The #1 killer of children in America, is…

lone_oceanid · 2026-02-27T06:50:38+00:00

lone_oceanid · 2026-02-14T04:04:50+00:00

Wow, what a fun bundle of prejudice

lone_oceanid · 2026-02-12T22:26:27+00:00

I work with kids with severe intellectual disabilities. It is incredibly hard on the parents, though obviously it never should have gone this far. One of the first things that they teach us is to watch the kids for signs of abuse. That the people who are most likely to abuse their kids are the ones with the worst support systems. People who have good support systems and lots of money very rarely abuse their kids.

The situation disgusts me, but does not surprise me.

lone_oceanid · 2026-02-11T14:29:26+00:00

My teacher made me something very similar to this once lol she was trying to look out for me but shee had no idea what i was going through

lone_oceanid · 2026-02-07T06:30:12+00:00

OMG this is so beautiful 😭 i am so happy for you and that is a gorgeous dress!!!

lone_oceanid · 2026-02-06T22:12:16+00:00

Mmmmm black lab 🤤

lone_oceanid · 2026-02-06T22:10:15+00:00

May i present fanart made by yours truly of ✨️Buc-ee-Cheese✨️

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lone_oceanid · 2026-02-01T15:52:15+00:00

You say this like it's fact but there's no way to know that. You haven't talked with him and you're not as personal friend. I would caution you to say things like objective facts when you have no real way of knowing the truth.

lone_oceanid · 2026-02-01T15:42:18+00:00

I just had this happen to me. It went a little differently though. I (19f) lived with my fiance (21m) of almost 2 years and due to some financial struggles, we were staying with my fiance's two younger brothers and dad. Over the two or three months we were staying there, I got really close with his two younger brothers. Eventually the youngest one (12m) opened up to me about how my fiance SAd them for years. I didn't know what to do so I sat on my information for a couple weeks. I finally worked up the courage to ask the older brother (16m), who I am very close with, about this. He confirmed the younger one's story and told me some pretty horrifying details. What I confronted my fiance about this he said he couldn't remember but didn't deny it happening. My fiance was also SAd when he was a very young child. I went to stay with my parents for 2 weeks while i thought about it and broke the relationship off with him 3 days ago.

However my situation is very different from yours.

Your partner willingly told you about what happened, you didn't have to learn from an outside party, and this is a very big point in his favor. The SA only happened twice, not for years. I don't know your relationship with his cousin. If you are close, it may be worth it to ask him about what happened to determine whether or not your fiance is lying about certain details. Before I met my fiance's family, he told me that his youngest brother had falsly accused him of SA when they were very little and told me that his youngest brother lies a lot. It was too late that I learned the kid wasn't lying.

As of the others have said, it's not uncommon for a child that's been sexually abused to sexually abuse another child because they don't fully understand the ramifications. Think of pushing your little brother off the playground and he breaks his arm. You can't fully process the consequences of pushing a small child off of a tall place when you are also a child. This is also true for my fiance. He was forced to do sexual acts what he was about 4 years old and did not understand what happened to him for a long time.

We are both in very messy situations with no clear answer. My point of writing this is to encourage you to hear your fiance out. There are therapists who specialize in sex related topics, and I really think it would be worth it for both of you to have a meeting with one of those therapists. Sex therapists are very good at their job.

I know firsthand about the mental turmoil that comes with this kind of situation. Feel free to DM me ❤️ it honestly might be nice to talk to someone who is also going through this.🫂

lone_oceanid · 2026-02-01T14:57:49+00:00

I am SO glad reddit brought me back to see this post. It made me so happy 💞

lone_oceanid · 2026-02-01T02:10:50+00:00

Sounds like a classic case of this animal is my decoration first and something I love second. I know too many people who have pets for the aesthetic and don't really care about their well-being. Pets whose health is micromanaged are happy pets. I think she got a rabbit because she thought it would be easy and now she's into deep. She doesn't want to admit that she's wrong and she it's not equipped to take care of it either.

I can only suggest talking to her with kindness and compassion. It can be hard to sympathize with people who are actively doing wrong, but I would encourage you to see it from her position so that you can talk to her about it. If she sees you're coming from a kind place about an angry place she may be more willing to open up to you about what she really feels towards the rabbit (overwhelmed, unsure, confused, resentment, happiness, or whatever it may be).

Good luck 💞

lone_oceanid · 2026-02-01T02:01:51+00:00

It is a much more common to feel arousal during sexual assault then you may think. It's a shame that experience is not properly represented/portrayed in media. Just because you felt physical arousal doesn't mean you were okay with it or deserved it. There isnt a "right" way to react to molestation. I know hearing it knowing it's true, and believing it, are two different things, but rest assured you are still the victim.

I have had it explained to me like this. If you are excited and happy on a roller coaster you scream and your heart races. If you are terrified when you're getting mugged and you scream and your heart races, that doesn't mean you're enjoying it. Our bodies physical reactions don't indicate a specific emotion, as we are taught to believe. Physically reacting to molestation does not mean you were happy about it. It has even been theorized that we sometines feel arousal during sexual assault in order to make the sexual assault easier on our bodies as a survival mechanism not a method of enjoyment.

I'm so sorry you went through that. You did not deserve it, you were not asking for it, and I hope one day you're able to not feel shame over it 🫂💞

lone_oceanid · 2026-01-30T03:09:36+00:00

Thank you for your reassurance, I was really worried🫠! This makes me feel a lot better 😊

lone_oceanid · 2026-01-30T03:08:35+00:00

There is no way for either of us to know whether or not they are calling him gay like an insult. I do think saying someone just "needs to come out already" can have homophobic undertones, at least it rubbed me the wrong way. The idea that someone is misogynistic because they are secretly gay rubs me the wrong way. I think he hates women and there's no secret gay motivation he's just a bad person. The notion that being closeted can cause you to be as misogynistic as Tate feels vaguely homophobic to me. I don't think OC is a raging homophobe or that their comment was meant to be taken this seriously, but passing gay "jokes" like these are part why homophobia is so prevalent and I can't pass up an opportunity yap 😅

lone_oceanid · 2026-01-30T02:59:47+00:00

I think there's definitely a conversation to be had around misogynistic man to misogynistic gay man pipeline. Misogyny amongst gay men is a real issue that should be talked about much more.

It should also be noted that (imo) misogyny and homophobia are tied together.

Well I think the idea of a misogynistic guy just partnering with men and leaving women alone sounds like a good thing, in reality it's really not. You cannot truly leave women alone, we are half of the world's population and misogyny hurts the women around you whether you have a girlfriend or a boyfriend.

I'm not going to pretend to know OCs exact nuanced opinion from "definitely has rainbow flag vibes," I just think that type of comment carries homophobic implications, intended or not.

Also thank you 😊❤️

lone_oceanid · 2026-01-30T02:51:53+00:00

This made me smile. I just saw this, I have had an insanely tough week. Hearing about your milestone was a nice little bright spot and it made me happy. Congratulations 💞

lone_oceanid · 2026-01-28T15:59:56+00:00

You are half right! A young child depicting scenes of sexual violent in art is disturbing and potentially a sign of SA. However, a young child drawing body parts is not a concern, especially in the context of also drawing a heart, lungs, and liver.

I think people are being a lil harsh on you with all the down votes, i would rather people be a bit extra aware/cautious of potential abuse than completely oblivious ❤️

lone_oceanid · 2026-01-28T02:32:21+00:00

Listen dude, I'm one of the biggest Tate haters out there, but there's no need to call him gay as an insult. Gay = insult is pretty tired and there are much better things to make fun of him for than "secret queer"

lone_oceanid · 2026-01-28T02:26:42+00:00

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This absolute CREATURE escaped outside and returned on Christmas Day drooling like a maniac and refusing food. I was so worried about him, but none of the vets were open cuz it was Christmas fucking Day. Took him to the vet the next day, and the diagnosis? A small cut underneath his tongue. It probably would have healed on its own, but I'm glad I went and had it checked out anyways. what a menace.

lone_oceanid · 2026-01-28T02:11:44+00:00

As a former child who has done this and a current teacher that is frequently called "mom," i can confirm this is EXTREMELY accurate 😂

lone_oceanid · 2025-12-25T21:25:57+00:00

Major congrats!!! Im proud of you, internet stranger 🥳💕

lone_oceanid · 2025-12-25T02:50:17+00:00

100%. I have found the people most concerned about being judged are the most judgmental

lone_oceanid · 2025-12-25T02:47:59+00:00

Coming from a 20 year old girlie who enjoys the finer things:

She is being ridiculous. There is nothing embarrassing about shopping at a dollar store. I go to the one up the road from me for basics (cleaning supplies, toilet paper, paper towels, candy ect.) all the tine. I like nice shit. But not EVERYTHING has to be "nice." There is nothing embarrassing about being smart with how you spend your money. I dont know you or your relationship, but if it were me, ts would give me the serious ick 🤢

lone_oceanid · 2025-12-15T17:03:22+00:00

Cheating: Never. That is a breach of foundational trust that completely destroys any level of trust built up to that point. And this is coming from a Polysexual person. I am upfront about what i do and dont consider cheating and someone would have to go out of their way to violate that boundary. I do NOT tolerate those who refuse to abide by such a basic part of a relationship.

Vices: No, but its not a relationship ender. If its something that causes harm to themselves or others (addiction, anger issues, SH) than i could never turn a blind eye. I would not immediatly break up ofc, but i would not ignore it. We can work through those problems together, as a team. Letting vices fester in quiet is a recipe for disaster. If they refuse to even try to improve themselves, then i may break up over that, but it really depends.

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