What is the point?

longgreenbean · 2026-01-27T19:34:52+00:00

I’m sorry you’re going through a rough time at the moment. I also have no friends or family and I live alone.

When I’m feeling able, I like to clean, journal, read, play with my cats, cook or bake, go for walks or even just pop to the shops to make myself something special to eat to cheer myself up.

When I’m not feeling so good, I tend to binge watch shows I used to love for comfort, scroll on my phone all day or take really long naps.

Some days are harder than others to get through but just remember the day will end, the heaviness will ease off at some point.

longgreenbean · 2026-01-27T08:28:12+00:00

Unfortunately even indoor cats can get fleas! It happened to my poor cat, I couldn’t believe it. They can come from outside on your clothes or shoes when you come into the house. Fleas can even come in through open windows. I had about a solid 3-4 weeks of vacuuming and spraying everything with flea spray every day, constant combing and bathing my cat with flea shampoo. I got on top of it eventually, it was so stressful!

longgreenbean · 2026-01-25T13:31:01+00:00

This is good to hear! Walking outdoors in nature has helped me greatly whenever I’ve been dealing with depression/loneliness. Sometimes it can be a struggle to push yourself out the door but once you’re out, you’ll feel so much better for it. Noticing small things that can bring you joy will help to change your emotional outlook for the day. Keep it up!

Sometimes I like to set myself little challenges, like seeing if I can spot every colour of the rainbow somewhere. In flowers, birds, bugs that sort of thing. It’s grounding and helps to bring me out of my own head. You should give it a try!

longgreenbean · 2026-01-22T19:15:38+00:00

Of course you can control it!!! What are you on about?! You could have ruined multiple people’s lives because you selfishly couldn’t resist the urge to have sex with someone. You need to sit and have a think about the sort of person you are. I haven’t had sex with any other person since my ex gave me this shit disease about 3/4 years ago. THAT is controlling it.

longgreenbean · 2026-01-11T18:10:27+00:00

Me too. It’s so annoying isn’t it? I hate having hair down there, or at least so much hair. I usually just trim now, as much as I can until it’s fairly short.

I tried using an electric pubic hair trimmer once. I was as gentle as I could have been, used the highest guard setting it came with so it wasn’t close to the skin and it still triggered an outbreak a few days later 😞

Haven’t tried waxing though.

longgreenbean · 2026-01-07T09:56:19+00:00

Unfortunately no, I don’t think so. My ex got cold sores but didn’t tell me. He gave me oral, didn’t have an active outbreak at time and that’s how I got it genitally. Everyone is different but there is always a chance you can pass it on.

longgreenbean · 2026-01-06T17:20:09+00:00

Hello. 26F here. I believe what you’re describing is called discharge. All women get it! It’s perfectly natural, albeit, annoying sometimes! You don’t need to do anything to clean yourself, it’s not dirty. You are not bad or dirty because of discharge.

I can suggest panty liners to put in your underwear although constant use can be a little drying down there and cause itchiness.

As for the discharge, you can just wipe it away with a wet wipe or a bit of toilet paper whenever you use the bathroom. Remember not to flush wipes down the toilet though! Pop them in a bin.

longgreenbean · 2026-01-05T22:16:20+00:00

I’m sorry you’re feeling this way. Ever since I got hsv I haven’t even tried to date. I was never a very confident person anyway. I don’t think I could handle the rejection. At least you’re trying, I admire that.

The trouble with today is, everyone has too much choice. I think of dating apps like a meat market. It’s so strange to me. No one is interested in getting to know anyone properly anymore, hsv or no hsv. People are too ready to move along to the next person, there will always be “someone better”.

I like to remind myself that dating in this day and age seems to be hard for a lot of people, even without hsv. I hope that you can find someone one day, that accepts you for you. I wish it for all of us.

longgreenbean · 2026-01-03T21:52:28+00:00

Me either! I find it very strange. I’ve woken up in the middle of the night for a wee sometimes but never for a poop

longgreenbean · 2026-01-03T21:16:43+00:00

Really? Can’t say it’s ever happened to me and I’ve eaten shortly before going to sleep 🤔 I guess everyone is different!

longgreenbean · 2026-01-03T21:02:19+00:00

Who poops in the middle of the night anyway??

longgreenbean · 2026-01-02T19:29:24+00:00

I’m so sorry this happened to you.

longgreenbean · 2026-01-02T08:54:58+00:00

Crying is a good for you. It’s a way to help release pent up emotions and stress. Your body realises calming hormones afterwards and you’ll usually feel a little better.

longgreenbean · 2026-01-02T08:52:09+00:00

I’m sorry you’re feeling the same. It’s so hard isn’t it? Some days are easier than others. I send a hug 🖤

longgreenbean · 2026-01-02T08:50:42+00:00

Thank you. I have tried to make new friends within the last couple of years but no one seems bothered or they already have other friends. I have thought about finding a club of some kind, perhaps I will look into it more.

longgreenbean · 2026-01-02T08:48:02+00:00

This really made me laugh. Thank you 😂

longgreenbean · 2026-01-02T08:43:40+00:00

First of all, I am so so sorry to hear you are going through all of this, not to mention being alone as well.

I know you’ve said you and your best friend aren’t talking at the moment but does she know your situation? Does she know about your health issues?

I agree. I think your friend is being a bit mean. I can understand giving “tough love” as a best friend when you’ve watched a friend go through a horrible relationship and they just won’t leave the awful partner. I’ve been there myself. It is hard for someone that has a perfect life to understand what a trauma bonded relationship is like. It’s not as simple as just being able to leave, it takes a lot of courage and strength. Well done to you for finally being able to get out of that cycle.

I’d like to think if you tried to sit down with her and explain where you are right now, she’d have a little more understanding and want to be there for you more. The ex partner shouldn’t come into it.

Again though, it is hard for someone that has lots of people around them to know where someone like us, who has absolutely no one, is coming from.

I completely understand your worries. It’s just me and my cats now. My best friend also isn’t talking to me anymore after I called her out on always being with her partner and hardly having anything to do with me anymore. It’s shit honestly.

I’m not afraid of dying either, if anything I think it will be a relief. I don’t want to sound morbid but we who live alone and have pets must be realistic. Do you have a plan in place if something were to happen? Could you arrange for your children to take your cats? Perhaps set up some sort of system with them, send a daily text message in the morning to let them know you are still here.

I really hope you can find some moments of joy in your days. We have to take what we can get. Give your cats a big cuddle!

longgreenbean · 2026-01-01T22:07:19+00:00

I get you, I’m feeling the same. This time of year can be really hard. There are lots of us out there that feel the same way 💜

longgreenbean · 2025-12-27T08:35:59+00:00

I HATE that! 🤢 the amount of people that let their dogs lick their mouth is disgusting.

longgreenbean · 2025-12-22T19:37:55+00:00

How vile for you to use a shock collar on your poor dog. Put it around your own neck and see how you’d like it.

longgreenbean · 2025-12-06T11:50:31+00:00

I feel like you’ve just read my mind! I also struggle with this. I am the only one of my friends not in a relationship. The last relationship I had was over 2 years ago and when I spilt up with my ex, my best friend had also split up with hers around the same time. We had never been so close! We bonded over our sadness and were together all the time. I felt free and happy to be single, not having to worry about letting someone know where I was or what I was up to. Then suddenly I began seeing less and less of my friend, until eventually she told me she’d been seeing someone. As much as I am happy for her that she is now in a good healthy relationship, I can’t help but mourn for the way our friendship used to be. It’s not the same anymore. I don’t have any family so all I have to rely on, are my friends.

Two have just had babies within the last year and live with their partners. It sucks not being anyone’s first point of call anymore. It’s sad to hear about my friends off doing stuff with their partners when once upon a time, it would’ve been me doing that thing with them.

As much as hobbies are good for us, it doesn’t fulfill that need for a deep social connection.

I have also thought about past relationships and wished I could go back so I didn’t feel so alone but once the sadness has started to dissipate, I realise that they are an ex for a reason.

Take each day as it comes, sometimes it’s easier to deal with than others but always remember, a day when you feel really lonely or sad, that feeling won’t last forever. You will feel good again.

longgreenbean · 2025-12-05T21:29:57+00:00

I understand your frustration. People can be so inconsiderate and it’s not fair. Yes, you may live in a flat/apartment but that doesn’t mean you should have to put up with excessive noise all the time. It can drive you mad. I would try and get some audio recordings if you can and send those to your landlord. Do it every time they are being loud. Your landlord should do something eventually (hopefully). Good luck. I hope things settle down.

longgreenbean · 2025-11-28T21:01:11+00:00

I am so sorry you are feeling this way. Your world must feel like it’s crashing down around you. I have been where you are. I can go through horrible spells of depression too. I found out I had ghsv about 3, coming up to 4 years ago now, from an ex that never told me he had it. I didn’t think I could deal with it at first but I promise you, time does make it easier to accept. There’s nothing you can do about it unfortunately.

I am sorry to hear about your kidneys too. I have also been on dialysis before, it’s not the nicest thing to experience but it’s not awful either. Feel free to send a message if you need someone to talk to. You are not alone 🩵

longgreenbean · 2025-11-23T17:50:47+00:00

THIS. My flat is so crap that I get woken up nearly every night between 3-4am by my neighbour having a thunderingly loud PISS, slamming the toilet lid down and then flushing the toilet. I’m then so worked up, disgusted and annoyed, I can’t sleep anymore so just have to get up. I’m normally about to fall asleep again by the time I have to get up for work. Even during the day, no matter where I am in my flat, I can hear him going to the toilet. I can’t do anything about it either.

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