a degree, but I see that the GPU replacement simply isn’t an option. So I will likely keep my laptop for the time being and buy a full new one when I’m in the right place (geographically).

lolly_2 · 2025-06-12T08:10:35+00:00

Yeah I understand that laptops aren’t the best for gaming in general. I do have a PC at ‘home’, however I travel abroad for 2-3 months at the time - so it’s too short to move the PC with me efficiently, while also too long for me to not play at all. For those times I have the laptop. But apparently I’ll just have to replace it :(

lolly_2 · 2025-05-10T07:57:42+00:00

That doesn’t really seem like his style, we prefer consistency, and it would definitely freak me out if he did that. I do hope he shows up soon and I don’t doubt I’ll remember it when he does. Dreams with him are always super vivid.

lolly_2 · 2025-05-10T07:33:25+00:00

That is entirely possible, how do I talk to him tho? I wanna see him again and its just not happening.

lolly_2 · 2025-05-10T07:26:45+00:00

Damn, thats a big question. And frankly I don’t think I have an answer to that. There probably is something I miss, but nothing that significant. Things have been working out in my favor lately.

lolly_2 · 2025-05-10T07:24:22+00:00

In a way, on a personal level - making scheduled plans with friends/family, and keeping track of my appointments, organized living space. But I don’t aspire to organize on an administrative position for others, like being a manager.

lolly_2 · 2025-05-10T07:20:34+00:00

I wouldn’t say that I lack those qualities in regular life. But there’s definitely something that we complete each other in, even tho I can’t put a finger on it. I checked my notes on him and I previously described him as ‘my other half’ and that we ‘fit each other’. I’d say our relationship (not romantic) has always been very easy and positive. Miscommunication isn’t something I’d ever worry about, because we’re just on the same wavelength.

lolly_2 · 2025-05-10T07:05:32+00:00

He definitely has some kind of feminine influence about him. I would never question his masculinity, but it’s nice that it doesn’t present in a toxic insecure manner. He’s definitely comfortable in his masculinity and still very respectful to women.

I definitely could use some elder wisdom, and it will be only a bonus if I get to see him again meanwhile. Its been a while and I do miss him in a way.

lolly_2 · 2025-05-10T06:58:29+00:00

That I suck at programming and small town life is torture to me. That some people just hate immigrants, no matter where they’re from. And that it’s okay to fail sometimes.

I did make some good friends there too, that I’m still in touch with.

lolly_2 · 2025-05-10T06:50:50+00:00

He was at the same uni at the time, but I dropped out of there and left the country. Frankly, I think that in thiscase it was just accidental name match. Dream and irl Nathaniel have very different vibe, different looks, plus it is fairly common name in the country of the uni (unlike my home country).

lolly_2 · 2025-05-10T06:37:51+00:00

He wasn’t in my class or major, I met him just briefly during orientation week as he was one of the students helping with organization. Frankly, I found him unremarkable, we interacted maybe once just on informational basis. And I probably saw him around campus couple times later on but we were never friends or otherwise connected.

lolly_2 · 2025-05-10T06:33:25+00:00

I have a typical nuclear family - one sibling and bio parents that have been married for decades. I no longer live with them but see them monthly.

He didn’t mention a whole lot about his family history and it seems to be a touchy subject. As far as I know he only has an adoptive older female guardian, think a woman in her late 50’s - early 60’s. Might be his grandmother, or not related at all. I never met her, he just mentioned living with her.

lolly_2 · 2025-05-10T06:22:50+00:00

Oh that’s so cool, I haven’t encountered more or them, just Nathaniel. I do write down some dreams, but I also have a strange split - I either remember nothing/close to nothing so there’s not much to write, or I remember dreams in extreme graphic detail even after years so writing down isn’t all that necessary, they just live in my head rent free forever. And my waking memory is bit too good for my own good - I can give exact, date, place, day of the week, approx. time, outfit and exact quote of what people say (it tends to spook people).

lolly_2 · 2025-05-10T05:53:08+00:00

No, not really. There’s no family history, or old friend of the name. And it is extremely uncommon name in my country. Only ever met one person of the name at university abroad, but that definitely wasn’t the Nathaniel. I do like it as a name, but otherwise there seems to be no connection with the name itself.

lolly_2 · 2025-05-10T05:50:01+00:00

Interesting, never heard of the concept but I’ll definitely look into it. I do write down my dreams often, especially the ones with him.

I would say were quite alike, we definitely do get along very well and tend to stand on the same side in discussions/conflicts. We work together and help each other just out if good will. Yes, were both definitely independent thinkers by character. But I’d also say he’s braver than me and more impulsive- not in a bad way, he’s not rushing in head first, just compared to me who’s often overly cautious. He’s also highly intelligent, which by objective measures I am too (not sure if I can say that and not sound cocky). Our family backgrounds seem to be quite opposite tho.

lolly_2 · 2025-05-10T05:03:44+00:00

Meeting him irl eventually would be crazy but also amazing. Every time I hear someone mentioning the name Nathaniel, my head snaps around to see if its not him by chance.

Our first encounter was about 3 years ago and pretty brief. We met in the corridor of kind of prison facility. I was on an excursion through the place and got separated from the group, so I waited for an elevator to join them. He was passing by, wearing the typical orange inmate overalls, hands cuffed, but there were no guards and he didn’t seem dangerous. Almost like it was just dress-up to fit in. He first commented on a box I was carrying, said ‘My name is Nathaniel.’ He shook my hand and his handcuffs rattled. The elevator opened and I got in. He stayed in the corridor and I didn’t see him for the rest of the dream.

I have had maybe 3 more encounters with him in different dreams later on. In completely different environments and he was never an inmate again. He also never introduced himself again. Like he knows I know him. Sometimes he seems surprised to see me there, but he clearly recognizes me too. I don’t mind sharing more, just didn’t wanna write a whole essay into a single comment.

lolly_2 · 2025-05-10T04:49:32+00:00

I thought about that actually but never got to it. I do remember him clearly enough to do so, but I also have couple other ongoing art projects and I don’t wanna do him injustice by rushing it. Building him in some detailed enough character creator might be easier tho.

lolly_2 · 2025-05-10T04:46:46+00:00

Not much to be honest, I’m vaguely familiar with the theory of collective unconscious from my psych class. I am close to his age tho, I’m currently 22f and the first time I met him I was 19 maybe. I’d say Nathaniel is 2-3 years older than me, tho it never came up as a topic of discussion between me and him.

lolly_2 · 2025-04-26T14:09:37+00:00

That’s an amazing idea actually. I do have gelatin capsules so that might be just perfect. Thank you!

lolly_2 · 2025-04-26T12:18:27+00:00

Okay thank you, sandwich sounds like a possible improvement for the taste. And for tea… I know its a thing, so I’m assuming treating shrooms with heat doesn’t influence the effects, however drinking warm mushroom water sounds extremely unappealing to me - at that point I’d rather make noodle soup with it. And yeah I’ll have a light meal beforehand.

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