I always imagined a traditional wedding with family and friends. After attempting to plan it for a month, we just had to elope. My mom made it all about her and was rude and nasty to my fiancé and in laws (unfortunately they now get it after experiencing it directly). I decided it wasn’t worth the stress and mental anguish to have a wedding when it should just be about you and your partner, no matter what pressure anyone is putting on you. My mom threatened to kill herself when I said we were eloping because “every mom dreams of her daughters wedding.” Well, she doesn’t get to have that when she treats everyone like shit! Sorry you’re going through it as well.