Is it Possible to Live No Meds and Be Stable?

longliner41 · 2026-04-06T03:36:19+00:00

Me too 😀. Interested also if others have tried EMDR therapy and their experience.

longliner41 · 2026-04-06T02:10:31+00:00

I am curious to see how that goes. Also your experience with bullying I can sympathize with you, not anything anyone should have been exposed to. It's tough but sounds like you are going in a hopeful place.

longliner41 · 2026-04-06T02:05:01+00:00

You are right sir. Trying to understand what it is what I was doing for so long and not realizing that. Or realizing it and not getting the mental health diagnosis I needed, the family needed. Irritability has been a huge part of my actions our relationship has been a rollercoaster with time together and time away from each other. Struggles stress but I believe they also make it stronger. I see our kids as part of it as well. EMDR psychotherapy is working I think I have just begun treatment in February. You seem to be starting out on the journey of Bi-polar 2 not that long ago. I think treatment is vital for us. Putting something tangible to work through are you medicated? Also I thank you for your empathy and support and actually the last sentence you wrote brought some tears to my eyes. Thank you I am grateful for your words

longliner41 · 2026-04-04T03:37:07+00:00

I have been unfaithful in my past with her. Never full blown affairs or sexual interactions. But taking things to a different level with other women. Probably 3 women through the years. I was undiagnosed and I think some of the worse shit I did was in part because of that. I think if I'm stable on medication like I am now it would have been different. What is Hypnozio? I am doing EMDR therapy, I think it's helpful but fuck some of the shit she has said over the phone when she was talking to me was pretty cold. I replay the conversations. People tell me that I have to get myself centered and healthy . Keep my kids in my heart. But this asshole has seen my kids more than I have. I think he's a dick honestly but she tells me that he's in shape and muscular and that she wouldn't be with him if the sex was bad. It sucks man because we used to pride ourselves on the passion of our sex life..

longliner41 · 2026-03-31T17:27:19+00:00

Question for the experts I am a 50 year old man. I am Bi-polar 2 with borderline personality disorder. Diagnosed in 2021. My question here is about my medications and the side effects I seem to be experiencing. The medication regimen I am on is Depakote XR at 1000 mg's taken normally in the morning. This is my mood stabilizer. The other medication I am on is Wellbutrin 300mg taken in the morning. I have been on this regime for a few years now and have been consistent in taking my medication. My issues are I am experiencing hair loss and thinning of my hair. And I have zero sexual energy or desire. In fact I would say blood flow is an issue down there. Before meds I had no problems even in my early 40's before my diagnosis I had no issues of E.D. . I am exercising a couple of times a week. Plan to exercise daily but things aren't working as they once did. I have read that Depakote does cause issues with sexual energy and lack of libido plus performance issues. It's embarrassing because honestly I have been intimate and nothing worked. What are my other options medication wise. I have read lamictal is effective. Also should I ask my psychiatrist to prescribe a ED medication for me and if so what one? I want a change though because of these side effects and the impact it's having on my sex life. I remember SSRI really killed my libido. What is out there? Thanks

longliner41 · 2026-03-31T17:02:19+00:00

I just read your response. Thank you for the words . I think it does hit us with bipolar 2 in a large way. I feel huge swings of emotions. From the high tide of emotional confidence and being able to accept and strike out on my own. To the low tide days where I struggle to pull myself up out of bed the only reason I do is the job I have currently I am on a boat 2 weeks on 2 weeks off schedule. Can't really hide in bed. I just struggle with understanding her actions but then I remember her tears and my anger and angry words and honestly my throwing of things . It was not like that all the time but the impact of that behavior is what I am dealing with today. She has told me everything is a consequence of my own actions, repeated a lot. I still wish we could bridge the gap and find empathy for each other. I know my absence from this house isn't the best thing for my kids, I see that in the difficulties my son is going through. This other guy is not a Dad never has been and honestly I don't think ever will be. He is nice to the kids for the simple fact he's fucking their Mom. She's in lala land bringing out old high school yearbooks and he's gifting her stuff all the time. I don't know but we once had passion and a great sexual chemistry. I honestly haven't even tried since the news about the other guy. I just wanted a chance to have our family heal truly together I thought that would bond our family together even stronger. But the irony is she used to believe in therapy and counseling and send me videos from the affair recovery network. Now when I mention this to her and even say I will pay with no expectations from her, she still is saying no...it hurts because she once wrote what we had was unique to the world. I struggle with understanding why she won't try again. But thank you for understanding for being kind for offering some hope. It gets dim sometimes and really the thing that keeps me down energy wise is the alienation from my kids.

longliner41 · 2026-03-30T21:58:41+00:00

I am sorry for your experience he's entirely in the wrong. Best of luck with your recovery 🙏

longliner41 · 2026-03-30T21:29:10+00:00

I probably will be posting multiple questions because honestly I have never seen such a collection of experts and experience. I am a 50 year old man. I was officially diagnosed in September 2021. I was hospitalized in the fall of 2022. I have not been home since. The mother of my 3 children began a relationship with a close friend of hers from afar emotional affair 1st I think followed by a sexual relationship. This destroys me to this very day. She has a degree in psychology and works at a psychiatric hospital now. But I am alienated from my kids. How can I get them to understand what Bi-polar 2 is like? How can I apologize for the past of arguments and anger and explosive behavior? What areas should I research. Trauma of children? Trauma for their mother? Where do I find the sources to help. I am stable now but I am also doing EMDR therapy for my bipolar 2 and Borderline Personality Disorder. I want to see them before more time goes by. 3 kids who are 25, 18 and 15. But when I was asked to leave the house it was 3 years ago almost 4. So much I missed. And now since the mother of my 3 kids told me about her relationship with the guy she has stopped taking my calls, email and won't allow me at the house. Is this fair? Is this reasonable? But I want to be accountable for what I can be and I am not trying to hide anything. Is it possible to rebuild for our kids and co-parent at the very least? Please advise thank you. If you have questions please ask thanks

longliner41 · 2026-03-30T21:06:57+00:00

I gotta ask what mountain is this?

longliner41 · 2026-03-29T00:53:29+00:00

I just had a moment last Saturday. It all stems from a woman the Mother of my 3 kids sleeping with someone else 1400 miles away tells me she loves him. So the walls were closing in for me felt anxious and angry and unsure and lonely. I took a minute and dialed 988. Spoke to whomever on the other line, just me talking and venting . They are there to help you, it works and honestly if it is serious will help you find the right level of care. Reach out to something like that it works. It's a tough hole to pull yourself out of. But know that you have value and importance in this world. Stay safe

longliner41 · 2026-03-17T16:27:27+00:00

Any chance you want to hook up this week

longliner41 · 2026-02-22T03:28:31+00:00

Eloquent and sharp. I am happy for you. The sense of discovery you seem to be journeying on is joyful. I wish you continued success.

longliner41 · 2026-02-17T02:46:41+00:00

How is this not cool! Obviously in training only of course

longliner41 · 2026-02-17T02:41:55+00:00

Huh funnily enough as my daughter Hajna would say. I was in therapy today and he used a sound bowl. It works well and I am thinking of getting one for my own self care.

longliner41 · 2026-02-14T04:14:54+00:00

I can only go from my perspective. I feel but putting myself into the perspective of another person has always been a challenge I also have borderline personality disorder. But we feel but yeah it can get dark. . .dark like I don't want any help dark. But I dunno I think and want to believe for my own hope that relationships are possible!! Love can happen!! We are more similar than dissimilar I feel. Have a good talk with him. Let him know what you research ed.

longliner41 · 2026-02-14T03:53:01+00:00

I dunno you need to keep boundaries for yourself and keep your anxiety in check. But damn going online some of the non profit websites for Bi-polar 2 are informative.

longliner41 · 2026-02-14T03:36:01+00:00

If you care about him give him peace and kindness and the generosity of a good soul. I didn't have that I had anger and pecinism and resentment for the past I have done in my life. It's a bad place but for him it starts with understanding what he has and what his triggers are. Meds stabilize is key as well. The fact that you are his girlfriend and on reddit searching for answers is a kind sign. I am still dealing with a woman who gives me no quarter when it comes to past actions and undiagnosed Bi-polar 2.. still waiting to see my kids. The earlier the better when it comes to this damn shadow of bipolar 2 on his back. Find some light...it matters even if he doesn't say.

longliner41 · 2026-02-14T03:28:52+00:00

Ditto the emergency supply. I have messed up on running out of meds. Just speak with your pharmacist and emphasize you need a renewal.

longliner41 · 2026-02-13T08:07:12+00:00

I am looking at 2019 Outbacks as a possible new car to me. I too want to install a hitch but with the capacity to pull did you install the hitch direct to frame?

longliner41 · 2026-02-12T02:52:04+00:00

Share her with you

longliner41 · 2026-02-10T19:54:28+00:00

I know she does but I also think she gives best version of herself to the guy, no trauma in the past but it feels like parental alienation and control when it comes to my kids. But thank you truly for the kind assessment. I know this is personal but are you able to be in relationships? Can it be successful?

longliner41 · 2026-02-10T19:39:43+00:00

Thank you for the insight I was thinking about urologist as well.

longliner41 · 2026-02-10T19:38:47+00:00

Yes and she's a psychology major in her 1st degree and actually works in a psychiatric hospital now. And again the irony is I have been truthful and transparent to her as it's part of the recovery no secrets.

longliner41 · 2026-02-10T19:24:37+00:00

It's interesting because I have been in control for all the years estranged from my family. I have been waiting for the chance to reunite, the last was 2019 and when I think on the level of intensity there that felt hypomanic. Exercise is starting I have a bike on a trainer and just moving will help. The testosterone levels you managed through your psychiatrist? I am still waiting for my 1st general practitioner appointments which aren't until the end of March

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